Charters Anonymous Graduates – No more temping!

[GetDownYouWillFall]

Hello ladies ? bit nerve wracking moving over to ante natal but thought I?d be brave! Here?s to a trouble free 8 or so months for us all! And hoping lots more of us move over very soon.

Step away from your thermometers ladies. That way madness lies.

Sits back. Feels a bit lonely. Waits for others.

ah good stuff S i was worried there for a min :) YEY for digi!

13+3 today, and have spent 2 days at hq looking suspiciously pg and bloated but no one asked (other than my friend who asked,'any news?' to which i replied 'like what?' Just not ready to talk about it....too public last time. I am enjoying keeping it to myself this time!!

Pips if you have had brown, get onto the epu to ask them for a scan.. fits their criteria.

No, Nix. But I don't care as had consultant appt yesterday and asked them to listen and she found it straight away!

They've also booked me in for extra scans due to the anti-thyroid antibodies I have. So 28 weeks and 34 weeks I think which will be nice.

How are you doing?

Glad you're well Spilt and growing a little bump!

Like others have said brown should be ok, Pippa - is still worrying for you.

Going to dash over to the mother thread and check out the SFP!

Evening all!

Wow .nix 13+3!

Nice to see you are getting a little bump split.

Wave to pippa and ladyg

Still having cramps. I know it's perfectly normal but not v reassuring. Still running to the loo and knicker checking and spend pretty much the whole time I get the cramps worrying that something bad will happen. Can't wait to go to my antenatal next week so I can speak to the midwife!

Sorry about that moan.

(((hugs))) to you all x

Waves to all.

Thanks nix I am doing ok, was slightly unnerved by my lack of symptoms, but was in Tesco earlier and had a massive wave of nausea looking at all the vegetables, so hoping that is a good sign

Going to see GP on thurs. Have left it till now as sometimes they don't want to see you too early on in case it goes wrong. Am hoping they will get my scan arranged etc. Around here you don't get to actually see a midwife or having a booking in appt till 12 weeks. At least that was the case with DD.

Am definitely getting fatter too but don't think it can be the baby Think I am just hungrier, and also less inclined to exert myself or do anything that remotely resembles exercise due to fear I will somehow dislodge the bean So all in all, not a good combination!

Enjoyed one born every minute last night. Makes me want to cry every time!

Hope you are all doing well xx

Also Not that I googled "ultrasound scan pictures at 7 weeks" or anything

Hi getdown oh that's lovely, I just sat watching it going 'awww'.
How many weeks are you now? And yey for your nausea :)
I watched one born every minute too, I love it. Dp a little bit squeamish tho.

I have my first appt with the midwife on Wednesday next week. Have got thyroid blood test on Monday too. Really hoping and praying my little bean is ok.

Green at the sight of veg is an excellent sign GetDown. Now embrace all the white processed stodge and carbs as we all seem to do when morning sickness rears it's head! Mmmm crisps, white bread, jacket potatoes

I am going through vegetable rehabilitation at the moment. I will eat raw veg (carrot sticks, salad etc) and some cooked stuff when mixed up with other stuff - so tinned tomatoes and onions and peppers all ok in spag bol etc. But boiled veg. Bleurgh. Fruit is fine though.

Lovely to have those extra scans Lady. Scans that late must be able to get some lovely images too.

Sorry about the cramps Iwish it's very unnerving but completely normal. My stomach is frankly quite painful these days - it's mainly trapped wind and bloatedness but it can be really quite sharp. I have found the humiliating solution is to get down on all fours, and put your face on the ground so your bum points up. Gravity does it's thing and the air bubbles travel straight up and out. The relief is immense but of course you will look like a prat. DH was when he caught me

at your solution! That made me laugh and DP wondered what on earth I was laughing at. I might have to bear that in mind for times of bloatedness lol! I bet it was hilarious explaining to your DH why you were on all fours with your backside in the air
Thanks for listening to my moan and reassuring me. I don't know why I'm worrying, think it's the thyroid issue but I'm having bloods on Monday so hope all is ok.

My DP has just informed me that he accidentally told his work colleague I'm pg!! Seriously he has only known 6 days and can't keep his gob shut, bless him he is excited.

Hello!

Hello and congrats digi!

Congratulations Digi . Lovely to see you xxx

Welcome digi congrats x

Digi WHOOP!
2011 is the year of the BFP!

spilt at your solution i have to say though i totally to the same and i have incredible stinkypumps at the min and hideous bloating!!! hence i look 6mths not 13 weeks! Time to fish out the probiotics and extra fish oil i think :)

GD yey for the nausea... WHOOP sounds good x

Iwish i watched OBEM also, but the lady with the tallyho tarquin accent and her extremely loved up hubby did actually get on my nerves!! She was annoying, but actually i couldnt stop watching it..! The young girl did very well.. but her pooing herself so much has really put me off having a curry to bring labour on... and that male midwife was just fab! I would love him to deliver my baby... far better than the one i had before

Lady im feeling fine thanks. Nausea has pretty much gone, still dread brushing my teeth though Very fussy about what i eat, no choc/pasta/coffee or peppermint tea which i used to have lots of. Even though am choosy my appetite seems to have improved, whereas 2 weeks ago i didnt feel hungry at all. I have a bloated bump and have resorted to mat clothes. Might ring the MW today to see when i can get in to let them listen to the heartbeat. Sorry you cant find it on your doppler. FAB though that the consultant has

pippa how are you? did you contact anyone about an early scan?

digi just fab news... are you taking asprin or anything this time round? (Sorry i am a lurker on recurrent buns fred..their knowledge about stuff blows my mind!) Everything crossed for you lovely x

nix she got on my nerves too! Seriously too lovey dovey and happy. I'm sure you would probably like to shout at your DH/DP not be far too nice! at you keeping away from curry! I think that's wise haha!
I know what you mean about the pumps, I've been v windy recently and I'm only a few weeks! Going to be a v stinky 8 months I think.

