July 2015 - the thread in which bumps really start to appear...

[fattycow]

New thread, ladies!

Here is the stats list:
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muddy, we aren't going to find out the sex. We didn't with dd and it was just the most amazing thing because it meant dh told me the sex after she'd been born, rather than a sonographer, midwife or consultant we will probably never see again. Dh loved telling me, he was so proud.

fatty, yes I've heard of hospitals getting the sex wrong too. Can you imagine?! If we were in America, I'm sure people would be suing for that, lol!! (No offence meant if there's any US folk on here). Gosh, three days isn't a long time to register the birth is it? I think it took us two days to choose dd's name and we had already got a short list of two!

We did exactly the same last time Gotto, even though we knew it was a girl, it was still something I double checked when she came out with her legs around her ears. I had an elcs due to dd being breech though so had the energy to care. I knew for absolute sure when the staff commented that her exit position was not very lady like.
We are probably not going to find out this time, though we still have a couple of weeks to change our minds. We don't need to know at all as we already have all neutral stuff from last time.

Congrats on the boys blue team ladies

Thanks all. The only reason I can think of for finding out (for us) is that we both picture a girl. If it turns out to be a boy we would not care a jot, but it would be a bit like having to adjust your TV set to get a clear picture again. We are inheriting quite a lot of boy clothes though, so everyone will think it's a boy anyway .

Very exciting to hear about everyone's scan news. I'll be 21 weeks on weds when we have ours. I've noticed that people who are anti finding out sex (not anyone on here but in real life) have been almost annoyed when I say I will be finding out.
It's nothing to do with buying things for a certain sex (nursery will be yellow and grey and we won't be buying any gender specific clothes clothes etc) for me it's about feeling in control. Everything else in the 9 months is in the lap of the gods (or that's what it feels like) so to know this one thing feels quite important to me.
And like muddy says, whilst I'll just be thrilled that baby is healthy I do have a mental picture in my mind of a particular sex and I want to have time to adjust that.

I wish I was more patient though as I bet it's an amazing suprise at delivery.

We are hoping not to find out. We didn't want to with DD either but had to be told by our consultant at 28 week scan so it was taken out of our hands. It was really nice knowing but I really would like a suprise this time. But right now all I care about is getting through the 20 week scan without any abnormalities being detected as that is where things got stressful last time.

Yeah I find the same Touch, people I know IRL who are anti finding out can be quite rude about it when I say we are finding out. Each to their own I say, it's wonderful either way!

I don't know why people are so rude in rl or why they think it's any of their business. It is great either way, which is kind of why, having found out once, for the same reason as Touch, I want to try the other way. Something different for a different pregnancy.

Ooh I'm so conflicted on this! On the one hand DH wants to know the sex and it would be exciting to be able to find out next week (we would keep it a secret between us) and would make it a bit more real for both of us, as well as making it easier to choose names etc. However, we didn't find out last time and I have a very precious memory of the moment just after DS was born when I looked down and found out he was a boy, it was incredible, so would love to have that again. I guess meeting your child for the first time is always incredible though whether you know the sex or not! I think it might have to be a spur-of-the-moment decision on the day, but as DH probably won't be able to come to the scan that leaves the decision to just me

Hope everyone's having a good weekend!

People seem to be extra judgmental about anything to do with pregnancy / babies / children. I always just think it's because they imagine anyone making different decisions to them is somehow a negative comment on their own parenting (or imagined parenting if they aren't parents yet!) so they are defensively judgmental. I find it best to ignore and assume they are just channeling their own insecurities!

Yes mister, you're absolutely right re judgmental folk. It happens with anything and everything to do with parenthood - from prams to cots, weaning to schooling and clothing to sleeping! We practice gentle/attachment parenting and although I'm happy to discuss it with anyone here who is interested, we don't broadcast it IRL because people either think we are hippies and off our rockers or assume we will start banging on about our beliefs. There's a lot of APers out there who preach, preach, preach and it drives even me bonkers!!

no idea what gentle parenting is...
people will.judge no.matter what. I raise my children to be decent members of society, to have manners and to realise that the world does not revolve around them, that to get anywhere in life they have to work at it. my ds is six and an amazing little boy. he even puts the toilet seat down and cleans up if he misses

The judgeyness and the feeling that being pregnant makes you public property has really blown me away (even though I'd read posts on here about it before). I'm amazed at the number of people who want to police what I eat/drink - and it's usually people who haven't had children or had them many years previously (so don't know up to date guidelines)

I've downloaded Expecting Better onto my iphone and if people really wont STFU I just show them the relevant paragraph in there.

