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Hello ladies ? bit nerve wracking moving over to ante natal but thought I?d be brave! Here?s to a trouble free 8 or so months for us all! And hoping lots more of us move over very soon.

Step away from your thermometers ladies. That way madness lies.

Sits back. Feels a bit lonely. Waits for others.

spilt why dont you book yourself in for another scan, or get into see the MW for a listen in,.. you are far enough along now :) at least that will give you some degree of sanity during the next five weeks...? Once you get past the time when Bobbie stopped growing i expect you will start to relax a little (hope anyway!) This pregnancy for both of us is very different. and....will come to a different conclusion

Bloody placenta.. still hardly feeling anything in terms of movement. Every now and again maybe... roll on kicking for a bit of extra re-assurance :)

PS i have a hooooge bump too LG

22nd April - Easter . Sad time of year for me anyway as would have been my Dad's birthday on 17th and he is sadly no longer with us (died when I was 7 months pg with MiniG).

Will you get a midwife appt at 16 weeks, Spilt? They should listen in to heart then - hopefuly will reassure you. I agree with Nix though - your situation is really different to last time, it isn't likely to happen again.

I can't belive am coming up for halfway either (in 9 days!) - after it dragging hideously in early days time has speeded up again.

It's outrageous, isn't it Nix. My friend at work is two weeks ahead of me and is her first. You can't really tell. There is no mistaking me at all!

Keeping my neuroses and anxieties to the Freak Out room mainly as you all seem fairly sane on here and wouldn't want to rock the boat with my constant whining about lack of symptoms. No sickness no sore boobs just a vague sort of 'periody' feeling which even then is only occasionally.

Glad to hear ladyggg is halfway there.

Had a scan today which showed baby with hb. Measured 6+4 when I should be 6+6, so not entirely reassuring but at least the hb wasn't bradycardic. I am absolutely certain of my dates as you ladies will understand. I also got my bfp at 10dpo, which if I'm wrong would mean a bfp at 8dpo which I really don't think is likely especially with a chart.
Last pg only got as big as 6+3, so have at least scraped past that milestone. Have a repeat scan in 2 weeks which will hopefully be ok.

Eh dig you are quite quiet even in the freak out room, compared to the usual volume of traffic

So glad to see your scan went ok and there is a hb xx I was charting too and they put me back 4 days on size & dates at 8 weeks. That would mean we conceived before we ovulated or had sex! Magic huh :)... who wants to call me Mary?!

Don't worry re: measurement at 6 weeks, *Digi. I know you are sure of dates but actually they are so tiny that any slight measurement error is magnified. They put me two days behind at 8 week scan. Then forward 3 days at 12 week scan - so 5 days different in all.

All sounds good so far - I know this period is hideous

Are you taking anything this time? x

So sorry spilt that you have come to this day, must be very hard. I hope that with the passing of this milestone you will be able to find the days start getting easier. It is perfectly fine to be on the one hand excited about the new pregnancy, but on the other sad about everything that could have been. Lots of love.

nix also thinking of you for monday. I hadn't realised you and spilts original due dates were so close to each other. It is always going to be a day for reflection, I hope yuo get through it ok. Annoying you've got the flippin pre-school bear to entertain this weekend - it's as bad as having a french exchange to show around the sights

ladyGG I would love to be friends on FB but haven't paid my £5 so can't PM people If you could PM me that would be fab !!

pippa I am very of your scan on monday! Is this your 12 week scan? That seems a bit early? Mine is not till 10th March which seems ages away I did actually get a pack through the post today though, with the booklet of notes you have to fill in, so that is something I suppose. Hopefully I am "in the system" now. There was a letter in the pack saying "due to new government guidelines, we now like to see you as early as possible in your pregnancy so your booking in appointment will probably not be the same day as your scan" - yeah right - as early as possible

Slightly miffed as it says you can't take children with you to the scan - my mum can't have DD that day and pre-school won't let anyone unknown to them pick her up, so am having to take her out of pre-school that day and get a friend to look after her. Not ideal, but oh well.

Those of you with older kids - have you told them yet?? I can't wait to tell DD she is going to have a brother or sister!! She is into babies in a BIG WAY. I think she will be very excited!!

Hi there digi good to see you on here again. Like you I have had very few symptoms - much fewer than I had with DD. The sickness has all but disappeared now, and I have no real evidence of being pg at all. It is disconcerting, but am trying not to freak out too much about it. By the way measuring 6+4 instead of 6+6 - I wouldn't worry at all. That is pretty much exactly what you dated it as, and I am never convinced that their actual measuring is entirely accurate - I think even half a millimetre different could change your days by one or two days more or less. So I wouldn't worry at all. It's good you get another scan in 2 weeks to reassure you.

I hadnt realised spilt and i were that close either.. GD the bear will make me get off my fat ass and go do things, rather than having a lazy morning. (will also stop me being maudlin!)

Have planned Wheelock farm tomorrow morn to see the animals, maybe the quarry to feed the ducks in the aft, bit of garden time (pray for no rain, otherwise barnaby bear is goosed!) and some train track time. Swimming on sunday then maybe if DS isnt exhausted some romping time with his pals/cousins or a trip to Fun4all.

