April 2015 #4 - time to start glowing and growing

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I thought I'd start a new thread as the old one was almost full up xxx

Ahh happy 1st birthday to Miss Cherry, I bet that was a lovely moment.

I'm sooooo tired we went to the darts in wolverhampton and stayed in a travelodge last night and the bed was rubbish so it's Indian takeaway and early night for me.

I'm not feeling anything yet, it's my 1st baby and I will be 18 weeks on Tuesday, is that normal?

I'm similar with dh's ex wife's name CherryLips1980, I loved it before I met dh. Would be very weird to have it now though!! So lovely your ds walked today, mine were no where near their birthdays ds1 16months and ds2 10 months. Guess she was showing off to the audience

I didn't feel this one until 17 weeks Wineandchoccy and it's my third. Midwife said at my 16wk apt that they don't worry until 24weeks so plenty of time to not feel it and still be fine! I was anxious though so I understand, felt ds1 at 14 weeks and ds2 at 12 so goes to show they can all be different

I also walked for the first time on my 1st birthday. My dd was 14 months...

wineandchoccy I was 19+4, and then I wasn't sure. You'll probably suddenly realise you've been feeling it for a while but thought it was your tummy rumbling or something

Happy birthday Miss Cherry

Wineandchoccy, I'm not feeling anything yet either I thought I did weeks ago but nothing since. I am 16+1 now and it's my third. Getting a bit keen to feel things now for a bit of reassurance I must say, good to hear 24 weeks is the worry point.

Thank you for DDs birthday wishes! She slept all night in her cot! (We often end up co sleeping.) We really must move her into her own room sooner rather than later. I don't really want to #can'tletgo

First time mums, enjoy every second of your babies, it's such a cliche but they really do grow up so fast! I know someone whose baby is a couple of weeks younger than DD and she has spent this whole first year wishing her DD could do X, Y and Z and not noticing how well her DD is actually doing.

Who was it that was considering a cat net - if you do still want one, I've found ours which you can have if you wish?

I didn't realise they don't worry about movement till 24 weeks! I didn't feel DD for ages but her placenta was at the front AND she was tiny. I have felt stuff already this time, but not sure if it's cos I know what I 'should' be feeling this time.

Argh just been sick for the first time in ages was hungry when I went to bed, got up walked dogs and got ready and was then starving. Didn't make breakfast quite in time!

I was surprised at 24weeks too, it seems very late.

Who was it who had their scan today, I can't remember. Anyway hope all goes well

Hope everyone is doing well! On the movement front I thought I felt a couple of kicks early last week (followed by breathe stopping sharp pain :s) but not really aware of feeling much since, placenta is at the front though so expect it will be a while before I notice proper movement.

Back at work this weekend and it was exhausting they're moving me to tills next month which is just as well! Had a sit down with the big boss to get my head around what they wanted me to do with my holiday and I'm going to start my maternity leave March 16th and use all of my holiday before hand so I'll be off from pretty much the beginning of February.

DH was off on holiday all of last week and has gone back today, he's not off again until Friday and I'm not looking forward to the next few days, especially as she has taken to telling him and him alone when she needs a change. I generally find out by her waving her bum in my face!

Don't forget people with a lot of weight round the middle have that extra cushion so it stops them feeling quite a bit. My boss is quite hefty (still looks pregnant even though her DD is nearly 3!) she said she didn't feel anything with either of hers till about 22 weeks.

All is quiet on the movement front from my end. I'm beginning to think the placenta is more at the front than I first thought and as bump is growing it's spreading further over and muffling the little movements I have been feeling. I still get the odd fluttery roll every now and then so there is still something but not much.
16+5

Oh just re read that and it sounded a bit rude. I meant in regards to 24 weeks before panic from a medical point of view. Didn't want to offend anyone if I did.

I did like Christina for a girl but now that my surname is Turner I don't fancy having a little "Tina Turner" haha.
I'm still torn on finding out the sex. I had an emotinal breakdown over the weekend and found my self uncontrolably sobbing (im blaming the hormones!) and When DH asked what was wrong it all came flooding out. that i'm worried I won't bond and that i might not love it enough and if i knew what sex it was I could prepare myself. Now it's Monday morning i realise i was possibly a little over dramatic on the crying front and now i really don't know what to do at my 20 week scan.

I'm 18 weeks today and i don't think i've felt anything, but it's my first so i'll have to hang on a few weeks til they are more obvious.

Hiding if you're not sure about finding out at the scan, an alternative might be to take a piece of paper and an envelope and get the sonographer to write it down, then if you crack you can open it? That was something I considered.

I know what you mean about bonding though, I'm still struggling with the concept there's a baby in there!

I am watching the clock today, my gender scan is at 4:30! Ahh and they should be able to tell, if they can't then I'll be scanned again.

I would do the envelope idea (was about to suggest it) if I didn't know whether I wanted to know.

