November 2014 Thread 3- Counting towards the second trimester!

[barmybunting]

Hi everyone,

A new thread for us chatty bunch due in November. Could someone repost the stats? I'm on my phone so can't do it. Thank you!

I'm glad I'm not the only one panicking and worrying! It honestly never ended my head prior to getting pregnant that I would worry this much but I guess you don't know how you'll react at all, do you?

I've just phoned to change on scan appointment so DH can come when he's not awake with work. I'm now in even more of a panic about it as the only day they could offer me the week I need it, is 7th May, DH's 30th birthday. If all shows up as happy and well, he will be on a complete high but I dread the timing should it be bad news. I had hoped it would be around his birthday, but didn't actually think it would be on his birthday! Hopefully the fact we conceived the weekend of my birthday bodes well for good news .

I wonder if you worry less after your first? Or is it worse? I guess it all depends on the situation!

study brilliant news, I'm so pleased to hear all is well following your scan!

Morning ladies! I'm another constant worrier, but I think that's pretty normal at this stage! I'm terrified of a mmc, so much to the point that I'm convinced my lack of symptoms mean something has to be wrong even though I've had no bleeding or pain or anything really to worry about! I've been praying for morning sickness since 6 weeks (now 8+5) but other than low level nausea on occasion and some food aversions there's been nothing!

We've told parents, sisters and our closest friend so far but no-one else til the scan shows everything's ok!

MIL has already started buying baby bits - aaaaaargh!!! - which I really didn't want as I'm so paranoid something will go wrong, plus we've had no early scans or anything so still not actually confirmed there's a baby in there!

Morning all

Thanks for the new thread barmy.

Still not getting much sleep here with DD and her calling out to go to the toilet in the night -- plus she now has a cold so there were multiple requests to blow her nose. I can't complain too much as DH was the one who dealt with her last night. This morning though it was just non-stop whinging from her and it really got on my nerves. Poor thing, it's not her fault, she's dead tired and miserable. Is anyone else with DC finding they have lowered tolerance levels?! Wah!

I am more worried this time about the viability than I was first time around, probably because I was so clueless the first time. A good friend had a mmc last year and that really gave me a wake-up call. Yesterday I felt that all my symptoms had gone but today they're back. I don't know.

Will try to do a quick namecheck, no doubt I'll leave loads out...

Great that you got to see everything looking as it should, study.

Random I read with horror the story about your exH. He should be behind bars; I can't think of anything else to say. I really hope you're OK.

alita poor you being so miserable, hope your DP cops on and starts behaving a bit better. Some men are crap at dealing with it when their partners are in any way not 100% superwomen. Your FIL sounds nice though! It's mad that you're producing colostrum already! Even at 39 weeks pg the last time there was still nothing there when I squeezed.

Posy and Hopeful, I agree it is surprisingly easy to get away with accepting a glass of wine and not drinking it when you're in a crowd. Everyone's busy talking.

9+3 and still no-one knows apart from DH and I!

for every one worrying I am definitely a worrier too. 9+ 4 today (when my last baby stopped growing) so I'm very glad to wake up feeling sick! I think I'll settle down if I'm still feeling bad by 10 weeks and then try not to worry knowing that's when hcg peaks so my symptoms might drop after that anyway.

Greenstone he's still an arse. but oh well. I hope your daughter night trains quickly, sounds like a right pickle :p

Thanks MrsWombat and barmy

All was well with scan this morning, phew, so due date 12th November

I'm definitely still worrying about it all though, sounds like I'm far from alone there!

Hope everyone else with scans gets good news, and that symptoms aren't too tough for those feeling rubbish!

hello everyone. finally caught up! still feeling sick but grateful as without baby symptoms I'd be going crazy. hurry up 2.5 weeks need my scan

Hi all. Had just got over the ludicrous stress induced duvet dive over the weekend and the postman brings me 3 letters today from the court regarding my ex and various divorce & financial matters. He's being an arse as usual. Just ignoring it. Rang my solicitor and told her to do whatever is the quickest, easiest, least stressful option as I just can't be arsed with any of it anymore - slightly more important things to worry about now and we split up 4 years ago, I really don't care anymore!

