September 2016 (Thread 2) Booking in and 12 weeks scans soon!

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Onto thread two already!

I think this is everyone who was already on the list, but feel free to add yourself if I have anything wrong.

Fifi10 DC1 EDD 27/08/16 Midlands
prettyflowers111 DC2(?) EDD 28/08/16
OTheHugeManatee DC1 EDD 28/08/16
SKE2016 DC1 EDD 28/08/16
icklekid DC2 EDD 29/08/16
genome DC3 EDD 30/08/16 South Manchester
Purplypinkstar DC4 EDD 30/08/16
VeeTea DC1 EDD 30/08/16
foxessocks DC2 EDD 31/08/16 (?)
JessieMcJessie DC1 EDD 31/08/16 (ish)
TheMasterMurderedMargarita DC2 EDD 31/08/16 (ish)
fruityb DC? EDD Early September
Errrnerrr DC2 EDD Early September
sparklystars20 DC1 EDD 01/09/16
mummabear88 DC2 EDD 01/09/16
pa55methecake DC1 EDD 01/09/16 (ish)
balalalala DC1 EDD 02/09/16
LetThereBeCupcakes DC2 EDD 02/09/16
sophied1983 DC1 EDD 02/09/16
MrsS182 DC? EDD 02/09/16
peardrop2 DC2 EDD 03/09/16
wineandcheeseplease DC1 EDD 03/09/16
Kitkatmonster DC3 EDD 03/09/16 Birmingham
kimblesj DC4 EDD 04/09/16
MargaretCabbage DC2(?) EDD 04/09/16
MillieMoodle DC2 EDD 05/09/16
Newtothevillage DC1 EDD 5/09/16 - Herts
ohanami DC2 EDD 06/09/16
Nevlet DC1 (?) EDD 06/09/16
sarahanne4 DC1 EDD 06/09/16
rosetintedspectacles DC1 EDD 06/09/16
eskimoflo DC1 EDD 06/09/16
Hurr1cane DC2 EDD 07/09/16
weplusthree DC3 EDD 08/09/16
Butterflies100 DC1 EDd 08/09/16 - Staffordshire
chocolateteacup DC3 EDD 08/09/16
Sausage2229 DC1 EDD 08/09/16
Thethingidontfancy DC2 EDD 08/09/2016 - SW London
globetrotter2016 DC1 EDD 09/09/16
Hedgehog DC2 EDD 09/09/16
SewSlapdash DC2 EDD 09/09/16
Pawpatroller DC3 09/09/16
Runningbutnotscared DC2 EDD 10/09/16
nailsathome DC3 EDD 11/09/16
BubbaNo1 DC1 11/09/16
DrWhy DC1 12/09/16
Bananamonkey DC1 15/09/16 Norfolk
Oxlady DC2 16/09/16 Cheshire
SpacePOODLE DC1 17/09/16 SE London
CatFaceCrayola DC2 19/09/16 Preston
FantasticMax DC2 19/09/16
Zeeka DC3 20/09/16
mrsmumb DC2 20/09/16 Cheshire
Unreliablepat DC2, EDD 21/9/16, Berkshire
Lilliana DC2 22/09/16 Devon
Sproutingbean DC2 22/09/16
JayBeanie DC1? 23/09/16
ThatsNotEvenAWord DC2 23/09/16 Swindon
Cherryberry1 DC2 25/09/2016 Greater Manchester
Frazzle DC3 EDD 26/09/2016 SW London
Moonrisekingdom DC2 28/09/16 South Yorkshire
GuessHowMuch DC2 EDD ???
mistletoeprickles DC? EDD ???
racywhite83 DC2 EDD ???
heartshapedsunglasses DC1 EDD ???
Butterflies100 DC1 EDD ???
Mrsmumb DC2 EDD ???
ChillthefXXckout DC1 EDD???
Cl4re124 DC3 EDD 26/08/16

Crepe, thank you, there have been some truly wonderful and supportive posts from many of you yesterday and today. You are a lovely bunch and I am saddened that I'm no longer a part of the group

Frazzle I will pm you but I don't think I can do it on the app

Yeah, not sure you can. I use the browser on my phone, or my laptop. Just shout whenever you're ready x

Hope everyone is doing ok today. My nausea is finally easing, I'm 14 weeks +5 so just wanted to encourage anyone still feeling awful that the end could be in sight (though I recognise I'm lucky, how some people cope with it for the duration of pregnancy I don't know).

I don't feel hungry but feeling much less sick and eating more. I must be getting better, managed to eat a few segments of a choc orange given on Mother's Day

12 week scan this morning. All well, but one of the most upsetting experiences ever.

Basically, you cant bring kids in. DH had taken morning off and we had long since booked my sister to babysit. Hospital is very nearby, literally next street over.

Multiple reminders of the time. Even yesterday "You're here tomorrow, right?" "Yeah sure what time?" "I told you a million times its noon!" "Ok cool"

This morning I rang her at 11 to see how she was fixed. "I'll be over by 11.30"

I was a bit as she only lives 10 mins away and I wanted to be early to book in, but ok......

