Christmas and new years babies thread!

[CuppaSarah]

Just got my bfp positive today and am thinking we need a thread for all the babies that will be born around new years and Christmas. I'm due new years eve and just know I'll be sick of the comments real quick! So we can vent and plan low stress xmases together.

I know we have the December thread and will have the January one, but why the hell not there's room for everyone!

Hope your doing ok Ohholyfuck thinking of you. X

Wedding is in 6 weeks. I will be a single mum of 3. Feel numb

Glad other people have good news

So sorry to hear that Ohholy. What terrible timing. Sending you a hug x

OhHolyFuck I am so, so, so sorry. I cannot even imagine how you must feel right now. You can talk to us as much as you need, it needn't be about pregnancy we're happy to listen. If you want a rant you are more than welcome to pm or Facebook me. Sometimes it helps to let it out to someone who is separate from the situation.

Just one day at a time now OK? You only need to get through today, worry about tomorrow at the time.

That's such good advice Cuppa, and please do rant away to us as much as you like Holy xx

Sorry to hear that ohholy. Have you got some support?

The MW just spoke sbout responsive parenting. Which is fine. DS1 was there with me. Slightly patronising given I obviously speak to him and tebd to his every needs. However I smiled sweetly.

Then she started talking about how 'essential skin to skin' was after the birth. Lovely I said, if they're ok and the Mw passes you the bsby and they're not rushed off to NICU. The words 'essential' are the words which lead to PN depression and my feelings of complete and htter failure. So if all goes to plan, great, but remove the pressure. Chose your words a bit more carefully. You're supposed to understand my history. Anyway. I just don't feel I trust any of them.

Feeling very rotten but probably lack of sleep from small child!!

Ps In derby

OhHoly I'm so so sorry to hear that! Huge hugs being sent your way

Please feel free to speak to us if you ever need to. I know we can't do an awful lot, but even if it's to clear your head. Have you got someone one RL that you can go to?

Jesus, ohholy, I can't believe it. Please lean on us - and get some RL support too. I'm so sorry, what a hideous thing to happen to you. Please try to look after yourself as much as possible, you need to keep your strength up right now. Gutted for you.

How are you holding up, ohholy?

Had the freakiest dream last night. Dreamt I went for my 20 week scan, but instead of scanning me they cut my stomach open and pulled the baby out. We had a little look and I asked how she would reattach the cord. She told me babies aren't attached to the plaxenta till 30 weeks and babies born before then don't have belly buttons it was really creepy. I also dreamt it was a boy, which I heard means you're having a girl.

ARGH cuppa! That's terrifying! My dreams are weird at the moment, but that takes it to a whole new level!!

Hope everyone's doing okay today

cuppa that is well freaky. How did the move go? Are you settling in ok?

Thinking of you ohholy

horsey your MW sounds a bit full-on. I think you're probably right to keep your counsel. I never saw the same MW twice in my last pregnancy and got v cross about having to repeatedly explain something that was written on the first page of my notes. Then I had to do it twice in my booking appointment this time around. Tedious. But I guess it all gets a bit samey for them and some recycle their spiel without thinking.

Just popping our heads round the corner to let you know that we've just launched a discount for our brilliant one-day event, Bumpfest - 15% off the standard ticket price!

There'll be advice from some great speakers - including Andrea Grace on sleep, Stuart Heritage on becoming a Dad and Beth Graham on writing your birth plan - and all sorts of workshops and skills sessions, including baby first aid. Drop in for a couple of hours, or stay all day - completely up to you! All you need to do is just enter 15ANG in the promo code box on this page - we'd love to see you all there!

I'm sorry I disappeared for a bit, frankly couldn't cope with much so just shut down a little
I'm ok (as in, still alive!) but finding everyday a real struggle atm, been physically ill today too, lots of being sick and a nosebleed...

