April 2015 Thread 15: Babies galore!

[BrixtonBunny]

Babies are now coming thick and fast... Let's see how many will come on this thread!

brummagem lol!!!!

Finally done all the sanding and filling. Will vac when the dust settles, and at last paint the ceiling... I will get coat one done today!

Thanks both. Brummagem your post has cheered me up my other half sounds very similar. I'm sure he won't bother with changing the nappies either. And he certainly won't be getting up in the night to helps with feeds etc. If he does then I will personally get him a gold star sticker. Obviously I have gone into the pregnancy knowing all of this. I doubt he's drastically changed, I'm just noticing things more. This maternity leave malarkey is not doing my brain any favours with not working or interacting with people!

I know what you mean ivegotacavetroll. I complain that we don't feel physically close anymore, but I can't bring myself to have sex often and I'd be too hot even if he did cuddle me.
Who'd have thought that pregnancy hormones would cause this many brain-meltdowns?!

Daholster you're not painting the ceiling by yourself are you?! Be careful

Most men tend to change their tune once the baby is here. It's like it's not real for them until they see a baby.

Totally agree Lauren. I might have a bump but I'm also certain he forgets that there is a baby in there!

RL I'm planning on breastfeeding so DP will do the nappy changes! Well that's the current plan, anyway. It takes two people to have a baby so don't let your DP get away with leaving you to do all the chores - especially after the birth, all you should be doing is resting!

We're going to hire a cleaner this week so that it's one less thing we have to worry about once the baby arrives - I can't imagine either of us will be feeling very inclined to be hoovering or dusting or sweeping with a newborn, and apparently chores are one of the main sources of arguments between couples after they have a baby.

DH has been told in no uncertain terms that if he thinks he's not changing a nappy etc then he's got another thing coming. Thankfully I think he's excited to get involved- he isn't a manly man like your other halves, but i'd be pretty blunt about it. They had a part in making the baby, they can help look after it!

My DH is going to be a stay at home Daddy so he's actually going to be doing most of the baby stuff! I get feeding and cuddles and the rest is for him! Can't say I'm looking forward to going back to work and leaving them to it though...

Thanks for the link Brixton. Dim sum was excellent, I'm sure I've had about a month's pregnancy allowance of squid cuttlefish etc but too close to the end to worry now. Don't think you need a licence for the air gun if the fox problem gets too much like hard work, you don't want to be clearing up split rubbish bags on top of looking after a new baby (or at all, ever in fact). V gd idea of yours to hire a cleaner. I bloody love mine.

London so is mine. He has taken DD to pizza express so he can cheer himself up with solo dad booze - she had asked to go to local (unlicensed) cafe!

Well done on organising your feeding consultant Penguin. I found expressing quite hard work but then I didn't bother investing in a proper electric pump so was doing it with a hand one. Not sure why I bothered, it was only so DH could have a go at doing actual feeding, we soon gave up on it as too much like hard work and she didn't take the bottle v well anyway.

DH will be doing all nap changes again for first ten days or so, I musn't bend post section after all. He's very adept at that sort of thing anyway and like you guys FiRaffe and Brixton I'm quite frank about what is acceptable and what isn't (poor DH would probably say it's along the lines of 'my way or the highway!'). He's nearly ten years older than me but the youngest sibling of three older sisters whereas I'm the eldest so bossiness comes very naturally to me

FiRaffe I wish I had your mentality! Well, I do think like that, it just doesn't seem to come out in actual words sometimes!

I think one of the main things is, with his daughter (who is now 6) if you've previously seen me talk about the relationship with his ex etc, you'll know, but she split with him supposedly before she knew she was pregnant (which no one believes) and got together with someone else. Anyway, she made it hard for him in the beginning and he didn't had regular access when she was a tiny baby up until about the age of 1, really. So he never did nappy changes or bath times (I blame his mum for automatically taking over with that too), so as she got older he felt more uncomfortable with bathing her and things as he didn't do when she was first born. So I've always done bath time, getting her changed and doing her hair when she's with us, and as she's always lived with just her mum, she's more of a girls girl anyway and wouldn't want daddy doing them sort of things.
So I'm hoping, and he did say it himself, that he'll feel more comfortable with nappies and things as he'll have baby from the very beginning. So it'll be as new to him as it will be to me!

Not the ceiling today, light isn't good enough now, but it only needs a coat I think. The walls are green so need many coats to get them antique white...

Dd helped. "Helped". Dh knew this would happen, and we encouraged her to paint. Trouble is she painted the floor and newspaper and finger painted the was before getting the hang of brush on the wall so the floor is covered But that's OK. I had told dh she would paint in a nappy and hat but today he pulled a hole in her leggings on the car seat buckle and her old vest was a bit small so I decided to let her paint in those. He was annoyed, he said the leggings didn't need throwing away!!! I said she has plenty of others, which he said was the wrong attitude... The hole is towards the top of the left thigh and is about the size of a little 5p piece. Apparently he thought it was insignificant. I ignored him. They can be her painting in leggings now!!! I'm not being funny but leggings cost £3 in Tesco. Granted these were Next ones so may have cost a fiver, but they have a hole in!!!! Haven't got far, half a wall done, dinner ready though. And we've had an argument about me not buying radiators til his dad is back to look at it... And me saying I want to order the carpet and the radiator needs doing before then, and him saying we have 6 months left to do all this so long as the painting is done

I wanted his room done

Sounds like everything is moving on for everyone.
My husband and myself are getting on well but he does sometimes watch me struggling t bend t pick up my glass or something! I think he thinks I will ask if I'm struggling!
Had mat appt on Fri. She said the head was v engaged n doesn't think it would b long. I'm now feeling v uncomfortable like their is a melon between my pelvis. The thing is its my first and I am petrified. Having it our local midweife led unit ten mins walk away. Lovely place but no doctors etc..
Just feel petrified. Supposing I can't cvope with the pain or I don't bond with the baby. Also my chest n nipples really really hurt.. Supposing I push the baby away if he trys t latch on!
This is so self indulgent this post but I'm scared!xx

Aww Daholster don't stress yourself out. Will baby be with you in your bedroom for a bit, anyway? That'll give you chance to get more done at an easier pace.

