March 2016 #4 - entering the second trimester at last and (hopefully) waving goodbye to sickness

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started a new thread as the old one was getting full up. Thought I would post the link to stats here too so people can update if they want!

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Aww no way! Luckily my siblings haven't had kids and DH's family's names are not to my taste at all.

I meant I'll also be a bit gutted if I can't use my girl name Beautiful! Otherwise I don't have a preference, silly reason to want a girl really...

Oohh I see what you mean! Oh god there really can't be a no.5, will be booking in for a coil as soon as I'm in labour pretty much!

I always had a feeling this is a boy, but I'm 95% sure it's a girl now. DH has already made two and my morning sickness was far worse with the girls (and it's pretty bad now!)

I'd been thinking boy and am now thinking girl too. I haven't been super sick, but definitely don't remember still feeling icky at 16 weeks with ds. I wonder if that's because I'm secretly hoping for a girl? Two little boys would be awesome, but I'm worried I might feel a little sad about never having a daughter.

Suz, I get what you mean about feeling a little sad about not having a particular sex. I will be delighted with either but a secret tiny part of me would like a boy just incase we get tempted to try again for one if it's another girl! Not sure my body would forgive me for another pregnancy lol

Same here missd, I think it might sway us towards the third we always wanted but probably can't afford...

I think it's fine to have a preference, however tiny. I have to admit if I didn't already have a DS I'd be desperate for a boy by now. As it stands I really don't mind, I suppose it would be nice to have two of each but the boys would have a 7.5 age gap. Plus I've totally forgotten how to have a little boy. And I've always struggled with DS - I never bonded with him properly due to awful circumstances at the time but I did with the girls, so I wouldn't want to have another boy that I bonded with better than DS, I'd feel more guilty than I do now! Wow that was a bit of a ramble... hopefully I'll find out on Tuesday anyway!

I also think it's fine (and natural) to have a preference. I really don't mind if I never have a DS though - I think I'd be happy just having daughters though I'd love to have a son if possible. I'd like to have three kids in total but who knows. I have to admit I would dread going through another pregnancy! Well, I have to get through this one first

Absolutely knackered today after DDs bad night sleep. Also the nearly new sale was pretty stressful to navigate round. There were barely any clothes for DD which was a shame but I guess 2-3 is an age where people get a lot of wear out of clothes. Managed to pick up some nice tops and a nice dress for Christmas for her though. And they had a rack of maternity clothes - I got four tops and a jumper for less than a tenner! Really pleased as I basically have no clothes at the moment - all my maternity dresses are in the wash and none of my tops fit me, it was getting a bit depressing! I went into topshop yesterday to try maternity clothes on and was horrified at how fat my stomach has got I had the sudden realisation of how much pregnancy screws your body and how hard I'd worked after DD to get my body back looking OK - not like it used to be but happy enough! Now feels like its back to square one! Trying to do a bit more exercise and core strength work now sickness has mostly gone but I'm far too tired and have to little time during the day! Argh. Sorry for rant

Marmite I am feeling huge. But just fat not pregnant. I'm seriously going to start eating well from tomorrow. Not stupidly to lose weight but just healthier to avoid getting fat FAT, if you know what I mean. Plus it was my birthday today and my mum bought me a great pregnancy book and I felt a bit bad for not eating well all the time after reading some of the info.

Happy birthday blondiejess! It's my birthday tomorrow so we're very nearly almost twins .

I will never admit this in real life bit I do have a slight preference for a girl this time. Partly because I have a silly fear that a second ds couldn't possibly be as wonderful a my pfb ds (because what are the chances??) and people will compare them and it wouldn't be fair on the baby who will then grow up with a complex. Partly because I have 2 brothers who are both fairly useless as sons and I worry that history will repeat itself. And I guess also because I wonder what it would be like to have a daughter. I would be very happy with another boy though and I would love him just as much and be pleased to be having him.

Happy birthday Blondie! Don't feel bad, we do our best when we're feeling awful and a lot of the time it's a choice between eating something shit or nothing at all.

My new maternity jeans, though the over-bump bit is baggy and they fall down, they make me feel fairly normal, in that there's no waistband digging in.