Well I'm currently sat at my desk feeling a little sick - a lovely sign but if I'm sick I'm pretty sure someone would know. There's 200 people in my office!

I must confess, I took my temp again this morning ...depite vowing that I'd not take it anymore. I woke up thinking I hadn't had any cramping overnight so took my temp to reassure me, thankfully it had gone up ever so slightly. And also FR test came up positive, that helped too.

I think the lack of cramping might be because I took an aspirin last night nickster. Am only the low-dose stuff, even though the clotting tests I had done all came back normal. Consultant said it wouldn't do any harm to take it, and it's currently given to IVF patients as standard so if it's good enough for them...

Glad to read you're all doing well and having lots of reassuring symptoms.
iwish Certain cramping for me is reassuring (when it's round the front), it's when I get waves of back cramps that I panic.

I've never got so far in my last three pg's to get proper morning sickness, and only got it with DS when nearly 7 weeks. But feeling ever so slightly off today. And boobs feeling a little buzzy. Yay!

Digi my back has been aching at the bottom every so often for the past couple of days I get little short sharp pains in my stomach (I get them from OV to af usually) and what I can only explain as hot cramps. None of them hurt though. should I be worried about the Back ache?
Woohoo for you being sick tho lol and yippee for the +ve FR.

All sounds good, Digi . Am still taking low dose aspirin myself - can't hurt.

Congrats Digi!

Nickster I haven't yet - I'm going to hold out till my booking in appointment next week and just try and chill out. (Hah!) My only real symptom is that at night when I take my bra off my boobs feel like hot lead (fun!) but it's so bad that it's kind of reassuring...!

Hot lead boobs is good... mine burn and are resting on my tummy already not bad for a normal flattie!

Fuzzy nips too... Whoop dig

Can I please have a big wail and cry and some sympathy?...

At work we were in the middle of a consultation process, redundancies coming, new organisation structure proposed. The structure proposed was shit and because I care about my colleagues I put in lots of feedback as part of the consultation demonstrating that too many roles were being removed. My personal wish is to be made redundant but I didn't divulge that to the man in charge because I wanted to give weight to the idea that he was cutting too many jobs, rather than making it easy by saying I want to go, pick me pick me! And also because I spoke to HR and asked how to go about stating a preference for redundancy and was told that at the point applications for roles were submitted then I needed to not apply and state my preference for redundancy. We were told applications not to be submitted until consultation is through.

So today we were called to a meeting to be told the outcome of the consultation. Turns out we all made a bloody good case for change and there is now only one redundancy, my manager. The rest of us are to be slotted straight into roles. I have been in shock and now in tears for the last couple of hours as by sticking up for my colleagues I have shot myself in the foot and have no escape route
We honestly did not expect so much to be changed, could not have foreseen this many "saved" jobs.

I told the man in charge that I was gutted as I had wanted the redundancy, but to be honest was too choked up and on the verge of tears to explain much. He told me "you should have said!" which I thought was a bit bloody rich given HR's advice etc.

I am so fed up and upset.

I think I have one last ditch attempt to write a total sob story and beg to be let go... I will give it everything: sick of job, pregnant, struggling, restricted heavily by risk assessment, would be unlikely to return etc etc... better for the business to recruit someone who gives a damn.

((((spilt)))) nightmare xxxxx

Oh dear....do you actually want to not have a job?

Thanks nix

I want to not have that job because I hate it every day and it makes me really miserable. For me the job died completely last year when an entire department was closed and let go - they were the people I mainly worked with and enjoyed working with. I was never planning to return to that job after maternity leave for lots of reasons (wrong hours, long commute, would have to be full time, doesn't pay enough for the childcare hours we would need etc).

The notice period they would have to give me is 4 months, so at 3 months pregnant that works out pretty perfectly. Financially it is much better for me to get redundancy pay and SMP, rather than to stay employed and get SMP+enhanced company maternity pay and then resign and have to pay the enhanced pay back.

And mentally I had got completely into the mindset that redundancy was coming and feeling like there was this massive light at the end of the tunnel soon and so I am also very disappointed.

Thing is, I don't do pregnant very well. And bar 5 weeks in the autumn I have been pregnant since last May (and hope to be until August!). And felt "not right" or downright awful for all of that time. Factor in all the trauma of a bereavement too and I just feel like I can't cope/can't face it all

I don't feel strong enough to cope with constantly moving goalposts, which is probably why I've been so upset by this.

And the new job they want to slot me into involves a transfer to another department, some different work, new managers (who I know and don't really click with, very cold people)... and on my first day in my "new" job I would have to fess up to being about 16 weeks pregnant which is frankly an embarrassing position to be forced into. And I don't know if they would be sympathetic to me struggling with pregnancy. My current manager is excellent and has been very flexible about when I get in (due to sickness) and allowed me to use annual leave to mean I work 4 days a week (due to tiredness) and is forever telling me to take it easy. I value this so much, and I do think it stems in part from me being a damn good employee in the previous years and being respected by him and hence I am being cut some slack when I need it.

Gah. Sorry that is very long.

And... to add injury to insult...

I have just got piles
Glamourous to the last this, isn't it??

(((Hugs))) Spilt. Can't say I blame you then. Hopefully you will feel a bit better later on in the pregnancy and get some energy back but sounds like you should maybe go and talk to the people making the decision and explain your position. Especially if is still at consultation stage.