September 2016 (Thread 2) Booking in and 12 weeks scans soon!

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Onto thread two already!

I think this is everyone who was already on the list, but feel free to add yourself if I have anything wrong.

Fifi10 DC1 EDD 27/08/16 Midlands
prettyflowers111 DC2(?) EDD 28/08/16
OTheHugeManatee DC1 EDD 28/08/16
SKE2016 DC1 EDD 28/08/16
icklekid DC2 EDD 29/08/16
genome DC3 EDD 30/08/16 South Manchester
Purplypinkstar DC4 EDD 30/08/16
VeeTea DC1 EDD 30/08/16
foxessocks DC2 EDD 31/08/16 (?)
JessieMcJessie DC1 EDD 31/08/16 (ish)
TheMasterMurderedMargarita DC2 EDD 31/08/16 (ish)
fruityb DC? EDD Early September
Errrnerrr DC2 EDD Early September
sparklystars20 DC1 EDD 01/09/16
mummabear88 DC2 EDD 01/09/16
pa55methecake DC1 EDD 01/09/16 (ish)
balalalala DC1 EDD 02/09/16
LetThereBeCupcakes DC2 EDD 02/09/16
sophied1983 DC1 EDD 02/09/16
MrsS182 DC? EDD 02/09/16
peardrop2 DC2 EDD 03/09/16
wineandcheeseplease DC1 EDD 03/09/16
Kitkatmonster DC3 EDD 03/09/16 Birmingham
kimblesj DC4 EDD 04/09/16
MargaretCabbage DC2(?) EDD 04/09/16
MillieMoodle DC2 EDD 05/09/16
Newtothevillage DC1 EDD 5/09/16 - Herts
ohanami DC2 EDD 06/09/16
Nevlet DC1 (?) EDD 06/09/16
sarahanne4 DC1 EDD 06/09/16
rosetintedspectacles DC1 EDD 06/09/16
eskimoflo DC1 EDD 06/09/16
Hurr1cane DC2 EDD 07/09/16
weplusthree DC3 EDD 08/09/16
Butterflies100 DC1 EDd 08/09/16 - Staffordshire
chocolateteacup DC3 EDD 08/09/16
Sausage2229 DC1 EDD 08/09/16
Thethingidontfancy DC2 EDD 08/09/2016 - SW London
globetrotter2016 DC1 EDD 09/09/16
Hedgehog DC2 EDD 09/09/16
SewSlapdash DC2 EDD 09/09/16
Pawpatroller DC3 09/09/16
Runningbutnotscared DC2 EDD 10/09/16
nailsathome DC3 EDD 11/09/16
BubbaNo1 DC1 11/09/16
DrWhy DC1 12/09/16
Bananamonkey DC1 15/09/16 Norfolk
Oxlady DC2 16/09/16 Cheshire
SpacePOODLE DC1 17/09/16 SE London
CatFaceCrayola DC2 19/09/16 Preston
FantasticMax DC2 19/09/16
Zeeka DC3 20/09/16
mrsmumb DC2 20/09/16 Cheshire
Unreliablepat DC2, EDD 21/9/16, Berkshire
Lilliana DC2 22/09/16 Devon
Sproutingbean DC2 22/09/16
JayBeanie DC1? 23/09/16
ThatsNotEvenAWord DC2 23/09/16 Swindon
Cherryberry1 DC2 25/09/2016 Greater Manchester
Frazzle DC3 EDD 26/09/2016 SW London
Moonrisekingdom DC2 28/09/16 South Yorkshire
GuessHowMuch DC2 EDD ???
mistletoeprickles DC? EDD ???
racywhite83 DC2 EDD ???
heartshapedsunglasses DC1 EDD ???
Butterflies100 DC1 EDD ???
Mrsmumb DC2 EDD ???
ChillthefXXckout DC1 EDD???
Cl4re124 DC3 EDD 26/08/16

Totally agree with stumpysmum

nails wishing you lots of love going forward and hope you have plenty of support to keep you strong.

Thanks Lilliana

Unfortunately it's not my first mmc
I don't know if I'll be ttc again. Pregnancy is hard for me, I'm 35 and I couldn't go through another loss. That makes it all the more sad for me.

Sorry, I remember now. I'm in a similar situation. I will be thinking of you xx

Really really sad to read that people are suggesting that Sausage and I are not being "supportive" just because we've shared our issues with anxiety. It's not supportive to single people out and just to clarify again...I for one certainly don't want to stop people talking about sad events or sharing their sad circumstances. I'm just sharing that I'm finding it hard. Absolutely nothing wrong with us saying that we've needed to take a step back.

That's just the thing though, you didn't need to share that information, you could have just easily stopped reading the thread. Nobody keeps tabs on who is and isn't contributing. No need for the flounce.

For someone to say they're leaving BECAUSE a PP has shared their sad news is not constructive and will only add guilt to the myriad of emotions they are going through right now. Highly insensitive.

Oh nails I can't imagine it.

thank you baggy that would have been my next post!

I'm so sorry to hear what's happened, nails.

