September 2016 (Thread 2) Booking in and 12 weeks scans soon!

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Onto thread two already!

I think this is everyone who was already on the list, but feel free to add yourself if I have anything wrong.

Fifi10 DC1 EDD 27/08/16 Midlands
prettyflowers111 DC2(?) EDD 28/08/16
OTheHugeManatee DC1 EDD 28/08/16
SKE2016 DC1 EDD 28/08/16
icklekid DC2 EDD 29/08/16
genome DC3 EDD 30/08/16 South Manchester
Purplypinkstar DC4 EDD 30/08/16
VeeTea DC1 EDD 30/08/16
foxessocks DC2 EDD 31/08/16 (?)
JessieMcJessie DC1 EDD 31/08/16 (ish)
TheMasterMurderedMargarita DC2 EDD 31/08/16 (ish)
fruityb DC? EDD Early September
Errrnerrr DC2 EDD Early September
sparklystars20 DC1 EDD 01/09/16
mummabear88 DC2 EDD 01/09/16
pa55methecake DC1 EDD 01/09/16 (ish)
balalalala DC1 EDD 02/09/16
LetThereBeCupcakes DC2 EDD 02/09/16
sophied1983 DC1 EDD 02/09/16
MrsS182 DC? EDD 02/09/16
peardrop2 DC2 EDD 03/09/16
wineandcheeseplease DC1 EDD 03/09/16
Kitkatmonster DC3 EDD 03/09/16 Birmingham
kimblesj DC4 EDD 04/09/16
MargaretCabbage DC2(?) EDD 04/09/16
MillieMoodle DC2 EDD 05/09/16
Newtothevillage DC1 EDD 5/09/16 - Herts
ohanami DC2 EDD 06/09/16
Nevlet DC1 (?) EDD 06/09/16
sarahanne4 DC1 EDD 06/09/16
rosetintedspectacles DC1 EDD 06/09/16
eskimoflo DC1 EDD 06/09/16
Hurr1cane DC2 EDD 07/09/16
weplusthree DC3 EDD 08/09/16
Butterflies100 DC1 EDd 08/09/16 - Staffordshire
chocolateteacup DC3 EDD 08/09/16
Sausage2229 DC1 EDD 08/09/16
Thethingidontfancy DC2 EDD 08/09/2016 - SW London
globetrotter2016 DC1 EDD 09/09/16
Hedgehog DC2 EDD 09/09/16
SewSlapdash DC2 EDD 09/09/16
Pawpatroller DC3 09/09/16
Runningbutnotscared DC2 EDD 10/09/16
nailsathome DC3 EDD 11/09/16
BubbaNo1 DC1 11/09/16
DrWhy DC1 12/09/16
Bananamonkey DC1 15/09/16 Norfolk
Oxlady DC2 16/09/16 Cheshire
SpacePOODLE DC1 17/09/16 SE London
CatFaceCrayola DC2 19/09/16 Preston
FantasticMax DC2 19/09/16
Zeeka DC3 20/09/16
mrsmumb DC2 20/09/16 Cheshire
Unreliablepat DC2, EDD 21/9/16, Berkshire
Lilliana DC2 22/09/16 Devon
Sproutingbean DC2 22/09/16
JayBeanie DC1? 23/09/16
ThatsNotEvenAWord DC2 23/09/16 Swindon
Cherryberry1 DC2 25/09/2016 Greater Manchester
Frazzle DC3 EDD 26/09/2016 SW London
Moonrisekingdom DC2 28/09/16 South Yorkshire
GuessHowMuch DC2 EDD ???
mistletoeprickles DC? EDD ???
racywhite83 DC2 EDD ???
heartshapedsunglasses DC1 EDD ???
Butterflies100 DC1 EDD ???
Mrsmumb DC2 EDD ???
ChillthefXXckout DC1 EDD???
Cl4re124 DC3 EDD 26/08/16

I completely get this sausage! I google risk factors percentage risks everyday to try to reassure myself but not working! Think its made worse by fact that MIL and her v. annoying partner have invited themselves down for the weekend and are being demanding (we like this food don't like this etc.). We will have to tell them about pregnancy, even though I was adamant not to tell her 'til after scan, because MS and food aversions make it pretty obvious. Am literally dreading it.

I have about a million piles of admiration for anyone managing to keep up full time work at the moment. 'Cause I'm fairly sure I wouldn't cope!

It's reassuring to know that I'm not the only one who is a bag of nerves, not least because the statistics suggest most of us will be fine... If it helps Sausage, and not in any way to belittle your concern, the first trimester is the most dangerous and you've passed that magical 12 week mark.

The most comprehensive miscarriage statistics I've found are here, but they come with a health warning - definitely don't click if you know they'll probably stress you rather than reassure!

sites.google.com/site/miscarriageresearch/miscarriage-general

With heartbeat detected at 10wks your chance of miscarriage is 0.7% and probably even less if you've had even a hint of morning sickness. Which means you've got great odds - that's 993 chances in 1000 that your baby is going to be just fine.

That said I'm still fully aware that HB at 8wks is 1.5% chance of miscarriage and I'm still anxious, so I can hardly talk! The problem is we all know that there is always a chance of m/c at any point but for some people - me in particular - it helps to know the odds to put it in perspective.

In other news - I had my booking scan! My midwife is awesome, down-to-earth and fun - she's the senior midwife in our area and I'm so glad I got allocated to her. It was mostly a long series of questions-and-answers, with a student midwife sitting in for experience - they said it was good practice because I had more 'yes' answers than most people and so was an interesting case. I told her about my concerns and joked that my partner had been playfully beating me with a spoon at the coffee shop because I kept worrying all the time - she cheerfully assured me she'd give me a slap instead (to stop me being so silly)!