Then a panicked call from my dad, my 8 months pg cousin has just been attacked by their rescue dog, pretty nasty apparently - tore her dress & tights, broke the skin. I said tetanus jabs are safe (learnt that one last time!) and she should go get one now to be safe. The dog was rescued from Romania and shipped over in November and has a lot of problems and although he has had all his jabs and checks no one knows his real history and really if he is carrying anything. I said if it was my 18 year old cat I probably wouldn't bother as she sleeps on my head I'm pretty sure I'm immune to anythung she has by now but with him I would play it safe. Now the added problem of what to do about the dog. He's blond, unpredictable, very damaged emotionally and brain damaged but this is the first time in 6 months he's gone for a girl, he loves girls, it's men he doesn't trust. I'm the only person really who can control him, we seemed to have an instant affinity and although I only see him rarely he sees me as his owner when I'm there instead of my parents. But to be honest I don't have the lifestyle to take on a dog any longer than a few days here and there. I have my cat, I'm pregnant, I've got DD to worry about (I wouldn't trust him with her unless I'm there) and my SPD is kicking off and I can't give him the miles and miles and miles of walks he should be having. My house has too many stairs he can't manage and much as I love him he's not actually my responsibility, though I'd happily help out. I really wouldn't want him to be put down but if he's attacking like that then I don't know what the other options are. He's beyond being retrained now.

Other than that I'm feeling OK, same as usual, sick, tired, achey, emotional, still got the chest pains, palpitations & hot & sweaty flustered stress thing, definitely got to speak to mw about that.

Re telling people I go very much on instinct and intuition. With DD I just knew everything was fine and told the world. With the 4 mcs I knew it wasn't right and felt wrong and I didn't tell anyone. With this one I feel like it's fine, it will go full term and be fine, but I've had a constant niggle that something is not quite right. Hoping it's just left over worry from the mcs but that actually everything is fine. I told close family & friends straight away, DD last week and therefore ever one else after telling her (well it won't stay a secret now big sister to be knows!) and it's public knowledge now.

I'm having a winning streak at the moment. I've won the lottery 4 weeks in a row, the Grand National and have won 3 beautiful Seraphine items on eBay for less than £2 each over the weekend so I'm a happy bunny! That's my maternity wardrobe pretty much done now I hope, I've got stuff which should fit me up to a 16 (was an 8 2 months ago!) so that should be fine. Last time I was an 18 at the end but hoping to keep the majority to my stomach this time, not my thighs and bum like last time lol! That was pure cake! No excuse!

10+2

blind not blonde! stupid auto correct!

random sounds like a stressful day! I hope your sister (or was it sil, can't see the post when replying on my phone) is Ok! its a shame about the dog but I guess you can't always know for sure these things won't happen and it's probably a good thing in a way as it could have been fine until the baby was born and then he might have hurt the baby. as for the niggles they are probably due to the mcs I don't think anyone whose had one can be perfectly calm again!

good luck to anyone having scans and Yay for anyone whose got good results today :)

i know this may sound indecisive but ive lost all ability to make decisions does anyone have any opinions on when they would have sex in my situation. I last had very light spotting on Friday. I haven't quite got my libido back but I think the problems dp and I are having are made worse by the fact that it's been 7 weeks since we slept together! I would also like to give it ago I think. But I don't know how long I should wait? I'm almost certain the spotting was cervical.

oh cousin oops sorry :p

Thanks alita.

Re sex I can only comment from last time with DD. I was well up for it all the time and felt so fantastically awesome and sexy and happy and confident but my ex husband found my body & the idea of it all with DD being in there repulsive so it was because of him we didn't do it as often. I had a little spotting with DD but not much and I knew it was fine, I wasn't worried so carried on as normal till I started putting on weight and he didn't fancy me any more. Ridiculously when I was at my least attractive ever at 6 days after the birth he suddenly decided he was up for it again. When we weren't dtd I was giving regular solo performances and DD came out fine, fit & strong. This time I am single so no chance to do anything whether I wanted to or not and I've not been as active in my usual solo pursuits. I think if I was with a partner I wouldn't have been in the mood, I feel very far from sexy this time!! I'd say if you are in the mood and it doesn't hurt then go for it, with the spotting maybe you should give it a couple of days till you know it has stopped but again if you think it's safe and won't hurt and you're up for it then go ahead!

Has anyone seen a poloneck maternity swimsuit? Really want to go swimming but not with my skin how it is. Can you wear t-shirts over swimsuits in public pools?

im crapping myself. I will be into double figres tomorrow! !

9w 6d

Anyone daring to look at mat clothes yet?

I'm trying to put together a maternity capsule wardrobe in my head :) I like longline stuff but as usual the maternity ranges are so frumpy and polyestery. Have a couple of pairs of mat skinnies, and should be fine in normal tshirts for a while, but am stumped re. what to wear over. Excuse my extremely shallow musing btw. I like clothes and hate the feeling of enforced frumpiness with the mainstream maternity ranges!

Hiya guys

Today I have had a few very sharp pain like twinges on my right side, nt very often but now and again. Has anyone else had that? I've had dull aches before but not sharp pain like that. Worried x

I am just lurking on this thread but random you could try buying a SPF swimming top, they are sometimes also called 'rashees'. Basically like a t shirt but made of Lycra so easy to dry and relatively slim fit so won't drag you down. They are designed for swimming so I couldn't see a pool objecting even if you aren't out in the sun!! I had one for a hot holiday in Egypt last year as I'm fair skinned and it was great.

winter you'll be a quarter of the way through! :D

amy have you already had a scan? If not give your doc a ring, if it isn't just a pregnancy niggle then it could be a cyst (don't get worked up about ectopic pregnancy, I had almost all the symptoms and a healthy bean in the right place )

greenstone I have already bought some :p I got jeans a few weeks back and as im so bloated they fit. I've ebay ed and got some tops but I've only got tops that look like normal tops just extra floaty or baggy so it's not jinxing if I could wear them anyway ;)

Amy, I'm having them two. Was reassured by the midwife on Friday that all totally normal and not to worry (easier said than done) but if you are concered call your GP/midwife and then them know.

Greenstone I was nosing at the New Look maternity range today online. I don't usually shop there but last time I lived in their maternity clothes. They have some nice maxi dress and I found their jeans fitted really well last time round. My main reason for choosing them was that they had the best selection of maternity wear in store in the nearest town to me and it doesn't cost the earth.

I did some chasing up today for appointments. The woman I spoke to at the hospital was very apologetic about me receiving my appointment letter the day after the appointment, but the clinic I need to be seen in due to my medical problems only runs twice a month on Fridays, which would be last Friday when the appointment was for and Good Friday when antenatal clinic is shut. Fortunately, she managed to squeeze me in somewhere so initial hospital appointment and 12 week scan will be 25th April. Now we have to make up a reason why we need in-laws to look after DD, especially as it is Friday and I don't work on Fridays.
Then I rang the GP surgery to ask how I chase up the community midwife that I hadn't heard from. The receptionist said she will be in touch this week and call back if you've not heard by the end of the week. The midwife then called me about 30mins later and is coming round next week for the booking appointment.
The GP surgery will be sick of us, as I also booked an appointment for a dr to look at DD's squint (over-dramatic DH is convinced it will cause her to lose the sight in her eye), and DH had been in early for an emergency appointment for a tetanus jab after getting a piece of dirty glass stuck in his finger while gardening last night when it was almost dark.
Yesterday at a party MIL was discussing her grandchildren and told a room full of strangers that I would give her another grandchild (she seemed to have given up hope of one from her other children). I think I did a convincing job of saying 'well, maybe one day but not just yet.'

Happypotomus, I had squint when I was little grew out of it wore patches and everything however did lose some sight in my eye so if is a good idea to check, however my brother had a severe squint had op on his eye it was that bad and he has perfect eyesight, glad u got your app sorted tho

I'm sick mid morning or mid afternoon nearly every day. And the rest of the time I am SO HUNGRY. I'm eating my body weight every day, I reckon. This baby is going to be a giant.

All those worried about mmc... Me too. I have a scan on Thursday to check for a heartbeat, and though I'm still getting loads of pregnancy symptoms, I'm still terrified there's going to be nothing there.

For the first time in four days I had two hours where I didn't feel sick and spent the entire time terrified I was about to miscarry again. I think I'd rather feel sick the entire time that have that anxiety again.

Thank you so much for the well wishes and reassurances - it dies help.
Unfortunately, I'm going to have to bow out if this thread as it was bad news at the scan today.
I sincerely wish all of you lovely ladies wonderful pregnancies and I'll be sneaking a look in the thread from time to time to see how you're doing.

Oh crumbs! 'Does'. Damn my typing!!

im so sorry, take care of yourself x