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The We Will Brook No Argument for a totally boring and uneventful pregnancy, in which we shall bloom, and a pain-free birth thread, part 3!

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dreamfeeder · 13/11/2011 12:56

Hands around a mixture of V-shaped pillows, pregnancy pillows, and re-arranges the glittery vom buckets ready.

Gets the jelly snakes going, along with some Cadburys for good measure, and a strategically placed fruit bowl to disguise the unhealthy choices.

Flicks the duster round, sinks down into a comfy sofa and awaits the rest...

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dreamfeeder · 13/11/2011 22:49

Yeah, once you get a big bump, you're not meant to lie on your right hand side as this can apparently cut down on the venous blood returning to your heart. Yeah right, try lying in one position when you're that big and loads of things hurt!! I could only lie on my back, propped up, by the end as I had a lot of hip and rib pain as my bump was so big. I felt very guilty but had no symptoms so did it anyway. My friend got breathless if she did, so she actually couldn't lie on her right. Plus, I had a back-to-back baby, so was meant to avoid even lounging on the sofa, and do loads of all-fours eg scrubbing floors (great...) so felt mega-guilty about the lying on my back- I did always start on my left, and could never take it. My poor DH, there were tears over the pain before I went onto my back lots of nights!!!

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dreamfeeder · 13/11/2011 22:50

good luck for tomorrow wants!!! Hope it's a lovely time. xx

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MeconiumHappens · 13/11/2011 23:37

Ah, unfortunately not my midwife friend, i think she has given up :(

scarletfingernail · 14/11/2011 09:19

Oh that's sad Meconium. You often hear stories of people becoming pregnant after giving up. Fingers crossed that happens for your friend.

Look forward to reading about your scan later wants and also hearing what shopping you've done.

dream I also had to sleep propped up on my back in the end. Was so uncomfortable on my side. I felt terrible for doing it but it was the only way I could get properly comfy. DS was back to back also but there was no chance of me scrubbing floors on my hands and knees at 40 weeks. I nested by proxy. I was obsessed with the house being clean so made DH take 2 days off work near the end and had him scrubbing skirting boards and ceilings Blush

I really want to go shopping soon. But I'm trying to resist until after my 20 week scan. I didn't buy a single thing for DS until then so I'm trying to do the same this time. I've kept all of DS's proper clothes but binned all the newborn vests and sleepsuits (poo stained and bobbly, yuk) so can't wait to go and buy lots of lovely new white babygrows. I love seeing newborns in white.

I'm so tired today. I was awake in the night feeling really anxious. I had this awful feeling of dread that something was going to go wrong and couldn't let go of it. DS is happy having a lazy day. He's watching Babe for the 2nd time in 3 days.

hawthers · 14/11/2011 10:02

I've got a complicated system of a v shaped pillow for my head with a normal pillow on top, a further pillow for between my legs if i lie on my left and another pillow in the middle of the bed to stop me rolloing onto my back (affectionately known in the hawthers household as the berlin wall) which is also hand to rest my leg on when i do some illegal right side sleeping in the night.

its been working until now but for two of the last three nights i just can't get comfortable grrr

NinjaChipmunk · 14/11/2011 10:10

JUST MARKING MY PLACE, BACK LATER TO CATCH UP X

PurpleWithaBlueBun · 14/11/2011 11:41

Hello! Found you!
I want to recommend this cardigan (I may have got the grey dress too at 9.99!) It is so warm and snuggly and thick! I did get it with a 50% code but think it has expired now. Bargains!

You know this is the 4th thread?

Dream bump looks good! I am much bigger this time, I look like I did at 30 weeks at 23 with this one. Am I still the only one having a boy? I don't know if I feel lonely or not?
Dream I had a dream of boy/girl twins, obviously this MUST mean this is what you are having with my years of psychic training....

I have three pillows I sleep with, my favoured position is still on my front, with one leg up with a pillow underneath, so I am not entirely squishing my bump.

How is everyone feeling? I have had bad nausea again recently which is so annoying, luckily feel ok so far today.

jenfraggle · 14/11/2011 11:42

Well I haven't got a bump yet, with all the vomming I'm smaller than I was before. I don't have to undo my jeans, can just slip them on and off. I am probably still bigger than most of you though as am a size 20. I haven't needed to faff around with pillows yet but sounds like I have that to look forward to!

hawthers · 14/11/2011 12:32

purple if its any consolation i just 'know' i'm having another boy (yey!) except not officially confirmed or in reality at all - its just what i think....

dreamfeeder · 14/11/2011 12:37

purple, I'm with you with the nausea. Only been sick last night and Wednesday, so that bit is much easier, but the nausea remains. Like you jen, jeans still big, as are rings, but am gradually gaining weight now so pleased about that. The back pain, which for me currently is an old fell running injury that comes back for me with the relaxin of pregnancy I presume, rather than SPD type pain, is doing my head in- killing me getting on and off the floor so making playing with DD hard. And I'm very tired. Ok, whinge over!!

And purple, my gut feeling is I'm having 2 boys. I think we will find out, 1st Dec, so I will hopefully join you then. We think we're going to tell people we've changed our minds and we're not finding out... Obviously I'll tell you!

scarlet, I know just what you mean, I was similar last night. And I'm torturing myself already with thinking only one twin is moving.... Now I can only feel movement right over on the left- and it's quite strong kicks, and nothing from twin 1... or so I think. It was the same last night, though I think I did get a tiny wriggle from twin 1 about midnight.. I'm thinking wistfully of how easy counting kicks was with just one baby!!!!!! I don't think we'll stop worrying til we have our babies in our arms, but it's just a matter of keeping ourselves half sensible and not letting ourselves get too worked up about it I think easier said than done

scarlet, I didn't buy anything til much later than 20 weeks last time, too worried! But seen a monster triple buggy on e-bay that fits the bill,, very tempted. There's one that's closer, and very collect-able, but static toddler seat, and I want to be able to change which child sits on top if DD doesn't like facing me all the time, so not so suitable.... I tell myself i could just sell it again if anything did go wrong, it's not such a major purchase as the car... but then I think I'll jinx it. Gah!!!

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dreamfeeder · 14/11/2011 13:06

hawthers, I knew DD was a boy... til DH said 'it's a girl!'. Now look, I'm wavering on whether to find out...

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NinjaChipmunk · 14/11/2011 13:15

Can I ask a question? Did you see a midwife before your 12 week scan? My dr said you don't but then it says you do in the notes she gave me to read. I'm not sure if I should follow it up or not?
need to catch up with the thread now...

scarletfingernail · 14/11/2011 13:22

Ninja it's normal procedure in our area to see a midwife before the 12 week scan. I was told between 8 & 10 weeks. In fact it was the midwife who booked the 12 week scan during this appointment.

I guess it could be different for different areas though. Maybe you could call your doctors and query the difference between the notes and what you were told?

Biscuitsandtea · 14/11/2011 13:25

Same as Scarlet here Ninja. I think it might be different in Scotland from what i've seen on MN, but you're near London right?

Agree with scarlet - I'd try calling the GP to clarify the difference. Hope they're more knowledgeable than my GP reception though... Hmm

Imps7 · 14/11/2011 13:26

Just marking my place on the lovely shiny new thread! Look forward to joining you all imminently! Egg will be popping in 11 days or so and this month that rat will be smacked, you mark my words.