11.45 and no sign, but she's driving surely? She'll be here any second, right? DH told me to go ahead and book in and he'll run over the minute she arrives.

I'm in the waiting room, shitting it. I ring her - no answer. Ring again - no answer. Tell myself she's arrived by now, he's on his way.....but by 11.55 I'm getting really scared.

She rings me back. I say "where are you??" "I'm in my house, why?"

I fucking LOSE it. "My scan is in 5 minutes and DH is going to miss it because of you!"

She says sorry but I put the phone down cos I cant breathe. I ring DH "she's in her house, you're not gonna make it " He was so nice, telling me I'm the only one thats needed. But its his baby too!

I had a full blown panic attack in the empty waiting room. White mist in front of my eyes, roaring in my ears, shaking uncontrollably....

I'm trying to not cry in public but I'm in bits. The minutes tick by and I'm waiting to go in alone and I cant besr it. At 12.07 she rings "I'm here, he's on his way" I couldnt answer and hung up.

He gets there all flustered and red faced and upset just in the nick of time as we're called, but I'm in bits and as I get up on the table I cant see the screen cos the white mist is still there, I cant register whats being said as my sisters voice is still in my head, I'm gritting my teeth to not cry, I'm trying to get through it poker faced so as not to ruin it for DH.

Afterwards I shake all the way home and when I get in say "You can head off now, thanks for minding DS" She apologises, she thought it was 1pm (how???) and quietly leaves.

I put DS down for a nap and I bawled and bawled and bawled my eyes out. Feel like I've badly let down the baby by not being able to be present and aware during the scan. I was too ashamed to even look at the pics afterwards. It was meant to be a lovely wonderful experience after a very upsetting 1st trimester, in my head it was meant to be a turning point for me, and I ruined it by being so upset.

I feel ridden with guilt. DH has been lovely lovely lovely but that just makes me feel guiltier somehow? He sat down and made me look at the pics and pointed out everything that I missed and I just sat there and blubbed.

I dont know how to make it up to the poor baby? Theres no way, which is the awful thing. Its not like I can give it a cuddle and say sorry.

This is so irrational, I know.

Anna not irrational at all, I'd have gone absolutely mental if it were me. I think there is a lot of self-pressure around the scans being a really important milestone in pregnancy and you just don't need that kind of stress at these times.

I know it's no substitute but the baby will never know about the bad experience and you have the photos to keep and look at too. I think if it were me (and you've probably already thought this) I'd get a different baby sitter for the 20w scan though

You poor thing, how horrible of your sister to let you down like that. The good news is that you both made it and everything is looking just fine. Sending you a hug!

Yes and tbh I was scared the baby might not be ok. I was worried about its skull formation, its brain, What if it didnt have a nose bone etc. The things that are immediately worrisome. I didnt want to be alone and see something obviously wrong.

But if I'd known all along I'd be alone I'd have gritted my teeth. But it was being suddenly blindsided like that - I was left reeling in that waiting room.

I know alls well that ended well. I'm sure all this emotion will fade.

But you may be damn sure I'm getting someone else for the 20 week scan!

I totally understand your emotion rose, I'd have been so angry. I don't want to down play how you're feeling by pointing out the positives but you have in no way let your baby down. And you'll know from past experience that we get to see so much more at the 20 week scan. Maybe, if it's doable, you and DH could go out for a nice meal after the 20 weeks scan to pour over what you saw and really enjoy it. Turn it into a really happy experience. As for today, don't feel guilty but enjoy the fact you have a wee wriggler doing well.

Oh no rose I'm sorry your scan was spoilt and I would be so angry with your sister. At least baby is ok and will never know.

I had my scan today too. All ok

Sorry you had such a stressful experience Annarose - I'd be raging too! DH was 3 minutes late to pick me up for my scan today and I was ready to murder him, but restrained myself.

My scan today was all ok, everything is measuring as it should and Socklet was very wriggly, but unfortunately wouldn't get in the right position for the NT measurement!

Hi Ladies,
Can I come and join you?
Due date 8th September. I started off on the TTC #1 thread but have largely stopped checking it as I'm an emetaphobe and the constant influx of new joiners (as its not by date) means constant comparisons of morning sickness - I totally sympathise with folks but can't read it, I'm hoping the most people here are starting to feel better!
I am so sorry to hear of nails news, I hope that she can continue to find support on MN here or elsewhere.
Anna I can understand your stress, DH can't make my 20 week scan as he is overseas but I know now and am taking a friend instead, I feel fine about that but if I'd just been left in the waiting room unexpectedly alone I'd have been really upset. It sounds like your DH is being lovely and you just need to find a way to make peace with it yourself. You say you can't give the baby a cuddle, of course you can, that's effectively what you are doing every moment of every day! That's what the baby feels, not whether you saw the scan screen at the time.
I had my scan just over a week ago and low risk NIPT results on Friday so I've just started telling people. To my great relief boss is delighted for me (or at least faking it very well!). Mum is thrilled that she can start officially telling people - my dad passed away 2 weeks ago so I've been really stressed about how much she's been hanging on to this baby as a lifeline (1st grandchild) in case all wasn't well - the relief is imeasurable.
Wow! That was an epic 1st post

Hi DrWhy, congratulations and welcome to the thread!

