April 07 - Look out world - hormones flying, it's the 2nd trimester

[Bramshott]

Ta-da!

MIAM - don't know if you've already know about these tips, but I find they really help to relieve pelvic pain (can't take the credit for them-theres a thread on here about it, but can't find it!)

*Try wearing satin/silk nightie/pjs to bed. Because they are so smooth, they make it easier to turn over in bed.
*In bed, put a pillow between your legs, and keep them together.
*When you get out of bed, off a chair, out of the car etc, keep your legs together, and swing round (iykwim)
(bit of a recurring theme here - keep legs together maybe if we'd done that in the first place!!!!!!)
I wore high heels yesterday, and I'm really paying for it today.

Hope this helps
x

Morning ladies.

Apologies in advance for hijaking the thread.. feeling really down and upset, just looking for a bit of reassurance and hugs.

Was lying on the sofa last night, dp was on the floor playing with the cat, I asked him if he wanted to come up and site next to me, and he said there was no space as I was lying there like "a beached whale". .

Now at first he said he was only playing with me and he meant it in a jokey way, but I got really upset, to which he responded by getting up, saying that nothing he ever did was good enough, that everything was always his fault and it must be great being so fucking perfect. He stormed outside to have a cigarette, so I went upstairs and went watched tv in bed. Half an hour later he came in, shoes on and went back out again for a couple of hours.. no idea where he went. He eventually came back, and went and slept in the spare room.

I am so upset by all of this as I feel as though I havent done anything wrong. I tried to broach the subject this morning, all I got was the same as last night, that it was my fault for not taking it as a joke as it was intended, and that I have upset him, and that I have twisted everything in my head.

To be fair, although he hurt me by what he said, it hurt so much more that he couldnt see that he had upset me, and that he made no attempt to make things better. All he had to do was apologise for being a bit insensitive instead of blowing things up. Got myself so upset when he walked out, and couldnt help but thinking "is he going to do this when we have a baby"...

Sorry so much for the rant, just needed to get it off my chest. Sat here at work most of the morning in tears.... they must think I'm a right crazy

Oh and I'm not a beached whale.... I'm a size 12 with a 16 week today bump...

Hi guys. Just thought I'd post that the bit of facial scrub is out of my eye!! Hurray! Thanks to all who posted sympathy! GGF - I hope your finger is getting better too - these beauty product type things must be out to get us!

Still on a short fuse though which doesn't bode well for the board meeting I have to go to this evening - have visions of me piping up "for goodness sake, if you'd all just be sensible we could go home" - and I'm only supposed to be there to take the minutes!! Still, on the plus side, I think it's the last time I have to go to London before Christmas thank goodness.

Hope all having a good day. Can't wait to hear more lovely scan stories. I rolled over onto my tummy in bed this morning by accident, and bump promptly went rigid and uncomfortable for about a minute - I'd clearly squashed it and it was complaining!!

(hugs) GMM. I totally sympathise and think your DH is totally out of order. He should be taking into account the effect of pgcy hormones and how vulnerable we all feel at the moment. However irrational it may seem like we are being...

Also, whenever DH and I have a fall out at the moment, however minor, I can't help thinking exactly the same - 'will it/he be like this when the baby comes along'. I think that is totally normal and shows how anxious we all are about what is in store and how we will cope.

Hope you feel better already just for coming on MN.

(((to all those feeling tired)))

I've been suffering too, many from the waking up for a wee in the night plus waking up for no reason at 5 a.m. and not being able to go back to sleep. However, last night I had a full night's sleep for the first time in absolutely weeks, so I feel human again.
Best make the most of it!

Pesha - it has been a bit slow for me to refresh these pages over the last day or so. I access from work and we have dedicated broadband lines for our building so it might just be that we're too darn chatty on this thread ... Not sure what we'd call a new one tho'.. Mid-second trimester-ish April babies??

Sorry GMM - x-posted... I wonder if your DP is feeling a bit neglected / uninvolved at the moment, and that's why he's being a bit of a sod?
Not to excuse his comment(), but the first trimester and until you can feel the baby move (externally) is a time when I think us gals get fairly introspective and it's all about us (nothing wrong with that BTW!), and the menfolks just can't really participate or feel a part of that until they can physically feel something themselves? I'm sure once the baby's kicking like a demon and they can start interacting more, everything will sort itself out...

Bram - good news on the grit disappearance!

I cross-posted as well GMM. Sorry to hear you had a crap night last night. These men and their great "sense of humour" eh?!? Don't they realise we are emotional and neurotic bags of hormones???

Morning all. Geordie, hope you are feeling a bit better now. Bloody hell, if your dp thinks that your size 12 frame is like a beached whale let him come to my house!! I am considerably more portly and would still be pissed off at the remark! I think men just dont get it sometimes and just assume we are flying off the handle for no reason. I would like to see them cope with the hormones.

CD, hope you enjoy your well deserved mocha and it helps relieve some of your stress!

Doghouse, try not to stress about the baby coming. Yes its hard work but it is also the most wonderful thing ever so try not to worry. I wonder very regularly how I will manage with two children, but I just will I guess.

MIAM, your poor neighbour losing their baby. I am sure they would feel awful though if they thought you were trying to hide your bump from them, and they will probably enjoy sharing your happiness when the baby decides to make an appearance.

Geordie - Off out for my Mocha in a sec, but before I go, I just had to send you BIG [[[[HUGS]]]]]]]] My DH is behaving VERY similarly atm, if that makes it any easier?? He just says nasty stuff out of the blue, completely out of context and huffs off over nothing, leavning me feeling hurt, angry, upset and lost. I tihnk it is just his way of dealing with his emotions, iykwim!!? He is obviously full up with something that needs shifting atm, but he won't talk to me about it. It is getting me down. Sory this is not about me, but about you Geordie - just wanted to let you know that you are not the only who is experiencing this with their partner atm. [[hugs]]

Going now .........

Oh, and new thread here!

(Hope that is ok with the rest of you guys!!!?)

Big hugs to everyone - nearly passed out again this morning in town - seems going to the bank and a quick look in shops sets it off!!

I rang the hospital about my scan - Monday 27 May at 11.30am - which is great. Need to find someone to look after ds2 - should be okay - my parents are due to visit that day with all the baby stuff from my sister - so will be mega exciting.

CD - am part exchanging my CRV for Citroen C8 - 7 seater - lots of space - nice to drive - 53 reg - blue. Can have all 7 seats up and still get pushchair in boot! Must go and get some seat protectors before the boys even get near it! It is all the way up in Kidderminster - so may go via Formes in Cheltenham!!

15 mintues peace left...!

27th may??!! Isn't that leaving it a bit late CK!