Home stretch for Februray babies! Thread 7

[BanglesSpangles]

Hi All

Here's what may or may not be our final thread!!

Reporting in on the new thread, having a day at home trying to motivate myself to get the hospital bag finally finished, not succeeding!

Frenetic I agree with the rest, nothing's going to change in the next month or so :)

The Dr didn't give me any exercises, actually she didn't say very much only for me asking questions as it wasn't the consultant it was meant to be just a junior doctor I think (she is a friend of an acquaintance though don't think she recognised me as only met her once). Just said to review at the 37w scan, though I've been googling exercises so will get on it as I don't think I want a c section.
I think when I go swimming it causes him to turn, as every time I've gone he seems to have moved as I've felt it loads over the next day or so afterwards. Being so lazy over Christmas probably don't help so it's back to walking etc!

However in the plus side he is bang on the 50th centile now at 5lbs, which is good after he was measured way over both in weight and length at various times.

Thanks for the new thread.
Yesterday was hell. I got to the end of the day hardly able to walk. 4 weeks till due date but the way I was feeling yesterday I think it will be less. I hope so I've had enough. Making other half put crib up this weekend just in case.
Today I've had my nails done and now sat in my onsie and do not intend to move other than to get up and stuff my face.

I think you're probably all right, just hoping it's not going to affect how the hospital operates. I can imagine staff there are feeling a little nervous!

donkir I feel for you. Solidarity fist bump.

Goodness, only haven't check for a half day thanks for the new thread Bangles

Frenetic as others said no changes will happen overnight so you'll be fine.

donkir good work. Had my nails done as well and treated myself to re-polish if my toes as I can't reach them and my DH refused to do them

Tonight - it might "only" be a day but when you're starting to find it really hard and have a set end date, then its changed, it must be gutting and feel like a lot longer.

I'm starting to wonder how on earth we are going to make it through BILs wedding 17days post c section. Its going to be hell to leave my precious DD at just 17days old (she won't be able to go because of dangers mil poses to her). Then there's the fact I'm hoping to be bf - how we are going to work that I don't know. Then there's normal post baby sleep deprivation on top of a pregnancy of sleep deprivation thanks to PGP. Plus recovery from a c section and the possibility that my PGP won't have gone away. If it wasn't BILs wedding no way would we bother going but as its BILs we can't not go. Somebody tell me it'll be OK.

just been called by the home birth lead for my area and she was lovely- kinda wish she was my midwife, because mine's a little bit stern!

:) feeling all positive now

and why it'll be ok :)

My mum admitted she went to her best friend's wedding the day after she was let out of hospital with me! She just went to the ceremony and the meal and left straight after- was only out of the house for about 5 hours in the end- I'm sure your BIL will understand if you only go for part of it/as much as you feel able (is it near to home?)

No not near home - its over 60miles away 1hr30mins ish, so that's another bad point. Although we can stay at my moms about 7miles from it. I don't particularly fancy the journey down.

I don't think it would feel as bad if we could take our newborn baby but its really not worth risking with mil (we thought we could manage her when we had DS - he was just 6weeks old when she hurt him for "daring to sleep in her presence"!!!).

wow, I won't pry, but your MIL sounds like a bit of something!

Frenetic... how annoying. But you're so close. I bet if it does happen, it won't happen till long after you've had your little Bean.

Can someone who has had a baby before please confirm for me what nesting is....is it a rage that ensues when you feel totally disorganised for a baby that's not due for another 6 weeks? Or when you get angry with your extremely laid back DH when he can't understand why I need to get everything now, or when he cannot see that the house is in a total mess with sh*t everywhere and it's driving me nuts, when it never really bothered me before! Can the 'nesting' instinct last for 6 weeks or is it one of two things... did I either get out of bed this morning the wrong way very slowly and awkwardly or is this sudden urge to get everything sorted in a blind panic preparing me for a baby that's going to come early? I feel like I'm going to explode with frustration!! So sorry for dampening this new lovely shiny thread with a big moan!

haha blank- I feel like nesting is generic term for OH's to throw about when they fancy- Mine sagely said 'aah you must be nesting' to me last night- I was just putting a pack of nappies in a drawer!

If I was nesting, I'm sure I'd be scrubbing the stairs or something

Why, you could just go for the ceremony and then head home or can you take someone who can have the baby close by and then you can excuse yourself as needed to see to the baby?

If you are breastfeeding it might be tricky though

Blank I think nesting can go on for weeks and in my experience it is a serious need to get stuff sorted - like right now this minute.

