We've got newbies to cheer us on, the February Warm-Up is complete, after waiting nine long months it's only bloody time for March Madness! Welcome to JS thread no. 46!

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 46th grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The 45th grads thread is HERE

The thread we have graduated from is HERE in its 59th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread HERE
for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

HERE is the stats list, please update your own spot with any updates. I really hope that worked!

Eeeeeeeee! I hope everything goes smoothly for you.

Sock the crib sounds lovely if you can do it up.

Fuzzy sorry to hear about cat, hugs.

DH and I never discussed names with anyone, mainly because when our best friends told us a name they were thinking of for their DS both DH and their BIL said they didn't like it and it was a dog's name! They did go for it in the end anyway but I am sure the negative comments were a part of the reason they didn't register his name until almost too late!

I have got over my panic now, I have spoken to the midwife team so they get me on the booking in list and they will refer me for an early scan. I have also booked a private early scan at 7 weeks in case I don't get one on the NHS.

In other news dpony KNOWS - she is being really sweet with me.

Thanks everyone for the support about DCat and I appear to have underestimated her survival skills. She is back home and whilst poorly, we are all very optimistic she will make somewhat of a recovery - the vet says she has never seen a cat have what she believes DCat has unless it also has FIV and/or FeLV (she has neither), because she has managed to get parasites attached to her red blood cells. It sounds horrible but is far, far better than liver failure which is what we were told to expect the blood tests would show.

It feels like lots of babies have arrived since I joined the thread and I hope they are all doing well.

Glad you are getting an early scan Cats and that dpony is being so sweet with you. I am certain animals do sense these things.

Had a funny phone conversation with my mum earlier when she couldn't get her head around why I'd booked an early scan. Um because I'm crazy, mother?

I haven't heard anything from the midwives yet and a bit perplexed as referred myself about 10 days ago. May chase them up this week.

I was wondering how the pony was, cats. Did you have any success with your new jockey?

Peenut It was and wasn't quick... birth story:

I went up for monitoring at around 6pm on Sunday evening, I'd had fewer movements and contractions every 7 minutes on Sunday afternoon. Nearly got booted home after a trace was done until the midwife checked my cervix and it was at 3cm, so at that point we were told to grab something to ear and come back in about an hour. Went to Maccy D's, got a glamorous Easter Sunday dinner with contractions 5 minutes apart but manageable. Came back to triage and shift had changed, new midwife very much left us to our own devices and things did ramp up quite a bit. I was feeling everything in my lower back - very painful but not entirely unexpected because I tend to feel bad period pain as a kick in the kidneys.

Finally had another cervical check done at 3am, was apparently still 3cm but my husband thinks the midwife was lying about that one. Pain ramped up quite severely in the next few hours - some oral painkiller around 3:30 which got puked up within two contractions, diamorphine and gas and air at around 5-5:30. Waters broke around 5 as well. Did my best to get through the next few hours with the gas and air and dozey opiate snooze between them. Had been told there would be another cervical check at 7, wasn't done until nearly 8... "OH SHIT 9cm we need to go to birth centre RIGHT NOW" I was bundled onto a wheelchair, a sheet thrown over my legs and they ran with me from triage to birth centre - didn't even have time to put my pyjama pants back on! Pretty much straight into delivery mode when we got to the birth centre room just after 8, tried all fours with pillows before being moved to a birthing stool, leaning back on DH and with my feet on the midwife's knees for leverage. Little dude made his entrance at 8:58am Easter Monday @ 41+1, he was a little on the blue side at first but perked up quickly. Weight was 3.39kg, he was 50cm long, a little smaller than we expected! Net damage? Two small first degree tears, no stitches. Baby was a little slow to feed but has improved greatly since then.

Great birth story tri! 💖 well done and congratulations 🎊🎉🐣🌸🐰

Congratulations Tri, he's a beauty and that's a great story. Sounds like you coped really well.
Glad DCat is recovering Fuzzy. Gx for a long life, despite the unusual condition.
It would be a shame to have twins and not put them in cute matching outfits/ costumes Mer!
These antique cribs sound lovely. Little Green Sheep do custom mattresses, they aren't cheap but they are all natural.
My bump has got really heavy this week. I'm not sure if it's dropping or just a result of eating all the food on my minibreak. DH's fault, he booked a hotel above a chocolate shop!

Glad he was out safely and you didn't need stitches. Hope you are both recovering well Tri.

Thanks fruit Gx too!

Congrats tri!!

Congrats tri! Sounds like a pretty good birthday and glad your fanjo is OK!
pee loved that article! fuzzy thanks for the hand holding, glad someone else isn't vomming everywhere! I have to say I don't feel quite right, but hard to explain how... Spent quite a while yesterday trying to feel my uterus, even though I KNOW it doesn't come out of your pelvis until 12 weeks... Eeeeee.
Think problem is last time with MC I started spotting at 9w6d so I am spending all this week on pantwatch again....9+2 now. Gx for no bleeding and a live bean!

Stupid autocorrect, obviously I meant birth not birthday...

Well done Tri! I love that you managed to squeeze in a Maccy Ds to the birthing experience! And that sounds like 0 to 100mph being whisked, semi naked into the delivery room! Hope you are both recovering well and enjoying each other .

It's been another birthing extravaganza this month ... I'm doing a celebratory dance for the loss of your mucus plug 5hell! Oh and I had to google it! Hoo-urgh! My friend called last night to say she'd just lost hersafter our dog walk. Hooray!

Try not to stress Corgi, and a bit of first trimester boob/uterus poking for signs of change is to be expected (gentle HOOYAH though!) Fingers crossed all is absolutely as it should be!

Glad DCat is on the mend Fuzzy! Pet illness is stressful!

I sooooo need to see these Star Trek outfits Mermaid!! Oh the fun you will have!

Good advice about name reveals from everyone. Nobody can say anything when I introduce our baby with his or her name. Sod them.

I feel like a delicate flower today. Like if my tea bag is difficult to squeeze or I need a wee for too long I'll weep. Mostly due to stupid midnight discussion me and DH had last night. I've said on here before that he is finding impending fatherhood terrifying. So he still is, and I've kind of come to terms with that and am trying to find ways to include him/be supportive/not scream, you selfish nob –I thought this was all about me! (I accept it isn't but would be nice if it was slightly about me not him.)

Anyway, he just isn't very tactful ... I thought we'd made some progress and then last night after him saying, in bed while drifting off to sleep, that he is stressed and just doesn't feel excited about the baby I lost it a bit and just started hysterically crying. It just made me feel so shit that he keeps dumping stuff like that on me, if he tarted it up with a bit of 'I just want things to be OK' before saying he isn't feeling excited because of x, y, z. I would have been able to chat with him, but it's just so horrible thinking he feels shit about something so amazing. He has the tact of a sledgehammer, I have told him so today. I know he's not pregnant so has no mothering hormones floating around to help him but I wish he'd help himself a bit. Read something, talk to a friend.

Oh, and just had a stupendously pointless midwife appointment where I was given somebody else's blood test results by the scatty midwife I've seen once before, last time she thought I was two moths more pregnant than I was and kept calling me by the wrong name.

I'd been hoping she'd listen for the heartbeat, so I'd hear it too but I was in there for about five minutes. Not sure why! Thinking I might change doctors and see if I get better midwife consistency, I've not seen the same one more than twice. (And it was the one I hoped I wouldn't see again!)

Roll on aqua-natal tonight, I'm sure I'll feel better after an endorphins exercise* hit.

*I use the word exercise in its loosest possible sense, it's basically just floating around chatting to other pregnant people.

Sorry ... rant over!

PEE. I don't have good advice, but have all the unmumsnetty hugs. I really feel for you. It's hard enough feeling hormonal, massive and preparing yourself for a huge life changing event with the support of those around you - but must be so much harder when you feel as though you're carrying the load for someone else too.

Sounds as though he's going through something of a pre-baby meltdown and letting feelings of anxiety cloud his excitement. It's also really easy to confuse excitement and anxiety - so don't waste any tears believing he's a complete cold fish about it.

What he should not be doing is freewheeling his unchecked anxieties onto YOU. You're clearly a far, far nicer, calmer person than I am - I would be really hurt (read: GO FAHHHKING BALLISTIC) if my DH - even inadvertently - pissed on my pregnancy parade. Do you think you're getting through to him?

Your midwife sounds pretty shit - standard. Mine's absolutely awful. I much prefer the cover midwife who is an older, very sensible Australian lady. 'My' midwife is a bloody idiot - cripes, if she turned up at the hospital when I was giving birth I think I'd do a runner. You're not as far along as me so might be worth checking out a different surgery? (and logging a complaint with regards your treatment).

Just had the most awful, awful news. My BF lost her IVF conceived baby when she was 18 weeks pregnant back in September. She had another embryo transfer back in late Jan/Feb. I've been trying to back off/not ask her about it too much (at her request).....just got a message to say her 12 week scan showed no heartbeat. I'm heartbroken for her. I don't know how much crap one person can take. She's been trying for over two years.

pee I bought DH this when we found out I was expecting...its broken down into months with bits about the baby growing, the mum's experience and what a dad can expect to help with/do during pregnancy. It's quite amusing but informative at the same time. I let DH read it at his own pace without interference...

pee is it possible he has depression or anxiety? Would he speak to your GP? Do you have any other close family you can lean on? have some grape juice in a wine glass...

feathered that is truly shit. Life can be so unfair! I know it probably isn't the right time but I just wanted to say that adoption is a wonderful alternative and it is the most amazing gift for children who truly need a stable loving home. My DSD is adopted and I can't imagine our family without her. I can't bear the thought of what her life would be like if DP and XGF had been able to have children and hadn't adopted her. If we decide to have more children we will likely adopt as it is just as special and it means a deserving child gets a second chance at a stable home life. Being a parent is being a parent no matter who carried the child. The bond is the same.

Thanks guys! So I'm not just being sensitive? Didn't think so!!!