I've felt different so far this pregnancy. Please don't hate me, but I've felt a lot better than I did last time! I couldn't even think about food with DS, couldn't see it on TV or go in a food shop. DH had to just put something in front of me and I had to eat without thinking much. I've had times around 6-8 weeks when I felt delicate, a bit nauseous, but nowhere near that bad. Now this is contributing to the idea I've had since the very beginning that this one might be a girl.

This is weird, because I always pictured myself with two boys. I've been petrified of what I'd do with a girl - I can't handle that pink, princessy girly stuff. It all drives me mental. But the thought is persistent, I'm at the point where I can't convince myself it might be a boy. I'm now worried I'll be disappointed if it is a boy. Even though, rationally, I'll be more than happy with either! It's a weird feeling, isn't it?

I've only got 7 weeks to wait, I suppose.

I've managed to get weirdly organised this weekend (to a normal level, nothing special!) and it's weirding me out. I feel like I've forgotten something. Better go to bed before I remember.

Happy birthday Trinpy and Blondie for yesterday!

I feel really down/worried. I don't know why I'm being so paranoid but over the last two days DH has barely text (we normally text a lot!) With no messages in the evenings when he shouldn't be at work. I asked how work was going and got no reply. I keep thinking what if he wasn't actually at work? Just cos he wanted a break and couldn't be arsed to come and see me and the kids? I don't know why he'd do that though... he's forgetful and doesn't think sometimes but he's not horrible.

I asked him what was up at half 5 yesterday evening then left my phone and waited for the explanation... no messages!! I'm starting to really worry now.

Oh Beautiful, I can understand why you're worried. It's more than likely something innocuous though. Maybe he's moved out of signal, or the weather's affecting it. Or he dropped his phone, or he's misplaced his charger and it's run out of battery.

Happy birthday Trinpy!

Happy birthday Blondie and trinpy!

Try not to worry beautiful, there must be a reason, have you tried calling him? Maybe he's lost his phone or left it somewhere.

He did say he had barely any signal at work, cos he couldn't get on the internet to look at something.

He actually text right after I posted this! All of his texts are normal, he's still saying I love you and all that jazz, so I'm not sure why I feel uneasy. Yes hormonal but he has history for lying because he wanted to stay out and get hammered - in fact that's why I split up with him back in April and why he's currently at his parent's house. Things have been really good since then though... so I don't know why I'm so paranoid now. I should be excited for the scan tomorrow, but I'm not now, I just feel awful.

Hormones do that to me too, I get all anxious and paranoid. I'm not sure what the answer is .

morning all. sorry to hear you're feeling stressed and worried beautiful when is DH back? sounds like you need a bit of a heart to heart with him to get everything off your chest.

I have woken up this morning with loads of energy - could this be the famed second trimester energy boost at last?! I'm not holding out much hope for it. Still, it was good timing as I weighed myself this morning and I've put on half a stone since my BFP! which is 3/4 of a stone from my lowest weight last year, as I put on weight after I stopped bf DD. sad times. so I've had a 40 minute cycle on my exercise bike this morning and I'm feeling motivated to keep exercising and not put on any more weight. I feel so fat

it's miserable weather here in the SE and I really cba with work today - it's fresher's week so lots going on and I have to meet some of my students today, so need to actually look presentable rather than my usual scruffy-pregnancy-cant-be-arsed-with-my-appearance look!

Marmite that's brill news! I want it haha. It's raining here too... why did we walk to school?!

I think DH is fine, but he's just ignored the fourth text where I've mentioned him not being at work when he said he was. All he said was that work is really busy. I've just asked him outright now to see what he says. Surely he wouldn't have done that?? We will see.

I had to pick DD1 up from school on Thursday cos she had diarrhoea. I fear I may have caught the bug now... awful stomach cramps, diarrhoea, been sick in the bin... it could just be morning sickness but I'm not sure now...

JustTheOne We're due date buddies :) We're officially 4 months pregnant now!