Agreeing with peardrop has said, I don't think the intention of any posts was 'don't post your m/c here' but 'I personally need to stop logging on for a bit because everytime another m/c is posted my heart bleeds for whoever posted it - and then I panic about my own pregnancy and it's making me sick with anxiety and I'm struggling to cope'. Which is completely reasonable, and not in anyway judgmental (which I think was clarified from the first). I think it's a very mature response with an aim to take yourself away from a source of stress, rather than force others away from a support network.

Seriously, I've limited myself to terse-seeming one-liners to express my sympathy but only because I've no idea what on earth I could say that could possibly help.

Sorry sparkle but the mature response to something that upsets you is to remove yourself from it without feeling the need to explain what you are doing and why. That is what seems insensitive.

Baggy - you've got that wrong. Nobody said they were leaving because of anyone. Sausage said she was leaving because she is struggling with anxiety and I shared that I completely understood and had similar feelings with anxiety.

Sausage - if you're still reading this then I really hope you're OK and that your GP continues to support you and that you've got people in RL to support you xx

I really hope everyone else going through their very sad Mcs and anyone else struggling with anxiety is getting lots of support in RL too xx

I understand how it might come across that way, Kitkatmonster, but I read what happened as sausage explaining her impending departure from a thread in which she'd been a regular poster, which is not unreasonable.

What sausage actually said was, "I am in no way saying that these ladies shouldn't speak out, I'm just saying that to keep my own sanity that I need need to leave MN. Maybe I will be back before September, if not I wish you all the luck and love xx"

I'm reading that as a stressed and frightened lady, probably in need of lots of hugs of her own, wishing the best on everyone who's posting.

It's so very easy to come across hurtful via text without meaning to, but with a sign off wishing people luck and love I'm sure that's not what was intended.

Flounce, flounce. Better suited to nethuns. Yes I'm lowering myself but ffs.

Sparkle there is nothing you can say except sorry to hear that.

As someone who had already experienced a pregnancy loss, my anxiety levels throughout pregnancy are also through the roof.

Unfortunately though, once you have been there, you know how fragile it all really is and that mc is a reality for many of us. I have not shared many of my thoughts and anxieties over the last 12 weeks here because I knew that those of you who are lucky enough to have never experienced it wouldn't want to hear those things.

I don't want this thread to take a downward turn on my behalf. Please do just spare a thought for the fact that I would love to still have a viable pregnancy to be anxious about.

I wish you all the best in your pregnancies.

That's pretty much what I thought, nails, and that's why I didn't try to say more and fumble with trite words over something so devastating. I wish I could somehow magically do something to help and you have my sympathies.

On a side note. Just a reminder that if you would like to join the FB group PM me your email address :)

Nails I'm so so sorry to hear your sad news and also that you've been subjected to some insensitive behaviour on here. Obviously doesn't mean much right now but sending you lots of strength to get through this difficult time X

I think it's fine to be anxious about miscarriage and to express those worries. But there's a time and a place and immediately after someone announced their miscarriage isn't it.

I'm so, so sorry you've had to go through this again nails.

Nails I'm really sorry to have heard your sad news and sending you lots of love. You'll be in my thoughts tonight as well as the other lovely ladies who have recently had losses. xxx

Just wanted to echo the other ladies in saying my thoughts are with those who've suffered losses, can't imagine what you must be going through. Lots of love

Just echoing what Thstsnotevenaword said, am so very sorry to hear about your losses

I'm so sorry nails and for those suffering with anxiety. It's very hard to find an online 'home' that suits everyone but I hope many can still come and share whatever they are going through, including those who have so sadly lost their baby and those who need to share their anxious thoughts.

I'm really grateful for those who post on here, I know no one in real life at the same stage of pregnancy as me.

So sorry for your loss nails. Please take care of yourself.

For those of you posting just to say how difficult someone else's miscarriage is for you, you need to take a good long look at yourself.

Lots of us have anxiety to deal with. It's no excuse for a compassion bypass

Went to a friend's gathering today and had all the usual questions thrown at me by her mother-unexpectedly as I'd asked my friend not to tell anyone, even my own dc and dm don't know- so I got "was it planned?" (Yes I know I'm old and there's a huge age gap), followed by "how far are you?" 12 weeks but scan's on Wednesday so not saying anything yet (I've also had a mmc in the past) which was met with "are you sure?" Pointed glance at my tummy and "well it is your third." Cheers thanks friend. I did say well you know before my own mother. Then another friend of hers I barely know scurries up saying congratulations, I was a bit short with her saying that's the last time I tell friend anything! I felt like everyone knew but luckily no one else said anything.

I wasn't intending to come back here, but I saw the preview of it on 'Threads I'm on' and saw *Nails' awful news.
Nails I'm so so sorry. If you need a chat, please PM me. I'm having my first counselling session tomorrow in the hope it will make me feel a bit better.
And....
"I don't want this thread to take a downward turn on my behalf. Please do just spare a thought for the fact that I would love to still have a viable pregnancy to be anxious about.

I wish you all the best in your pregnancies."

Exactly THIS

Such a horrible time for you. I hope you've had a lot of love from your dc today and that your session helps tomorrow. So sorry for the pain you nails, boots and the others are experiencing. I hope you feel that most of us would not put our anxieties over your real grieving and that we are here to reach out to you. You are always welcome.