The October 2011 Baby Bus... part 2

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A place for everyone due in October 2011 to hang out and support each other....

Waves hello on new thread

My exhaustion today has felt like nothing else. I'm so tired, yet wake up in night and don't seem to be sleeping soundly.

I've succumb today and asked if I can have a half day. Plan to go home and just sleep this afternoon!

Is this exhaustion normal? I'm only 6+3!

mpops I wouldn't worry at all, your boobs are hurting because they're changing, you're going to have them worse on some days then others, so the days they're ok, don't panic .

I know what you mean though, when the only thing you feel suddenly goes, you do wobble a bit!

I'm going to have to remember not to poke my boobs experimentally in the office next week (moving from my own office to a shared one)!

shiny new thread!

bilblio glad to know it doesn't last forever, nearly a week seems like an eternity so far. Had to just sit in the car until it passed yesterday before I could go home, didn't feel it would be safe to drive.

My nausea seems to have subsided, so don't know if that means I am in the clear (having had it from day 1) or whether it will come back and hit me harder in a week or two.

mpops don't worry, mine come and go in terms of pain.

I'm exhausted too, and have been seriously considering sneaking to the sick bay at work for a sneaky nap.

Are you lot feeling much weaker? I was very fit before but now stairs are an effort. It feels too soon for this level of exhaustion at 8+2!

Another question - does anyone know anything about what's OK re massage when you are as far along as we are? I really want to get one this weekend but am not sure, have heard somewhere that they can't use certain oils but other than that should be fine. It's not confirmed though, and I emailed my midwife although she hasn't replied.

Morning all

cc1983 I too have been straining the little muscles above my hips, under my belly - stitch like pains when I stretch or turn in bed. Did some reading up on various websites and people call it knitting in, as your uterus begins to expand a bit and muscles adjust. I'm already sleeping very differently as I usually sleep on my tummy but can't any more as my bloat-bump is uncomfy to lie on and my hips ache if my legs aren't aligned so I now sleep on my sides with a pillow between my knees, I'm starting to adjust to this now (after a over a week) and I'm sleeping a bit better again.

penelope1980 I'm been so overwhelmed by how much weaker I feel, my job's quite active and I cycle a lot, suddenly feels like I've been inactive for a week, get hot and out of breath and if I don't slow down I get dizzy. Advice (and reading) says to rest and slow down, adapt to it

Feeling a bit happier today after a couple of days off, had lovely dream about DP talking to my bump Woke up and told him and he sleepily replied, well I will do when it grows ears.

Got to do bit of work today - note to self, time will go faster this way which for these first weeks is definitely a good thing.

Congrats everyone! Finally found this additional thread (baby brain definately kicked in!)
Thanks for the messages from the earlier thread - rollercoaster has come to a stand still today, after 3 days of crying I feel 'normal' today!

Anyone else had some strange reactions from their parents/ family? My dad has made me feel like i'm 16 years old (I'm 34 and getting married in April) - whats his problem?! And I'm def not a daddy's girl'...

I haven't actually told mine yet caroline as everytime I have spoken to them since I've had my BFP they've been in a strop about something or other, so has never been a good time!

God, why does the cramping have to start ten minutes before I have to go to a meeting? OWWWWWWWWWWW

Oh that's reassuring MrsHende. Apparently my grandma and mum didn't have any symptoms at all and had 6 perfectly healthy babies between them, but it still worries me when I read that other people are having lots of signs. However, as I am getting married at 13 weeks, I'm happy not to have any symptoms!

Hi mumtobee - we share a EDD so hoping MS isn't about to strike for me too!!

CarolineOctober I rang my dad to tell him I was engaged to which he replied, "well, I have to be honest, I wasn't expecting that!"

We've been together over 3 years, so it's not that surprising surely!

Then, about an hour later, his wife called me and said, "You're not pregnant are you?!" I just laughed it off because I don't want to tell them like that.

I mean, yes I am pregnant, but when my poor DP planned his proposal, we didn't know. We found out the day before he propsed, so it kind of eclipsed it a bit.

Now I don't know how to tell people without them thinking, "Oh, shotgun wedding!"

Ah well, just have to laugh it off I suppose. My mum's been great about both wedding and baby thankfully.

How is everyone? I bought some cheap reduced clothes in ASDA last night in a size to big for the time between normal clothes and maternity clothes.

hello thanks for setting up new thread! i've got the niggles that a few of you seem to have had, really bad wind (sorry TMI!) and crampy tummy with it- agony. Naueous for most of the day :(, very sore boobs and this morning have been up since 4.30am, just couldn't get back to sleep..... and no caffeine to help get through the day... on the up side, i think i've got my scan date through for the 23rd march - seems like an age away though.....Worked out i'll be 13 weeks by then.....might call and try and get a reassurance scan. Hope everyone else doing ok today x

Hormonal woman alert ...

Just trying not to sob at desk - have just been reading about baby development in the first trimester.

