The October 2011 Baby Bus... part 2

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A place for everyone due in October 2011 to hang out and support each other....

Hi tummytickler Yes - it's crippling, isn't it?! Luckily work's quite quiet but I am on my knees and finding it so hard to concentrate - I just want to sleep! Have had a busy week socially (things planned before I knew I was pregnant) but after this week I am definitely going to slow down and get as much rest as I can.

Feel really anxious about telling our parents. My dad will literally be over the moon (I'm such a daddy's girl and he will be the most amazing grandpa), and I know DH's mum will be delighted, but my mum is one of the people who, even if she is thrilled, will have something negative to say. She finds it really hard to show her emotions and can be so cruel sometimes. I don't think she means it - that's just her way. Both our parents live an hour away, so we don't see them all the time, so can probably get away with waiting until I'm 12 weeks before saying anything. No doubt my mum will make some scathing comment about me getting fat in the meantime...!!! xxxx

Wow this thread is on page 4 already?!? Good stuff! It's amazing to have somewhere to talk all this through isn't it? AND in TMI detail :) What out Mums were missing when they were PG. I wonder if they actually spoke about their symptoms with their friends - doubt it was in this much detail!

I was so anxious to tell my Dad when I was PG with DS that I think I left it until I was almost showing. He was always a very strict father and very biblical. I am not married to DP but we have been together for over a decade but I was still terrified he would disown me when he found out I was PG "outwith wedlock". The thing is my wonderful Mum died suddenly just before I found out I was PG with DS so when I eventually managed to muster up the courage to tell my Dad he was just happy to have some good news in the wake of such tragedy. It was so emotional.

I am actually struggling quite badly again just now because I think a lot of women just want to talk to their Mums about things especially when they are PG or have a newborn. I really miss my Mum again just now. It's over 3 years since she died now but it's still really painful espcially at times like this. It's not really something I am comfortable talking about in RL either so Mumsnet really helps here too.

Anyway, sorry to bring things down - it is great to hear some of you are feeling a bit better now and that others are getting comfort from being able to hear what may be to come.

Sorry I am not really getting my head around everyone's names yet - the bus is so busy I keep having to try to reread old posts to remember who said what about what!

Symptoms for the day - I am now "officially" into week 9 and have nausea/dry wretching again and am so weak/tired but nothing like last week which was when I felt the worst. I also still have the cold but it seems to be subsiding slightly. Oh how I miss Beechms!!!! OH!! And I am crying at the drop of a hat today.

Ah, Tamashii, I'm sorry to hear about your Mum . I lost my Dad 3 yeas ago next month, and it does feel strange to have a baby that he will never meet. Oh well, that's the circle of life I suppose.

I have booked a reassurance scan for next Saturday at 3pm, I can't wait! I would have liked to take one of the slots they have available this Saturday, but I passed due to moving house.

Talking of moving, I'm feeling a bit cross. Dh has gone to work (until 2am), and the dc have gone to his parents so that I have all day and evening to pack the house up. It just feels like such a big job to do on my own when I am feeling sick and generally warn out. I'll stop moaning now, sorry.

Back to work next week, and right now a class of 30 children seems like a more restful alternative!

cupoftea, did you book a private scan or did you persuade your local hospital to give you one?

A private scan. I had a second mc in my last pregnancy and I asked if I would be able to have an early scan in the next pregnnancy but they said no. So I went ahead and booked privately. I want some reassurance for all the niggly pains I was having! I'm not booking to see a midwife until I've seen a scan, I'm not wasting my time like last time, the midwife was useless and didn't listen to my worries at all.

Aw, that's really awful cupoftea. I can't believe you've had two mc and you are not being looked after properly. Glad you could sort something out though. I'm sure everything will be OK. Good luck with the move. x

Thanks mpops!

Good news (although a bit scary!). My consultant just called and wants to scan me early next week. I am 5+4 today, and will be (hopefully) 6+4 at the time of the scan. He'll try a normal ultrasound (so I'll need a full bladder) but if they can't see anything they'll try an internal one.

I''m really pleased - especially after 2 miscarriages in the last 9 months, but also a little anxious, and can't stop worrying about how we'll feel if there's nothing there.... Well, at least we'll know, I guess.

I have a feeling this is going to be a loooooooooong week - gah!

Lots of love to you all

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cupofteaplease Big hugs - TOTALLY know how you feel. When is your scan? xxx

Oh sorry - just saw it's on Saturday! xxx

I'm really feeling for everyone with the tiredness and sickness, its so hard to muster up any kind of enthusiasm, especially at work :)

Things that are helping:

Eating weetabix with water not milk (grim I know) for breakfast, throwing it back up is not nearly so unpleasent as other things I have tried eating in the morning.

Unsalted mixed nuts to snack on - these help a lot in the afternoon
Eat Natural bars - also full of nuts and fruit
Digestive biscuits - I'm sick of them but they do help
Fizzy Water
Peppermint tea
Steamed vegetables for dinner
Cold new potatoes to snack on in the day
Eating a little something when I get up to wee in the night

Ginger did not help me at all sadly. Nor lemons. Also I've been told by the MW that it's ok to take Andrews Liver Salts - although they have not been the wonder cure I had hoped.