16+ 1 today, I've got my 16 week appointment with my midwife today at 3pm so excited and nervous to hear baby's heartbeat, dp thinks I'm silly for always being so worried before scans and appointments but I guess it's only the beginning I need to learn how to chill out, dp is super excited bless him

Has anyone else had their 16 week midwife appointment yet?

haven't been sick in 2 weeks now so I think it's a good sign, but feeling much better, fx I stay like this for next few weeks! blondie same here I started reading my maternity book and I feel so sorry for my baby for the amount of crap I ate in my first trimester :( Now that I'm feeling more like myself I'm trying to eat more healthy, well not sure how long it's going to last to be honest

DH off to King's Lynn for the week for a course for work so all on my tod this week at home! Apartment feels disturbingly quiet without him...

14+1 today - feeling pretty good now that the lurgy from last week has cleared. Pushed a little too hard at the gym on Saturday and I've been stiff as hell since then, an easy swim helped yesterday but still have all the owies now! I keep forgetting how much longer recovery takes during pregnancy and it keeps catching me by surprise. Have my last pre-baby race coming this Sunday - doing a 1,500m open water swim in 15c water. Looking forward to it in a slightly masochistic sort of way!

wow TriJo that's impressive!

I spoke too soon about feeling great... the exhaustion has disappeared today but have had random waves of nausea and dry heaving this afternoon

Bumped into my old boss at work today (he's been promoted so not my boss anymore) and he asked me when I was due. I didn't hear him at first so I said 'pardon?' at which he had a mortified look on his face and said 'you are pregnant aren't you?' at which point I realised he thought he'd just asked a lady who'd slightly podged out if she was pregnant haha! I told him that yes, I was pregnant but only 4 months and just happened to be massive. It was slightly awkward though as I had my probationary review in April and he was my boss at the time and warned me the review board might not pass me, which I argued with him about as I was sure I was fine (and I passed six weeks later). and he said to me today 'good thing everything worked out well with your probation then!'

Wow.... this thread moved fast... mind you I haven't been on for nearly a week!!! :(

Just to harp back to around page 21 and the discussion about buggys etc...

MyNameIsSuz - Uppababy Vista we had for DD1 - she's now two and I still love it. Its amazing. You would NOT believe how much stuff you can cart about in the bottom bit. She doesn't use it very much at all now and I really miss it for chucking stuff under. When DC2 arrives I think I'm going to look at a buggy board if I can find one to fit - want to stick whith the Uppababy Vista. In bright Orange! ;) It is a bit of a tank and yes, it does take up nearly the whole of my corsa boot - but I still wouldn't swap it for anything. I'm 5'2, my OH is 6' and we can both push it comfortably. And the manoeverability is AMAZING!!! Its easy to steer with 1 finger and 1 thumb in a very busy Asda!!

#rave over. Love it though!

reiki if it fits in a corsa boot i'm intrigued, my big worry is not getting the travel system in the boot of my car, friend has a fiat 500 and has to have one of the back seats laid down permanently!

Hi all. Not been on for a while. Im still puking :( it got better for a few days and then bam, its bak with a vengeance.

Just had an appt with my obstetrician. Everything is looking good. He did a quick scan. Wow baba has grown so much since my last one. i have my 19/20w scan on 16th October. Im trying to hold off buying anything until then.

We will be finding out the sex if we can. Already have a DS(7) AND DD(4). One of them is going to be very disappointed.

Anyone else still have the sickness? Everyone keeps telling me that it will go soon (15+6) although it didn't with DD. In fact i was still puking whilst giving birth. Wasn't until probably the day after she was born that i felt better.

Its spring now in Oz and its hotting up. Will be 31c tomorrow and we don't have aircon :( its gonna kill me when the summer comes and the temps hit high 40s!!

Ive given in and have started wearing my mat clothes. Some are too big but they're comfy. pre pregnancy clothes are sooo uncomfortable now.

Morning all - and afternoon I think natalie
I've baren't had any sickness throughout other than once or twice. However have woken up today feeling like I've been hit by a bus, boiling hot, headach, feel really nauseous, and getting a couple of dodgy cramps around my lower left side which are doing nothing but worry me. Have rang in sick to work but now deciding if im juSt panicking and news sleep or if I should ring mau. Argh!