Chiliplant wow! Probably not long to go then How far along are you? I'm 36+6 with my first and I don't think I've though about the pain enough! The weeks are flying by so far and labour will be here before I know it. I don't think I'll know what's hit me! I'm sure we'll be just fine!

Just back from singing in church choir's meditative service to start Holy Week.

All I can say to ladies inclined to sing is that it is probably best to avoid singing the In Paradisum from Faure's Requiem whilst also in the middle of a quite intense Braxton-Hicks. Ouch.

It's scary stuff chiliplant!!! So much unknown! Nothing anyone can say will convince you that YOU will be ok but you will. I worried in about everything with ds1, worried I wouldn't love ds2 as much as ds1 and worried about how ds3's health will be. Labour is tough but in the grand scheme of things it's short and you will get through it.

I don't think I worry so much about who does what at what time. If I'm feeding baby then im already doing something and certainly in the beginning you pretty much change with each feed, can't imagine going off to find Dh to get him to change a nappy when I have baby in my arms. I will never forget going to a birthday party and listening to a couple argue for a good 5 mins about who's turn it was to change their dd's nappy because he'd done the last one but she had helped so was his turn again I was just totally and actually for them. But then again DH would always offer me a drink every time I sat down to feed and is pretty good at looking after me. I do a lot of stuff because I want it done my way but Dh does his share imo and he works blimmin hard too. Not saying I don't but I am happy to get on with stuff. Different matter with a stinky toddler wandering around with a Dh ignoring that they've done a poo! My boys never ask daddy for anything to eat if they're home alone with him but pounce on my as soon as I come home which drives me mad but that's not dh's fault just the way they are.

Your oh will get much more involved when baby is here RL20 as long as you let him. I think it is not real for them until baby is here, you are so tied to the baby, you feel every movement and it's all happening to you. There will also be a very different relationship between you and you oh and the baby because you are a family unit rather than the difficult situation he must have had before. But your mind won't be out at rest until it's happening and you can see how he feels.

Hmm is it being greedy having a second tea? I'm hungry again.

Had braised steak with mash, cabbage, Yorkshire pudding and toast potatoes at my mums. Followed by a quarter slice of cherry pie and custard at about 5pm. I'm getting pretty hungry now like I could eat an entire meal again, is that just being greedy because I'm a bit bored or totally justifiable?

Annia - i'm so impressed with you singing that anyway this pregnant...my diaphragm is so far up now that my breath control doesn't work! Any held notes stop way too short!

RL - hopefully as you say your OH will be better once the new baby arrives.

Cinnamon - that is a sad story about whose turn it is! I hope we never end up like that!

I'm 38+2. I guess I figured start worrying at April 11th due date and then onwards as first baby's are usually late etc.

I feel far more uncomfortable. Had t deliver some green party posters and it killed me!
Does anyone know if it all sounds Immanent?
Thanks for your support. Xx

Lauren not greedy at all! I've been eating like a horse. Go wild

I want this baby out but then again i don't because of the pain! Due for 2nd sweep tomo seems things have not moved since lost some of plug. No contractions today either all very boring!

DP has finally built the snuzpod and assembled the pram - it's feeling very real seeing them there, waiting for the baby... Tomorrow he's got the day off so we're going to paint the baby room (well, he will paint it unless I have a bout of energy!) and put the changing table and bookcase in it. Not much but it's a start!

Lunch with friends earlier was lovely, nice to show them the new digs, though have eaten like a pig - spinach, ricotta and Stilton lasagne; herby potato salad; tomato and mozzarella salad: cumin rice salad; and two helpings of Eton mess. Then leftovers for supper just now. I know some of you are struggling to eat but I think bump has always been quite low and so space is less of an issue - sadly, as I'm probably eating more than I should

Haha Annia. I'm singing Faure's Requiem on Good Friday will be 36+4 then.. Fortunately not doing the Pie Jesu solo! We sang Matheus Lift Up Ye Heads this morning which is easier to breathe in! Got Handel's Worthy is the Lamb soon too breathing optional. Will miss being in the choir but being able to hold something longer than a crotchet will be nice lol.

Brixton, I went through an ' all you can eat at home' stage about three weeks ago. I literally couldn't stop. Esp cheese!!

Fi, me and DH take turns in doing wake up and bedtime with DD. I wouldn't say we argue over it, but I refuse to budge when it's his turn and he's dragging his heels, plus he has a slightly busier social calendar than I have so is sometimes out and about at bedtime. But when I do 2 in a row he tends to pick up an extra wake up to give me a bit of a lie in. Can't say we've ever moaned at each other in public whose turn it is. That's just very embarrassing.

DH came home from the pub and made me chocolate cake but has now told me it's too late to eat it and has sent me to bed. He is rubbish!

Chilli I've counted and the lunch I made included five types of cheese I have no shame.