I have just caught a glimpse of myself side on in the mirror and am horrified how big I look: I have piled on weight (wasn't skinny before!), even my yoga pants are tight and I just generally feel enormous and enormously snacky How the heck no one has twigged at work I will never know!

Also have MIL coming up this weekend and will have to practice sleight of hand so she doesn't spot me not quaffing the wine as usual. She's lovely but I just don't want to say anything til my scan (just before Easter) because I don't want DH's side to find out so much earlier than mine and MIL is site at keeping secrets

Welcome Dr why I looked at that thread but thought it was a bit confusing with all the different dates!

My first set of maternity clothes arrived in the post today and have put me in a happy place! Literally since Friday my tummy has popped out and in a very different way to the bloat I've had earlier on. I'm only 14+4 so wasn't expecting it quite yet, but I'm really relieved I don't have to squeeze into my normal jeans tomorrow!

drwhy thanks for that and huge sympathies on the loss of your Dad. I lost both of my folks in the last 12 months so I know how tough this time is.

dr why I'm so sorry about the loss of your dad. It must be incredibly difficult for you all.

I've just had a 2 day argument with my OH as he is lecturing me about my diet. I've been feeling pretty unwell so my eating has been irregular and weird, but I generally have a pretty healthy veggie diet. He's obsessed that I eat vast quantities of sugar, mainly because I'm currently drinking squash instead of water as it makes the nasty taste in my mouth better. I've warned him not to monitor what I eat/drink and told him that it's my responsibility, not his. He has compared my sugar consumption (which is truly not bad, he's wildly exaggerating) with taking drugs and says I'm endangering the baby. I asked him what he thinks I eat on an average day, and he actually has no clue.

What would you do/say? I went out for lunch today at sainsburys (!) as I was so uncomfortable eating at home (we both work from home some days). I am standing my ground and refusing to budge as i don't believe it's his business. I'm a responsible mum and wouldn't endanger my baby!

Hi all... Can I join too?

Similar to DrWhy I'm on the #ttc1 thread, but there's a mixture of EDDs so it would be nice to talk to ladies around the same stages as me. I'm 13+2 and had my scan last week. Due on the 12th September

Feeling good, just suffering with a bit of round ligament pains. I haven't told work yet so that's the next big thing to do for me

I don't have a lot of advice zeeka but I wouldn't cope with that at all. My Dh would never dream of arguing with me over something like that! Keep firm and balanced, try and use logical responses not emotional ones! So difficult.

Welcome Danni I hope your work are nice and supportive.

Thanks for that bala I'm glad it's not just me. We've made up, but I refuse to budge! I did start with the logical approach, followed by seriously emotional outburst!

Hi danni!

Welcome Dr and Danni. Dr , my condolences, what a difficult and emotional time it must be. Hope you find lots of friendly support here.

zeeka no advice really other than I understand your reaction, there's enough guilt growing a baby without someone adding it on. And my midwife actually recommended I eat fruit pastilles

I face a different situation, a very loving, supportive but over protective DH. He hates the thought of me flying, eating smoked salmon and a few other things which are deemed by the NHS as completely safe. I was annoyed at first but realised there is so little he can do to help look after the baby inside (other than look after me!) that I decided if if makes home feel better then I won't do those things. It's a short time and last time I told him I wasn't coming home from hospital with DD until the fridge was stocked with smoked salmon

Had scan today. Was dated at 12+4 weeks and all looking good so far. Small nuchal fold measurement. So relieved and was so scared before, started weeping a bit as I lay down for it but luckily all ok! Going to tell the do tonight once they're back from their music groups! Have also been prescribed aspirin I think just because of my age.

That's great news about your scan crepe :)

Fab news Crepe and how exciting telling your kids!

I told work this week (my manager's known for a while). I didn't really need to say anything, hadn't been in the office for two weeks and I returned with a bump!

Hope everyone is doing ok today.

Well ds (11) was excited but dd (9) burst out crying! Not in a good way. Oh dear. Spent a long time cuddling and reassuring her but not the reaction we were hoping for. Feel very guilty now.

Don't worry, 6 months is plenty of time to get excited about it. She'll change her mind in her own time.

I've told my cousin and she asked if she could tell others. I said of course. She's the family bush telegraph, so now I imagine there's distant family in Outer Mongolia who know!

Saves me the effort anyway! It's very tough being pregnant with a toddler though I'm discovering, so I'll be glad when it's all over. They say newborn + toddler is easier than pregnant + toddler and I'm already believing it!