February 2016 - Boobs are growing, sickness is going, and some of us are finally showing!!

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Oh dear ds just paid me bk for a bad mummy moment. He's on I pad while I catchup on hollyokes and he weed on my foot and the sofa! I so much want to go to sleep. I wish he still had naps!

Morning all! Good weekends? I cried off calling after one night, started to panic at the hygiene and was just exhausted throughout the festival. We live locally though so might go back today. Good fun otherwise though!

Anyone else suffering from headaches? I've had a constant one for days now, it's driving me nuts

Hope everyone is having a good weekend! I've just had a series of tricky chats with my friend who I nanny share with as I can't afford (and don't need) to keep a nanny on while on mat leave, but it puts my friend in a difficult situation as it's cheaper and the perfect arrangement (in London childminders and nurseries have crazy waiting lists and the latter are v £££). Plus the nanny is also gutted as she really loves my DD. had to be done, but because of it I've had to work out when my maternity leave will start : 17 December feel slightly embarrassed tone starting at 32 weeks! Has anyone else thought about it?

Also is anyone else self employed and so needing to do SMA? Think we have to start the process at 26 weeks, sure it's going to be transparent and easy!

haqoui yes to the constant headache. Although in fact I'm not too bad today. I had a headache all through the week and it would niggle at me all day and then peak in the evenings.

Xing oh dear, that doesn't sound like a fun conversation

I'm self employed and will be SMA'ing too though I didn't realise we needed to start at 26 weeks - that doesn't seem like very far away at all [shocked]

I have such rage today, I'm hoping it's hormone related?
Got back from hol last night to house being a mess from DH brother cat sitting. V nice of him to cat sit but not nice coming home to mess. Then this morning I was starting to clean up & Hoover has broken... Then DH sat on sofa in middle normally and it's cracked/broken??!! Arghhhh I know in the scheme of things not a big deal but I have real pregnancy rage. DH annoying me loads & has just gone out as think he's in a strop too. Happy bank holiday here! Breathe...

Nomont and Haquoi - have u tried 4head? I've been using it for my headaches (quite mild at the mo), and I like it. Gives a nice cooling and numbing sensation - although I saw someone else say it's not very effective for more severe headaches.

Ratty - the mess would really annoy me! My DP is off out for football related things today so I'm getting him to do all the cleaning before he goes out!

We are going to the seaside tomorrow though - I've been craving the seaside a lot. So going to take the dog out and have a nice break from all the work I've got to do! Can't wait!

Thanks spanoo I had a look at 4head and it looks good. I'm going to pick some up later while I'm out

I'm making a special trip to M&S just for decaf tea! It's the only one I find any way decent. Several bags of some Percy pigs may find their way into my basket while in there!

Congrats to everyone finding out the genders.. I don't get to find out till the end of Sept.

Lot's of other Valentine's babies. My SIL is actually due on the 14th too so we are constantly sharing our aches and pains with each other. Even going to have a very American twee gender reveal party to announce our babies genders. So I won't know what I'm having until I cut my cake- I wont apologize...I'm American and it's my last baby. I'm allowed to be twee.

I had my first hormonal tantrum the other day. Had a misunderstanding with DH DH was being a swine and after crying ugly for 20 minutes I threw a stuffed animal at his head. What was worse is that not 3 hours later I woke up horny as all get out and totally forgot I hated him. So we are friends again. Hormones.... yikes.

Finally got round to resetting my password - been lovely catching up with everyone :)

I went on holiday and brought my usual holiday clothes without giving it a second though - then discovered that denim shorts and skirts just don't fit anymore! Back to leggings all day long it is then....

Haven't been able to get onto mumsnet fo ages because of all the password resets! Got so much to catch up, I'm going to get reafy for bed and then try and stay awake while I catch up. Hope your all well ladies!

DH has been so pissy with me all day. He will never discuss what he is feeling or what is wrong so I have to go on his behaviour towards me. Tonight for the 1st time in 4 months I felt good enough to finally have sex, he flat out refused me, wouldn't cuddle me and then turned his back on me. He won't talk about it and just said he was tired and that was the end of it. I've spent the last 30 mins quietly sobbing in bed next to him, which he was fully aware of but ignored me. I've got up and sitting downstairs crying.