You are all looking blooming and gorgeous with your bumps!

dreamfeeder · 14/11/2011 13:42

same as scarlet, I saw a mw at 9 weeks, she booked my 12 week scan on the spot, did BP check, wee check etc, and was meant to start my green notes. For me, they will not scan you without your green notes... as this first mw couldn't find any, she said she'd write up her bit on some when she got to her usual base and could collect the pack and post to me.... never happened, causing much panic when I discovered I couldn't have my scan if I didn't get some, emergency mw appointment for 2 days before scan, sorted!! So I'd ring and query. May just be your area do things differently.

horay imps, see you soon :-)

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musicalmrs · 14/11/2011 13:55

Ninja, I saw a midwife at about 8 weeks (but unofficially - was asked to pop in after an early scan), and then had the booking appointment at 12 weeks - though before my 12 week scan which was actually at 13.

Imps, we look forward to your imminent arrival here! :)

I still keep looking at the nub theory websites and my scans, and am still thinking girl - though DH still thinks boy! Still not sure whether I want to know or not.

Also waiting until around 20 weeks before buying things - though probably just before the scan (which is actually at 21w + a bit). I love shopping in the post-Christmas sales, so won't be able to resist buying things then! In the meantime I've been satisfying my shopping cravings by window-shopping online. Not that I'll be buying much mind, for as it's the first baby in our generation of our families (and amongst our friends), I expect we'll receive quite a few more gifts! I love newborns in white too Scarlet!

jen, very jealous that you still fit into your jeans. I struggle with all my 'normal' trousers already. Problem is my maternity jeans are too big (I think I'm in between sizes), but at least they're incredibly comfy! Work wise I've been using bump bands (doubled up, as they're still too big for me to use properly at the moment, but they help hold stuff up). Desperately in need of some nice maternity dresses though, as I'm finding leggings so much more comfy at the moment..

Looking forward to your news Wants, will be lurking all afternoon! :)

scarletfingernail · 14/11/2011 14:36

Can someone tell me how worried I should be about lower back pain?

It's started suddenly today and feels exactly like AF is due a visit. I'm close to googling but have managed to resist so far.

Biscuitsandtea · 14/11/2011 14:39

Scarlet, this might sound odd, but do you by any chance need a poo? I get really crampy feeling lower back pain and then a few hours later I find I'll have a poo and it feels much better. But t feels really crampy beforehand?

If not, it can't hurt to see if you could get it checker? It could well be nothing but would be good to put your mind at rest?

scarletfingernail · 14/11/2011 14:43

I have already been today Biscuits but I might go and try again Blush

I'm really starting to get a bit worried as it's getting worse and I'm feeling it around my tummy now too.

Biscuitsandtea · 14/11/2011 15:13

Sorry if I sound poo obsessed - I blame the potty training HmmConfused

Seriously though Scarlet if it's getting worse, and you're worried I'd call your doctors, or even the hospital? Could the ante natal ward / assessment unit / whatever they're called check you out? I don't know how to get hold of a mw other than that first thing in the morning thing and if you're worried you should speak to someone today. I take it there is no bleeding?

NinjaChipmunk · 14/11/2011 15:28

hmm, thanks I think I will give the Dr's a call tomorrow. I think I still have the number of the HV clinic too which I am sure have the community midwives there doing their clinics, may try them too.

scarlet could it be baby moving into a position its not been in before and that puts pressure on new areas? If in doubt, do please phone someone about it though.

MeconiumHappens · 14/11/2011 16:07

oooh i think i feel something!
Yesterday and today noticed an unusual low down feeling but only really put 2 +2 together today and thought maybe its baby? Its hard to describe but its like a vibrating feeling! Like ive left my phone on vibrate (in my pelvis!). What do you think those of you that have felt movements before?

scarlet chances are its nothing. Best bet would be feet up, take it easy and keep an eye on it. If it becomes strong, you get abdo pain or anything from down below then call midwife/gp.

Biscuitsandtea · 14/11/2011 16:14

I think that sounds likely to be movement Meconium - based on my experience with DS. Since I'm still getting hardly anything from this bean! Confused

There was a little poking feeling though last night which might have been it, and a few more flutters in the same area today.......

I do hope this is it starting now.

Biscuitsandtea · 14/11/2011 16:14

How you doing Scarlet?

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