Bangles mil is cruel beyond belief. DS was got out of there fast enough that he had no lasting harm but she had bruised him - a 6week old baby, for fucks sake. She's assaulted me before for "making DH happy" . Thankfully DH dealt with the past and managed to break free of her and we don't see her at all normally now.

Jack we have been wondering if we could just get away with going for ceremony and not the rest but thought that really we'd need to do ceremony and meal, since its BIL - what do people think? We've also been wondering if my mom could be hidden away (its all at a hotel) there somewhere with baby and keep calling us out to feed her but we're not sure how we can keep baby and my mom from being found by mil, unless we pay for a room, but its a £100 a room place.

Bf really is an issue with it though at 17days there's still no routine, feeds take a long time, etc.

What a nightmare whyo, but maybe just don't think about it too much yet, you've got enough on your plate. It'll work itself out. How mobile are you at the moment?

At my last couple of midwife appointments there has been a student sitting in. Today she didn't know what VBAC meant and last time she didn't know why they test for protein in urine. What do they teach them??

Why, if your parents only live 7 miles from the wedding, could you leave Baba with your parents for the ceremony, then head back for a feed and lots of cuddles and then if you were up to it, then go back for the meal and see how Bean is after that. You could express some milk and if all else fails, you're only 7 miles away. I know it's a tricky one. No one wants to leave their LO so soon after but you have an amazing excuse to leave when you need to.

jeebus- sounds like the best thing that you've all managed to extract yourselves from her!

Maybe call the hotel and see if there's anywhere that your mum might be able to cosset herself away in? They might be able to offer you a cheap rate room, seeing as she would only need it for half a day, or they might just have another space that she could hide in for a few hours?- They might have meeting rooms or something perhaps

Blanks what you are describing I would call 'preggo rage' I released enough of that now that dh was hoovering at 10 last night after building a tv cabinet and sweeping the kitchen!
Nesting to me is seeing the mess and just doing it yourself because you cant be arsed with waiting for things to be done

Whyo sounds like a bit of an impossible situation, either your mum would have to be there so you can feed or you will need to take a pump to relieve some pressure. I went to a wedding the same distance away when ds was 6 weeks old and it was horrid I sobbed all the way down and wanted to come home and pick dh up the next day, it was a no children wedding. I had a good time once I was sloshed but I didn't bf. I am sure your bil would understand if you just went for ceremony. I would personally just commit for ceremony and meal at most.

Tbh I'd go to the ceremony only, organise a meal with your bil and new sil when they get from back from honeymoon, sounds a dreadful situation tbh

Why are you going to the wedding? It sounds like a nightmare. Your priority is your baby. Don't feel bullied by all these weirdos. Sorry if I sound harsh I just feel sad for you having to deal with this at such a vulnerable time. Xxx

10 minutes to home time, and then I, ladies and gentlemen, will be going swimming. I bloody hate swimming, but in my head, I've turned it into some kind of miracle cure for all my aches and pains.

It better bloody work, or I'm going to be another one with the preggo rage

Sunshine BIL and his bride to be are lovely and DH has always been very close to his brother. Its just unfortunate that his brother hasn't plucked up the courage to cut mil out of his life yet (he's starting to distance himself from her). DH thinks it'll take BIL having his own kids for him to fully manage it, like it did for DH.

honey maybe you're right and somehow it'll work out but I've got myself worried about it - its a logistical nightmare.

blank & Memphis I didn't ever manage to express even a tiny drop with DS, even when he skipped a feed once and they felt agonisingly painful they were that full, so I'm not holding out hope on the express anything, either to feed baby or relieve pressure.

jack I'm glad you've said that, DH thinks it may upset his brother if we only went to the ceremony and would possibly be considered rude/socially unacceptable. I think its the best plan because I could encourage her to feed immediately before we left my mom and dads house for the ceremony, then hopefully be back before she was too hungry again.

bangles I'm might try and see if they will do that. Any room that can be locked would be fine.

Bangles hope you have a nice relaxing time swimming

Sorry to hear of your wedding trouble why

I agree with what the others have said and To be honest I wouldn't even worry about going, just send DH on his own. Enjoy your special time with baby

Oh my goodness today I went to Zizzis for lunch with a friend then on the way home hoovered the car, car washed it and then put the base in for baby seat and thrn drove to get dh from work as he was stranded resulting in thr worst arse pain ever like baby was on a nerve, I got out at wilkos to get some cables and was in so much pain walking around. There was a mw behind me in the queue who said judging by my face I wont last 2 weeks (I hope she is right) dh had to lift me out the car as the pressure in my backside is so bad!