Hi gang - loving the new thread!
Am 8+1 weeks today wooooooo! Celebrated with a morning vomit and a busy day at work, joy!

Thanks for food tips OptiBisc I am currently living on the following during the day to keep the sicky feeling at bay (I've decided it's like a cross between sea-sickness and a wine hangover)
Ginger snaps
Ryvita thins (by the packet-load)
Dried mango (except I had too many yesterday and boy did I suffer!)

I can't tell you how bad the wind is for me. I had to fart on the tube!!!! I have NEVER done that in my life. Embarrassing.

Just marking my place can't beleive the other thread has filled up so quickly.

so great to read all the posts, makes me feel a lot less alone. sorry for those who've had less than stellar reactions from parents - my Dad just went very quiet and passed the phone to Ma who told me he was tearing up.

Think he's as overwhelmed as us, having told him we couldn't have kids now he is getting a grandchild when he's 73 must be a bit much!

For those who've booked a private scan - how do you go about organising that? Am sure I can't wait till 12 weeks!!

Hello, may I please join the thread? Got a BFP (or 5) last Friday, but am very early doors - only 4 + 6. Nervous but thrilled.

anna are you anywhere near London? if so i was recommended the fetal medical centre as being really good. they give all their profits to their research arm (which looks into helping pregnancy & fetal medicine). i haven't been yet (have booked a 12 week scan) but they also do 'viability scans' to check everything is going ok before that.

Thanks for the reassuring messages re. my dad. Lets hope he comes round. (Although my mum says, and I remember him being none to fond of us as kids either!).
Anyone else having 3/4pm crashes?!

I fell asleep in the car today around 3pm... DH was driving ;)
and I ate an huge amount of spaghetti just now... no doubt I will be hungry again in about an hours time though...

I will have to wait for an appointment with the midwife until next week as she is on annual leave...

can anyone tell me how it all works here in England... it is my second baby, but I lived and gave birth to DD in Belgium and it is totally different there... you go to gynaecologist and GP for follow-ups and you only see a midwife when you're giving birth... but it is the gynaecologist who delivers the baby, midwives only assist...
and the only pain-relief option is an epidural

so I think I am up for a totally new experience here...

peace35 - 5 tests - wow!! He He!! (If I'd had 5 sure I would have done that many too though!)

liabella - Yes, same EDD, the nausea was just first thing this morning, thank goodness, wasn't feeling great anyway and then discovered a tin of uneaten salmon in the bin and (not liking fish at the best of times) felt incredibly ill trying to get the bin bag out the back door!!

This thread is going to help so much in the next few weeks when we have to keep so much to ourselves!

Hi Bluetinkerbell we have two choices here MW led care or cconsultant led care. If you had a complicated first birth you have to have consultant. Then with MW led care you only get appointments with a MW unless there is a problem and if there are noproblems they deliver the baby. Consultant led care is the same as MW but you also get appoitments with a consultant.

At least that is how I think it works, as for birth you will get a leaflet on pin relief choices

emma thanks for the recommendation - yes London does work for me so I'll check that out.

peace35 you beat me, only did 4 :D

Caroline my dad had a strange reaction too, but in a very different way. My parents are both doctors (we are a very medical family!), my father being quite a prominent surgeon. He is absolutely appalled by my decision to book in for a homebirth, to not see an obstetrician etc., and is letting this take the place of any enjoyment he could be gaining from the thought of his first grandchild. It's interesting, because his wife had a baby a couple of years ago (yes, I am 30 years older than my half-sibling - weird!) and his way of 'ensuring' she had a safe birth was to book her in for an elective section at 37 weeks. This is about as far from my birthing philosophy as it possible to get.
As you can probably tell, we practise medicine in very different ways!

Morning all,

Well I had a weirdly comfortable night's sleep, my hips that have been aching almost since I conceived seemed fine last night, also seem to have perfected the half on my side half on my tummy position which leaves a nice space for my bloat bump.

Feels slightly scary that a symptom's gone away but I am still massively thirsty and boobs are still aching.

What a strange journey this is

happy friday all

couldn't face the 3 hour round trip commute today so working from home. the joys of period pain despite being pregnant lol

Morning all. Still in bed lucky girl I am! So on my phone & apologise in advance for any typos! Have hectic day ahead though so will be getting up in a mo.

Parents reactions are funny eh?! I remember with DS I let my mum tell my dad. And I was a 30 year old woman who had been living abroad for the previous 3 summers! This time has been slightly different as lost Dad 18 months ago to cancer. Would have liked to have been PG before he died, but just wasn't to be. I'd like to think he knows that I'm PG wherever he may be, & if he can perform any divine intervention to keep this little bean healthy & in place for the whole 9 months, hopefully he will :)