I feel bad being such a downer on an antenatal thread where everyone else is happy and excited about upcoming arrivals

So glad you're back, ohholy - please don't feel bad about anything. Are you on your own? Do you have some RL support? I can't imagine what you're going through right now, is there someone nearby to come and help with stuff?

You are in no way a downer OhHoly. This thread is for support that includes the difficult times. Glad you're getting through the days, for now that's really all you need do. You can worry about the rest at the time.

Move is going well, but I am never moving during a.work.week without taking time off ever again!! Nearly all moved in but loads to.sort at the old place tomorrow. How is everyone feeling?

Great to see that you're back OhHoly, vent away, that's what we're here for. Has your ex partner indicated how much involvement he intends on having in his children's life going forward? Do you have family and friends you can lean on?

It's probably little consolation but probably best that it happened now and not when you were married. At least things should be slightly easier to sort out. There's no point in being in a relationship if the other party can't reciprocate your feelings. Once the shock has worn off, you'll pick yourself up, dust yourself down and continue being a brilliant mother to your children. Focus on the positives, like your amazing kids. You sound like a strong lady, you can do this. X

Well said Gillster. Although it might not feel like it now, you are much stronger than most OhHoly. Take care of yourself and your babies

I'm lacking serious holiday packing motivation today. I've felt pretty good the last few weeks, but today I'm so sleepy. I'm wonder if it apprehension of going away and being pregnant?

ohholy as everyone else said, support thread as well as happiness thread.

We go away in about 10 days. But have two weddings to get through first!!

Last night I saw a little arm or leg kicking through my belly. DH felt it too so was very happy!! 18 weeks!!!

Just popping in for a little advice. I think I've mentioned before that we are looking for a house and we have found one that we love and is in our price range the last owners have done a lot to it and it's ready to move in. Only problem is the price they want is above the ceiling in price for the area we have made 3 offers now all been rejected. We just don't know weather it's worth paying more and potentially loose the money. I can't find any other houses I like now and we need to be in by Christmas :-/ any advice would be appreciated. I just feel stuck x

If it's the house you really want and you see yourself being there for a long time, then go for it. Don't buy it if you just want to be in somewhere by Christmas. As attractive as that will be, you'll regret it later. The only issue might be with the mortgage company who might not lend on a property that is more than they feel it's worth.

Hope, if it's your dream home and it's high price is due to all the work the owners have done, I would say go for it. I do agree that being in for Xmas isn't everything, though I did exactly that 5 years ago and really pushed everything to make it happen. I think we then went to someone else's for Xmas anyway as the house was in chaos still (we cut it so fine ).

It's been a looong day. Went out with friends and their kids, which was lovely but my dd was a nightmare. She then kicked off in the supermarket and I had to just go home empty-handed. We have 8 people over with all their kids tomorrow, no food, no drinks. And work has been horrendous this week. I just want to run away. Just for a couple of days. And maybe stick my fingers up at them all. That's how grown up I'm feeling right now

Hope everyone else is doing ok? OhHoly, Ive been thinking of you and hope you're getting through each day with some support? Cuppa, are you settling in ok in your new home?

The only thing to bear in mind doing is that if it is above ceiling price then you may not be mortgagable on it.
We are in a similar position, second viewing a house tomorrow. 4 beds rather than our current 3,although fewer reception rooms. Massive garden though and off road parking on a tiny private road which are big selling points. So hard know what to do!

Our ASDA delivery is still taking orders for 8am delivery slots (I just did my shopping as I can't face going out!) for tomorrow if that helps Gilster!

Hello all! Just catching up...

hope good luck re the house, tricky situation!

How are you doing, ohholy?

Oof, queazy, poor you! Been there with DS and it's bloody awful! The last time he threw himself to the ground and refused to move in Asda I vowed not to do it again - click & collect all the way these days!

cuppa, first weekend (hopefully) settled in the new place, how us it??

Interesting end to the week this end - DP came home early to say he'd lost his job. I am now the sole breadwinner....absolutely fine, if it weren't for the impending baby..

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend x