Charters Anonymous Graduates – No more temping!

[GetDownYouWillFall]

Hello ladies ? bit nerve wracking moving over to ante natal but thought I?d be brave! Here?s to a trouble free 8 or so months for us all! And hoping lots more of us move over very soon.

Step away from your thermometers ladies. That way madness lies.

Sits back. Feels a bit lonely. Waits for others.

Just re-adding self back on.... got chopped off!

8th May newyearsday Age 36, 1st pg (it's a boy!)
24th July LadyGoneGaga Age 32, 1DS 1mc
7th August Nickstermum Age 34 1DS, 1MC,
21st August spilttheteaagain, Age 25, 1DD born too soon, 16 week scan 7th March
17th Sep GetDownYouWillFall Age 31, 1DD 1MC
30th September, Pippaandpolly, Age 27, 1MC
7th October iwish age 25 1st pg
25th October MrsP81 Age 30 1MC

Morning my loves :) feeling all reflective this morning after some sad news on the Freak out Thread i am a regular on. I feel very lucky to be 16 weeks and counting!

Well done on the reduced knicker checking mrsP.. you are right 12 weeks Draaaaaaaaags on... but once you get past it, time FLIES!

Thanks spilt i too dislike the word anus!! Bum hole sounds much better Urgh i dont like inspecting myself in the mirror, its all mishapen after an episiotomy with DS! Ah well

Hope you are all good, Catch up later folks xxx

Bum hole! I knew there was a better word... I kept thinking poo hole and decided that made me sound about 5

PMSL

But whilst we are on the subject, my piles have shrunk and partially disappeared back up my bum-poo-anus hole so clearly all this prune juice, kiwi eating, ice packs and germaloids has paid off. Feel much better

It's lovely having people to tell about these things!

nix it may have been me that chopped you off the list. I started replying but it took me that long to type it you had posted in the meantime. Sorry

split PMSL at poo hole!! The only word I could think of was bum hole like nix.

Tired this morning and would quite happily go back to bed if I didn't have to go work. Nausea has practically gone now, don't like it, I would rather feel sick :(

Ah... such a lovely topic for 7am... glad your grapes are back up your bum hole spilt PMSL again :)

No worries wish i get a bit superstitious when disappear off lists :)

You can have my nausea if you like? 16+4 and still getting it when i need FOOD!

I know what is the world coming to when bum holes are the hot topic at 7am! Lol I wouldn't tell people in RL what I say on here.

Yes I'll happily take your nausea as long as it reassures me. You poor thing still getting at 16+4. My friend still gets it and she is 23 weeks but she gets it at all random times of day.

Just been a greedy cow and had 3 slices of toast for brekkie.

It's so sad about LadyBee she was on the charter's thread for a while and we got our BFPs the same week so I remember her

Iwish don't worry about the nausea, it's normal to fluctuate quite a lot. I hardly get any at all now.

Hi everyone, and welcome Terrys! I just spent a few days in London getting pampered by my mum which was rather nice, though it's good to be back home and on my own sofa...ah the joys of half term!

I have done a rather stupid thing this morning...decided for no good reason to take my temperature and it's dropped a little bit...chart should I be worried or should I just burn my bloody thermometer? I'm such an idiot, now I'm panicking. The fact that my nausea seems to have pretty much gone isn't helping. Am 10 weeks today so it seems a bit early for it to have gone...aaaaargh. Am a mess today.

Hope everyone else is ok (Getdown have you had any luck with your midwife/gp yet? They sound unbelievable!) and not having a giant paddy like me.

I know I should really try not to worry getdown but I really didn't think it would go so soon, I'm only 7+6. Do still get little bouts so keep myself happy at that thought.
How are you feeling today?

Hi pippa sorry cross post. I was wondering where you were yesterday. Hope you enjoyed getting pampered.
I vote you should burn the therm! I havnt touched mine since my bfp to make sure I didn't scare myself. My nausea has practically gone too, scary isn't it x

Hi iwish, it really is! I wish these things were more predictable so we didn't have to worry when they happen (or stop happening) at random times. Hope you're feeling ok.

Yeh I'm feeling ok thanks. A little tired and really worrying about lack of sickness but hey ho. Got an appt tomorrow so I'll feel better just seeing someone. Have you got your scan booked? X

Right pippa I'm going to sit you in the naughty corner and give you a stern telling off !! Temping at this stage will do you no good. And ANYWAY that is not a temp drop!! It is still really high!! I know what it's like to stress so I do completely understand (this from the crazy woman who did another HPT at 9 weeks pg and got in a right old tizz).

Thanks for asking I am ok thanks. Have finally got a date for booking in and a scan date (because I nagged and badgered them). It's going to be tricky though as I need to find childcare for DD, without telling the babysitter what it's for!

getdown can you lie and say you have work or you are going with a friend to somewhere she doesn't want to go alone? What date is it?

My flippin appt for tomorrow has been cancelled but rescheduled for Tuesday.

Burn the thermometer pippa... and lock up any remaining pregnancy tests!

Right, duly told off and hand slapped! Thermometer has been put firmly away and told not to bother me again. Spilt, luckily I don't have any more tests...not that I haven't been tempted to buy some, but I have resisted!

Iwish did they tell you why they cancelled your appointment? How annoying - I know I look forward to appointments with excitement (and fear!) so I'd hate to have to wait longer. At least they haven't moved it too far.

Getdown, yey that you finally have a scan booked! Mine is a week on Monday and I can't wait

Good girl pipps

Ah, we have the pre-school bear home for the weekend so rather than me having a relaxing feet up time i am having to plan what we can do and where we can take the darned bear! Have to complete a scrap book with pickies in for monday.... and lots of the other mums clearly dont work judging by the effort! Been sent off to G'mas today with an instruction - park, ducks, playdoh and lots of pics!! that should fill a page :)

I was terrible when we took the bear home, Nix. Took some lame photos but then didn't have time to do the scrap book. So didn't bother. Poor MiniG - he didn't care though.

Glad you've burned the thermometer, Pip - there is enough to menkul about without worrying about every insignificant temperature fluctuation.

20 week scan a week today! Going to announce on Facebook after that if all is ok. And should put a bump picture up as getting quite big really for only 18.5 weeks! PM me if anyone wants to be friends on FB by the way.

Today's my due date

It is mad that I feel bereft all over again? All these past weeks I've been counting along and being 25, 30, 35 weeks and now today it's 40 weeks and nothing. No bump, no baby. It's like today is the proof that she isn't coming is she? I've never quite accepted that all the time I should have been pregnant, never quite given up hope for my Feb/March baby. I don't know, maybe some bonkers part of me expected to wake up from this nightmare today with a great big 40 week bump. Course it didn't happen. It hurts.

We've had some lovely cards this week from people who knew this would be hard. One from my family yesterday which they'd made, really beautiful, and inside some words of a song my sister knew meant a lot:
"In my soul there is a hole
that can never be filled,
But in my heart there is hope
for you are with me still."

Aargh, I'm sorry, didn't really mean to bring the thread down, just struggling today.

Hugs Spilt - this was always going to be a hard day. I'm dreading mine coming - is only two months away now. It should start to get a little easier after this - you have to focus on THIS baby now and what she/he means to you. This baby isn't a replacement for Bobbi, no-one can fill that gap but he/she will be their own little person and you will love them the same.

Lovely that poeple are thinking of you right now xx

Thinking of you today spilt

They said that the consultant isn't coming in pippa. Probably booked himself a nice days holiday while I wait another few days lol. I am excited for the appt even though they will probably just take blood. And wow a week on Monday film your scan! I'm 8 weeks today so probably got another 4 to wait.

Ooh nix I hope you have fun with the bear at weekend :).

20weeks ladyg how exciting - half way there :)

Oh split honey thinking about you. Hugs onthis hard day xx

Waves to everyone else.

And yippee last night and today I feel sick and tired!! Munching polos as mint seems to help.

Bloody bear.......

spilt (((hugs))) my love... no words can even express what i wanted to say. Perhaps we can hold each others' hand. Tis my due date on monday... and my friend has her CSection booked :( sad for me but happy for her. Its easier that we are both pg, as we have something to look forward to, but it doesnt take away the loss, or the sense of loss, or shattered dreams. I am telling myself...(and its easier for me as it was a blighted ovum at 12 weeks, not a baby as such) that had i not lost that one i wouldnt be having this one. In some way it comforts me, but our situations are very different. XX Ive said this before, you hadnt had time to grieve for bobbie and no doubt with your swirling hormones you are swinging from happiness to despair and it all being really confusing!!

LG YIKES! 20 weeks whooooop 1/2 way there, to repeat in parrot fashion Iwish

Have pm'd you LG, happy to meetup on bookface ladies...seem to have built up quite a network of mumsnet pals on there recently - many who now have BFPs which is Fab to see :)

Thank you all, I feel a bit less alone after reading all your messages. nix I'll be remembering you on Monday. A blighted ovum is such a cruel thing to happen, but you were as pregnant as anyone for those 12 weeks with the same hopes and excitement and emotional investment and I can imagine that in some ways it was even harder that there wasn't a physical baby there to grieve for. You're so right about a new pregnancy gives something to hope for (and fear for!) but doesn't in anyway lessen the grief or the loss of the first. I seem to be on some bloody seesaw going from chirpy and giggling about bum holes to completely devastated. It's exhausting!

Lady what's the date of your first due date? I know I need to get "into" this pregnancy but I'm so darn scared. Especially right now with so many poignant stages. I'm 14+5 today. Bobbie didn't grow any bigger than this, and I happily pootled along for another 5 or so weeks thinking all was fine. Trying to hold onto my scattering marbles long enough to get to my next scan! But I reckon if I lose this one I will realise that I was very much bonded to this baby but too scared to admit it.

Gah. I am most impressed that you are coming up for 20 weeks though, wonderful to think that soon you can start counting down to the due date from the half way point.

Rubbish about your appointment iwish, I would be annoyed about that too - you build up to them don't you?

Take care all. Digi how are things with you at the moment, you're very quiet?