To say he is pissing on my pregnancy parade is very accurate! And I do think there's something going on I maybe can't help with Sky. We've been together 15 years and I've watching him go through some periods of what I think is depression/anxiety or something. He says he doesn't want to upset me but how can he not think he would saying things like this? Bah, tomorrow is another day and when I've had some kip I might be able to think of what to do for the best.

We do have that book Mermaid! It's gathering dust by the side of the bed, I'll try and thrust it in his face/best him abut the head with if later!!

Going to look into swapping surgeries, might ring around and make a few enquiries.

So sorry about your friend Feathered! How awful - I hope she gets there somehow, some way though

I feel better for venting to you lot, thanks .

Oh feathered so sorry to hear your friends news, that must be really shit for everyone (obvs especially them)

pee oh dear! Def not you being sensitive, I think he got away with that little outburst lightly!! I think I'd have gone into nuclear pregnant meltdown, with all of the tears and snot and hysterics.. It's not really fair to be so negative about everything when you need his support. My dp has been much better since starting to listen to the 'beardy dads' podcast- if he's not reading his book it might be worth a listen?
Or yes, whack him about the head with the book!
Jealous of your Aqua natal! I can't find one that's on at a time I'm free would love to splish about!

5hell have you done a baby yet?!

Shedding a tear here for your friend feathered my heart really goes out to her and her dh. Did they do any tests last time? A distant relative of mine had no trouble conceiving but lost about 6 pregnancies on the trot, turned out to be a folic acid definilciency in her that was easy though long winded to fix. If you want me to dig out what tests they did on me after mc let me know.

pee sounds like he needs counseling, or maybe you could do couples counseling. Might be worth a chat to GP --and throw in how shit the me is at the same time.

Requesting permission to board, dearest upduffed jsers!

Some of you viroids know me from the JS thread - I was given honorary membership as I was not able to fulfill some of the fred rules - especially those around shagging as I am a single lady, originally trying IUI and now have moved on to IVF.

I got my BFP last week, am now 5 + 5 (although I am still trying to get my head around how that is calculated - I actually know date of conception!), still in shock and I may still POAS every now and again for reassurance
My first scan is booked for 11 April. I am trying to keep PMA and not think about all the risks... nor the fact I am going it alone (although with some of your DH stories I may be on to a good thing!).

Feathered am very sad to hear about your friend. How awful.

WHAT THE HELL IS A MUCUS PLUG??????????????????

pee et al these are the geeky babygrows we're thinking about getting....

Oh Peenut lots of hugs and it definitely isn't you being sensitive in the Fuzzy household the baby might well be born to a murder of a mother if DH tried that on.

Feathered you poor friend. How awful for her.

Hello Kwick and great to see you here ttc exhausted us so there is no shagging going on here either, so you are not alone. A mucus plug seals your cervix (I think) and comes out when your waters break or you go into/about to go into labour.

kwick squeeeee I'm so pleased for you! Plenty of us here to hold your hands, and the recent flurry of bfps means you aren't alone with the worrying! Luckily for you us lot who are further on can reassure you how normal the lack of symptoms or serious vomming is!

Pee I'm sorry your DP is being daft, they are sometimes so idiotic and lacking in tact. You aren't being silly at all.

Feathered so sorry to hear about your friends, that is so sad. My BF went through 9 years of TTC, ivf, MCs, all sorts, it was horrific. In the end they conceived naturally and their baby was born this year. I still have no idea how they coped.

Canters dpony bucked off the very little inexperienced child one too many times. The whole family was very sweet though and the mum wants to feed her up and get her more experience so they can have dpony in the future! So at the moment its all down to me, I'm riding twice a week and a friend borrows her occasionally so its quite nice for now. I'll have to advertise her for full loan when I get too heavy, it was at about 5 months with DS so I've got time.

Please talk to me about no symptoms as well lil. I have a small amount of intermittent cramping and stretching symptoms, plus I am a bit more tired than normal which could be put down to also having insomnia at night but otherwise I don't have anything to suggest I am pregnant. I don't feel sick, my mild heartburn has gone, instead of being hungry I have no appetite and my breasts aren't even tender after I whack them to try and pretend they are! I know I need to go for an early scan to reassure me, but I am being silly and scared about it.

Hi Kwick! Lovely to see you over here :)

Glad your cat seems better than expected Fuzzy*. Give your EPAU a call - a month is a long time to be upset and wondering.

Really sorry to hear about your friends, Feathered, life is really cruel sometimes.

Pee - definitely not an overreaction. We had that book too, much better than any of the girly ones, it's pretty funny :)

fuzzy I honestly has bugger all symptoms. Had a few cramps, felt occasionally nauseaus but not like I was going to be sick. Was only sick once after eating way too much, wasn't more hungry, wasn't peeing any more than usual, basically didn't feel in any way shape or form pregnant. Only real symptom i had was being dog tired by mid pm. 29weeks now and the only symptom I have of being pregnant is the mini human moving around inside me! I don't really pee that much more than I used to, have had a tiny bit of heartburn for a couple of days but nothing to write home about. Bit of occasional back ache and I do now have to get up to pee once a night. 5 scans so far and there's definitely a baby in there! No symptoms means nothing more than all the symptoms, except that we're the lucky ones!!!