I have always wanted to know, I don't feel like I can bond to something that doesn't have a name. Silly perhaps but once I know (as sure as you can be until birth anyway!) what gender it is. Then I know which name it's getting. I'll be able to bond once I'm able to call it by name.

I think it's normal to have a "OMG" moment. I had those back when I was so sick. Call me selfish but It felt like the sickness would never end (for some it doesn't) and you are left wondering will it end? But I regret feeling that way now of course!

If it's any help Hidingthefear I found out with ds1 because dh wanted to and I was very sad he was a boy. I did have the pregnancy to get used it but when he was born I didn't care what he was just loved him and had I not found out I genuinely believe I would have saved myself that heart ache. With ds2 I was happy either way and wanted to be able to tell ds1 whether he was having a brother or sister so was pleased to know. I did like being able to say he with both rather than it but think you still bond whether you know or not.

I was 15 1/2st with ds1 and 2 and felt them earlier than I have this time Lauren82000 and I'm now 10st so don't know how much that does affect feeling movements. Sometime I think it's just recognising them as movements and not just muscle twitches or wind.

I felt bonded to DC1 in utero without knowing his gender, I was just so delighted to be pregnant, and grateful to have him either way.
This time, we chose to find out mainly for naming reasons, (didn't have a boy's name we like as much as DS's name) so knowing she is a she, we can relax about that. And it does feel nicer saying she rather than he/she.

16w

I like the idea about the envelope, might suggest it to DH see if he's interested.
I had my Oh God moment this weekend, spent the whole time battling with DD. She wouldn't listen to anything we told her, pitched fit after fit, screamed in my face a few times and tried to hit me numerous times. Last night I was brushing my teeth and thought why the hell am I pregnant again? Can't even control one child let alone bring another into the equation.

Hey all - hope everyone's OK and most nausea has passed. Very excited to hear how the gender scan goes Siarie!

I haven't been on for ages so just thought I'd drop in. I had my appointment at the hospital on Friday about blood monitoring for gestational diabetes (had it in my first pregnancy), so I've been on the low carb/four times a day testing schedule now!

Frankly, my blood sugars are so low that I can't see that I've got GD this time, but they seem to want to treat me regardless (a complete waste of time for all, but hey-ho).

The midwife told me that every other pregnant woman has GD at the moment due to lifestyle, which is sobering!

Oh river and Squatting i'm so glad to read those posts. I felt like a really bad parent for having the oh no what have lit my self in for thoughts and for wondering about bonding.
Thank you Cinnamon very helpful. Part of me wants to find out for that "disappointment" reason, although I feel terrible about thinking like that. I feel like if i find out then i'll have a few months to get used to the idea of what it is and also to pick out a name might help me bond. On the same hand if i don't find out I'm sure I'll love it anyway so it's not really relevant.
I think I might get her to put it in an envelope though and then I don't have to decide there and then. May we could open it on Christmas day.

Don't get me wrong, this child was totally planned but Children have never been in my life plan before and now I think the realisation is setting in of what's actually going to happen is just a bit daunting and I wonder if I'm cut out for this omg, I've never even changed a nappy!!!

The tantrums show you are in control Lauren82000, she wouldn't tantrum if you were giving in and she was getting what she wanted! As long as she doesn't get an advantage by trying to hit you, again you are in control. Don't bear yourself up, a second it tough briefly but soon becomes the norm. On the plus side you have a tricky first so you're not walking in with your eyes closed! Ds1 was a tough baby but an amazingly easy toddler and ds2 was a MASSIVE shock! You've chosen to have a second already having a challenging child, not thinking all children are easier than people make out

It annoyed me with ds2 MustBeDueSomeBetterFeet, being overweight instantly makes you high risk no matter what your diet. A blanket rule of gtt with bmi 35 and above is silly and even my midwife and the lady who did my gtt agreed. I see that it's better than risking a very large baby etc but there are very few compared to how many people they treat. Do they want to induce you early too?

X-post Hidingthefear, I was the same! When I met dh he had ds's and I told him I didn't want children, he said he'd love another one and would love to see me pregnant. I said no chance and here I am having persuaded him to have a third (4th for him!). I dreaded mat leave and then loved it and dreaded going back to work, you never know and won't until you're there. I had also never changed a nappy, I took one out of the packet from my hospital bag and kept practising so I didn't look silly in the delivery suite! I dressed ds1 after he was born and that was the first time I'd ever put anything on a baby and had only held a couple of babies in my life as I avoided them. My mum always says how grateful she is to dh for changing me, she thought she'd never have grandchildren.

I'd never changed a nappy before DS either.

Is three it, Cinnamon, or are you going for a football team?
I am perfectly happy with this being my second and last.

I should have put a smiley face after that question! :)

Three is it, dh didn't want this one he's said yes because he knows I really want another. He will be 49 when this one arrives, will have 4 children with nearly 14 years between first and last so I have to agree with him. I really hope I feel finished when this one is here as I really didn't with ds2 and it's been a couple of years of feeling down every time I saw a new baby or pregnant lady!