We're off on hols next weekend and thankfully all my friends going are fully signed up to the 'break the pregnancy rules' club so I can relax!

Fatty I wish your DS would come and teach my DH the toilet seat trick!

I have drilled it into him from a very young age and refuse to put it down if he forgets, I call him and make him do it so its less effort if he just does it in the first place!

Fatty send him here to teach my DH afterwards!
I don't subscribe to any particular parenting 'technique', I just do my best which I'm sure is what most people do.

Thanks for all your advice ladies earlier in the week. DH and I had a lovely romantic meal and enjoyed a glass of champagne without any passing comment, so I was worrying for nothing.

20 week scan on Thursday for us - think we would like to know the sex, but of course completely a personal choice. It would be nice to avoid two sets of arguments over names, and think it would be nice to have that feeling of already knowing something about the little one to focus on for the rest of pregnancy and during delivery. I suspect it's going to be a wriggler once it's out based on the amount of movement I've been feeling since 16 weeks!

Got some Next maternity wear coming to try on as I had some gift cards to use, but don't hold out much hope of it fitting. However, had to do something as bump is increasingly unmanageable in current wardrobe!

Just wish I didn't have round ligament pain and SPD and horrible Braxton Hicks in the middle of the night already. At least I'm seeing physio this week.

Hope you are all having a good weekend and there's not too much worrying going on.

Yea for more team blues. We found out last wk we're expecting a little boy (at 17+2). No real reason other than I'm totally impatient (nursery is neutral)! Though I must say he wasn't cooperative to begin with and pic is bit blurry (and has "three lines", so have read that could be a girls bits?!?). Muddy as per you, I had been feeling 'girly' but happy to adjust my thoughts to welcoming a little man! But... just in case of 'errors' we'll pretend we don't know at 20wk scan and be interesting to see if they confirm boy or say it's a girl! If they did say girl, then I'm going with the 50:50 / it'll be a surprise on the day gang! Maybe even a gremlin - gotto lol.

Hi lost souls due date buddy (also a sugar addict I see)! My 20wk scan is thurs 27th so just day before yours. At the sexing scan at 17+2 they checked a few organs they could see for anomalies but still had three weeks to grow so couldn't check everything. So I'll have my fingers crossed til then.

Congrats on all the 20 weekers!! Can't wait to get to the half way mark! 18+3 for me today.

RE exercising. I do absolutely nada at mo but hoping to start swimming once a week and have just bought a pregnancy Pilates dvd. Clstow (think you were after some preg DVDs)- it has v good reviews, although not yet received to try it out myself yet! www.pilateswithpriya.co.uk/site/dvd/

Completely agree with Broody I can't believe some people are being horrible to you lovely pregnant ladies at work - It says more about them than anything else!!!!

P.S Broody I'd for one be keen to know more about attachment parenting so and if you want to explain, add web links, or recommend books id like to learn more.

I am getting fed up with all this back pain...

Swap you back pain for my sickness and nausea, fatty? Oh and insomnia.

MrsRyan I've got a DS and a DD already

Fatty not worried - got scans at 20,24,28,32 and 36 weeks so not too worried about them getting it wrong as I've got plenty of chances to check ha!

fatty thanks for updating my stats.
Congrats to others who had sexing scans.

Would have loved to have left finding out, but DP will not be at the birth with me. We were also bumping heads on names, he is Albanian and all the boy names sound so aggressive or are hard to pronounce in English.
On another note spent the day ordering maternity cloths, pants not done up is not a good look lol.

Nausea and insomnia were easier to deal with. I can hardly move due to the pain at times...

I can sympathise with the back pain sufferers as my lower back is starting to ache now. Need to work on my core muscles to counter it ASAP.

Not sure if it's worse than nausea but I guess that depends on the relative seriousness of each. For me, right now, I'd rather be achey.

I could battle my nausea with constant eating, but nothing seems to help with the pain.