I realise now that he has been steadily distancing himself me since I got pregnant. The wasp sting incident was a perfect example of him behaving odly towards me, he was so cold and uncaring. Thinking back to my scan this week he wasn't the least bit interested and just coldly watched the scan. I think I've made a huge mistake getting pregnant and that he doesn't want the baby. He said he wasn't ready but as my fertility was an issue it was now or possibly never. This is probably the only child I will ever get to have.

I will have to try and talk to him in the morning but he is the most closed brick wall when it comes to talking about feelings. The only other time he has behaved like this to me was when he was cheating online. I know that I look really different now, my acne is getting worse and I'm going to see a dermatologist this week as it is that bad. Plus I've put a huge amount of weight on and don't look pregnant just fat. I really hope he isn't cheating again. Just needed to tell someone.

Oh rufus, that sounds awful, I'm so sorry! How're you doing this morning?

rufus I hope you're ok. Pregnancy can do strange things to men as well as women.

However there is no excuse for treating you badly. I hope you're feeling better this morning.

Rufus I'm sorry you had such an awful night. Please remember that if he IS cheating on you now, it's because he's a pillock and not because of pregnancy acne. I hope you can talk this morning and sort it out. Thinking of you.

I second banana!

:( big un-mumsnetty hugs to you rufus. He sounds like he needs a big wake up call, you're having HIS baby, he needs to be straight and honest with you. And as banana says, if he is cheating, it's nothing to do with you and everything to do with him.

rufus that sounds like a dreadfully hard night. Sending you a hug. I second what banana says above. I hope you can both have an honest chat this morning about it. Whatever happens - you will be okay.

Thank you all for your lovely support, made me cry again. Lots of tears this morning, I am just an emotional mess. Have had a long talk with DH. Turns out he was being such a dick because next weekend we are going to a friend of mine's Birthday party, who he doesn't like and doesn't want to go to, DH has been invited to go to the cricket during the day and I said he couldn't go because he always gets off his face drunk and I'm not going to the party with him barely able to stand. We are both still upset with each other and I can't believe he was so nasty to me over something so petty. I've apologised to him and he has said sorry too but I think the whole day will be spent resenting each other. Think I will go to my mum's and leave him alone.

Good Morning ladies, I was hoping to join your lovely group. I have been popping on every now and then over the last 4 months and you all seem very caring and supportive of each other :)

I am 30 and this is my 1st pregnancy. I have had the dreaded hypermesis which has now finally given in and allowed me to start enjoying this pregnancy... which I have to say I am very much atm. ( there where times I thought I would never say that!)

Rufus- I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I knew somebody in a similar situation to yourself. It was very hard on her and her and her DP took a break during the pregnancy..however once her baby was born things became very different. I don't condone your DH behaviour at all, maybe when there is an actual baby to connect with things may improve.

Hi all, pretty quiet on here today guessing a lot of folk off doing things for the bank holiday.

Rufus

Welcome to the group bumpasaurus, love your nickname! I'm glad your sickness has eased off, that must have been nasty.

Me too! They don't tell you there is such a small window from elation of the BFP to feeling like your body doesn't belong to you any more!.. Thankfully now at 18 weeks all is feeling quite ok :) .. the nickname felt appropriate somehow

rufus sorry to hear you've had such a rubbish bank hol. I hope you had a nice time at your Mums and were able to distract yourself from it all a bit Good effort on the attempt to initiate a bit of bedroom action. I've been useless during pregnancy- we've done the deed once since BFP day. I guess so much changes so quickly and blokes sometimes misbehave as a coping mechanism (my DH has occasionally). Hopefully he'll sort himself out soon!

banana good luck tomorrow - let us know how you get on.

Welcome bump!

Rufus hope you managed a decent day at your Mum's. FWIW, I don't think you had anything to apologise for, and it sounds like he is being more unpleasant than the birthday party thing would explain. Hope you've got other family and friends to support you. I know how crap it is when your OH is being a knob, and pregnancy is the worst time for that to happen.

Got some real movement from the baby yesterday- think the full stomach and being relatively squashed in a car seat helped. About 15 mins of boogie, was great

Ah well, back to work normality tomorrow, just hope the sodding weather improves!