(I realise as I type it that it sounds worse than it was, but we were all laughing and messing about and it was totally not-offensive in context, honest.)

I told her that I was glad to hear she'd been allocated my midwife as I'd gotten a really good vibe from her but went on to ruin it by saying she reminded me of Nanny Ogg (Terry Pratchett fans will know what I mean), in a good way! The only downside was that it was a bit rushed at the end, mostly because the centre closed at 5 and there was a big rush with paperwork at the end. Just sharing my experience for anyone who is curious... I'd never had a booking in before and didn't know what to expect.

Hi all - think I'm first to announce this - I've had a NIFTY test with low risk results and I'm having a boy! Absolutely delighted as I already have 2 DD!

Congratulations Ace! So pleased for you. I would like a girl X

Great news Ace. I'll be getting my Harmony test results this time next week. I also finally have a booking in appointment, for some reason they'd failed to allocate me one but they phoned up today and said 'can you come in tomorrow?' Happily I have a very flexible job so no problems with the short notice.

Congratulations Ace :)

Congratulations Ace, how exciting to know already!

Congrats Ace! Its a boy for me too, I couldn't resist finding out when my harmony test came in last week. I have one of each, and knew I'd be happy with boy or girl. Its weird (but nice) to know this early, I had to wait until 20 weeks with the other two.

I'm still struggling with tiredness at 14weeks, but am really busy at work AND we're prepping the house to put on the market next week. I collapse into bed as soon as the kids are down at 8.30pm. Hoping energy returns soon, I need it!!

Sorry to be thick... What's a harmony test?

It's a non-invasive test (just a sample of your blood) for the three major trisomies. Much higher accuracy than the triple test - essentially you get a yes/no answer. Also you can get results a bit sooner - I had blood taken at 10 weeks and will get results at 12 weeks. It's costly though and only available privately. There are some threads in Antenatal choices with more information.

I'm out ladies. Mmc discovered this morning. Baby died at around 11 weeks. It's shit.

Oh no nails. How awful. So sorry to hear that.

That's dreadful news nails, so very sorry. I hope you have lots of support to get through.

So sorry nails.
Ladies, I am going to have to leave the group. My anxieties about MC are at an all time high and it feels like a lot of conversation is about people MCing at the moment. It's very very sad and sends my anxiety into overdrive. I am in no way saying that these ladies shouldn't speak out, I'm just saying that to keep my own sanity that I need need to leave MN. Maybe I will be back before September, if not I wish you all the luck and love xx

Awww Sausage poor you You're not alone! I've only got my foot in the door and haven't looked for 2 weeks myself because I too can't handle all the MC talk but I don't want to entirely leave because I can't find another thread that is age suitable and I love chatting to women in the same stage. I mentioned at the beginning that this thread has a huge amount of MC talk and very sad outcomes on it and was practically crucified for doing so. I think it's because it's so huge, that's what I keep telling myself anyway Its hard because naturally everyone is so worried about it so you don't want anyone to stop sharing their concerns I certainly don't but I do know exactly how you feel and I'm sure leaving or a break will help you loads

I got out my Doppler this morning because I've been feeling sooooo un pregnant that it's been making me feel really nervous. Baby has a hb of 150bpm today DH is currently making me pancakes. Slightly concerned that he has the hand blender out with the wrong whisk I know he wouldn't change it He's not around tomorrow so I've been treated to breakfast in bed. However, I'm not overjoyed that this means DS is just enjoying lots of TV time Can't win

Nails - Really really sorry

Sadly, all MN antenatal threads have several losses. On my last one it was the same and it was heartbreaking.

My thoughts and prayers to all of you who've been bitterly disappointed this month.

I have the doppler out every day and that is helping keeping my anxiety down. Scan on Monday and as of this morning the baby is still alive anyway. Every day is a win.

Sausage - what is your EDD? I've just skim read the August thread and there is no mention of MC or very little. If you have a late August date then that thread could be a more suitable possibility?

No she's the 8th, it's on the first page.

Ah, that's a shame.

Sadly it's just one of those things with antenatal threads. There will always be talk of MC which is sad and scary, but people like us in early stages who haven't announced it need somewhere to be able to share what they're going through....even if it is sadly bad news.

to everyone who is suffering

I'm so so sorry to hear the sad news from Boots, Frazzle and Nails sending sympathy and love to you all, life is too cruel and unfair sometimes.

I'm actually really disheartened to her people are considering leaving/ have left the group because of people's sad losses. We are all supposed to be hear to support one another and sadly miscarriage is a part of the journey of early pregnancy for some. It's often an unspoken topic because people have yet to share news they are expecting more widely with friends/ family and like crayola says it is groups like these that people feel they can talk too if the worst happens.

We should all be supporting one another through the sadness of losses or the happiness of healthy babies.

I'm only saying this because I haven't checked in for a couple of weeks and was a bit taken aback by a few comments I've read. I wouldn't want anybody to feel bad about mentioning miscarriage in a group like this.

Thank you stumpy and crayola.

You have echoed my thoughts but have put it much more tactfully than I could right now.

nails, look after yourself

nails I'm so so sorry. There are amazing people on the mc boards who are very knowledgeable and sympathetic and a lovely ttc after mc and pregnant after mc if you want to try again.

I truly hope this doesn't happen to anyone else on this thread but also hope of the worst does happen that people are shown more compassion by others than some have shown here. It is heartbreaking and scary but it as also reality and talking to the few people who know about your pregnancy helps. I know, I've gone through this twice.

nails frazzle boots and anyone else please feel free to pm me if you want to chat or have any questions I might be able to answer. Look after yourselves and your partners.