It really is quite incredible. By the time we get to 12 weeks it is all essentially done and all they do is just get bigger. No wonder we feel so cr*p during these weeks.

I'm only 6/7 weeks and bub has got little fingers and toes already.

Its not even my first baby but it still hits you as being miraculous sometimes.

Sniff.

Yeah its annoying people thinking its a 'Shotgun' wedding, I worry that people will think that too. Your poor DP! Think your dad was a bit kinder than mine. Mine said, "So am I meant to be happy about that? I don't like babies. I don't want to see it."
:(
At least my mum and sister are happy.

Kateepie - 'being in a strop' is prob what my dad was in too. Wish hadn't told them so early now. On reflection we need time to get used to the idea before we tell others.

Morning all - and congratulations on the weddings and engagements - how exciting!
I am feeling slightly sicky today, but flat sparkling water seems to have done the trick and hopefully we will venture to the park after lunch.
I haven't told anyone yet, but I can guess there will be a bit of this as it is dc5. Mum will think we are nuts as she only ever wanted one child (something I do not thank her for)

Anyone thinking about holidays? I am seriously considering getting in trouble and taking the kids out of school in June for a week. Not sure I will be up for it at the end of August (dh other set of holiday from work)

Caroline that's really sad :( Did you expect that kind of response?

I'm holding off telling my parents, partly because it's still early, touch wood, fingers crossed etc, but also because I'm vegan and I want to have a few weeks before the nagging starts up about getting some milk and steak down me.

Caroline

Ditto here at your father .

I told my parents yesterday - they were pleased tho' my father was rather quiet and a bit shocked. Don't know why - its not as if its the first time (he was sat with DD on his knee at the time!)

I think he worries about how I will cope etc. I will cope by sending DD round to her grandparents'! (Perhaps this was why he was a bit quiet ... ??!)

tummytickler I'm pondering what to do about holidays too. The plan was to go to camping in Cornwall for 7-10 days in July. The camping I could deal with. I have a very very comfy sleeping mat. I'm not sure I could handle the drive though. DH doesn't drive and Cornwall is a flipping long way from Manchester.

Feeling grumpy today. DH snored all night so I kept getting woken, couldn't get comfy because my back hurt, DD is ill and whining. I got up with her this morning then realised that today was my only chance for a lie in this week. Got DD to kick DH out of bed an hour ago and we're going to go off to Castleton to look at either otters or go down a cave depending on what the weather is doing when we get there.

Caroline do you think your father might come 'round once baby is here, and fall madly in love? He must have fallen in love with you at some point?

Caroline So sorry to hear about your dad and sending big hugs.... hope he comes round to the idea soon.

We haven't told our parents yet - have only told my best friend and my work colleague so far. As I had 2 miscarriages last year, it's all very scary and it's still very early days for me (5+4), BUT on the other hand the last two times we didn't tell anyone, and it was awful having to call our parents and tell them (twice) that we had lost a baby they didn't even know about. It was a lot for them to take in. Obviously it's never going to be a nice conversation though...

I am hopefully going to have an early scan at 7-8 weeks, so I think if that's OK and everything looks fine, then maybe we'll tell just our parents then, but wait until after 12 weeks before announcing it to other people. I am so over the moon but equally terrified of something going wrong again - it's such an anxious time, so the nausea and aching boobs are quite reassuring.

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Hi everyone

Thanks for sorting out this lovely new bus. i went to the other thread and wondered where everyone was for a bit!

I am 8+2 and still got very few symptoms - sore boobs, lots of burping & incredible hunger are the only ones. Still not heard anything from the hospital (they say wait 14 days before they get in touch) so we have booked a private scan for 12 weeks (22nd March). Lovely PiL have offered to pay. They do all the tests, and the hospital we are (eventually) going with only do the basics.

i am just counting down the days. I keep stopping myself getting too excited until i find out all ok on 22nd...

P.S Exhaustion is also completely taking over this week - my jaw is aching from all the yawning, and am struggling to keep my eyes open! xxxxx

oh Ali the tiredness is just unbearable isn't it? I swear it is worse than sleep deprivation with a newborn.

emmazed they must be the best symptoms to have - obvious enough to be reassuring, but not grim like ms!

You're right Tummy - true it's not easy having a newborn but goodness it was easier than the first trimester! It's a different kind of tiredness and you don't feel ill all the time.

Caroline I'm sorry to hear your dad reacted like that. It is so hard.

My finace reckons we should always send texts first, so that people can digest the news and have time to think of a suitable response, and then call them a few hours later. Going to go that route for announcing the pregnancy I think! It'll be something like: "Got some big news - we're having a baby in October. We're both delighted and excited. Speak to you when you've had a chance to get over the shock!"

My dad didn't particularly want me and my brother and has never been a proper 'dad' to us, so I'm not expecting him to want anything much to do with my baby either. I don't think the baby will miss out though - my godfather always did the dad things with me and will be a kind of grandad to my littl'un.