We told DS after the 12 week scan, and he is totally convinced he is a baby sister! I dont want to find out but DH does so if it is a boy he can obviously talk to DS about it.

Great you have got your scan dates through ladies onwards and upwards xx

I told MiniG after 8 week scan - he picks up on a lot more than he lets on anyway. He is really excited. Kisses the baby every day! Says it is a baby boy and he wants to call him Daniel! (But as that as my partners name prob not an option!)

G your name better than my Ds! He wants to call it Porsche

My friend showed her little boy her scan photo and asked him if he wanted a boy or a girl. He paused and said "umm, a puppy" !!!

I am lucky in that I have a scan, a hospital appointment and a midwife appointment all in the 16th week, so it's only 10 days til scan time. Not too long to wait really.

digi great that you have already had a scan and seen the HB. Like the others I wouldn't worry about the dates - I would just see their scan as confirmation of your dates and keep your own in mind for now. At 6-7 weeks the baby is about 5mm long so you can see how small a margin of error would make a couple of days difference. I'm sure if you got three sonographers in to date the pregnancy at the same time they'd all be a day or so different. And feel free to freak out here. I am far from calm and sane!

GetDown PMing is free now. And at the puppy request!

Had an ok day in the end really. I had a very tearful morning, listened to some songs that meant a lot in the early days of loss, wrote down some of what I was feeling and things. Then DH came home at lunchtime and we bought some flowers for Bobbie and visited her. I gave him a little glass tealight holder that I'd got engraved with Bobbie's name and the SANDS tagline of "Always loved, never forgotten". This afternoon the vicar dropped round with a card and some flowers for us for today which was really nice to be remembered. And then we went out for dinner. Here's to my little girl

To Bobbie

Had hand surgery so hurts to type too much but just wanted to say spilt I am thinking of you and Bobbie today. xxx

To Bobbie too... xx

Hand surgery terrys ouch! When you're a bit more recovered do tell... hope it mends quickly.

Hope your hand is ok terrys.

I am feeling sick again today hormones are weird!!

I have just got back from a party. I cannot believe it, someone came up to me and said "when's your due date?" I haven't told ANYONE yet!! Am slightly depressed that I look pregnant at 11 weeks but it isn't a baby belly it's just fat!

Did anyone see that Embarrasing bodies last night? There was a woman on there whose stomach muscles had parted after birth of her third child and the result was a protruding belly even though she was slim generally. I am wondering if I could have this slightly? When I tense my stomach muscles I can definitely feel a gap of around 3cm at least between the muscles.....

But at being asked when my due date was!!!

GetDown what did you say?? Make the most of excusing it as a baby bump, that's what I'll do!!

Hand surgery was to remove a couple of stones left over from a motorbike accident 8 years ago, one was starting to poke out so it had to go - have a big bandage but its ok really.

I am feeling shattered at the moment, and one breast is painful and bigger than the other (even DH noticed ) surely these symptoms are too early?!!?

Ouch terrys sorry to hear about your accident, that's pretty bad you had stones left in there from 8 years ago, blimey didn't they get infected? Hope it heals up ok.

Don't think it's too early to have painful boobs and feeling shattered - these are two classic early symptoms. Don't know about the size difference though, but everyone is different.

I was slightly mortified when he asked me, I think I must have blushed I just told him "September" and then changed the subject. Hope he doesn't go tell anyone else!!

Getdown I said to dh this aft " I feel 6 months pg " and have a real waddle on already. his reply was "you look it" arse!

I am so fat cos I need to poo and I can't!!!

Someone asked with me at 11 weeks, Getdown - you just show earlier second time round!

4 tests done, really dark line last night on FR - feeling very

Fab terrys

I have the opposite problem. Both DH and I reckon I have a fairly noticable bump to anyone who knows me (have never been curvy before and have a flat stomach normally) and we'd made a comment about my expansion to my parents on the phone. They have arrived today to visit, looked at me and said "well there's hardly anything there!" and then proceeded to eye my body up for 5 mins whilst I felt really uncomfortable before pronouncing, "no, it's very miniscule bump".

Like that is a helpful/supportive/encouraging thing to say to someone whose last baby stopped growing at this stage and died. . Supremely pissed off!

People can't win can they?

terrys congratulations! That didn't take long at all!

I don't think I'm going to get ms this time, as I definitely had it by this time with ds. I suppose that's a good thing but I would really like something obviously reassuring - like sore boobs or a weird food craving. Or even massive hunger, which quickly overtook the ms with ds.

Today is the cycle day that I started mc-ing last time. I'm taking comfort from the fact that by this time of the day I had been experiencing cramps. However in terms of pg days I have this Wednesday to get past (or Friday if I go by the last scan's measurement). If I can just get to next Saturday i can then focus on making it as far as the next scan. Little steps for me.

spilt sorry about your parents, although to be fair I think the whole bump thing is a minefield, some people don't want to be showing and some people do so maybe they just got it the wrong way round??

Its all baby steps, literally digi and I really hope this next week flies by safe and bumpy for you!

I am surprised at how dark my line is and how much stronger my symptoms are this time, there aren't many but I am feeling shattered and my (one!) breast is sensitive, also felt a bit queasy in a cafe today. Someone on charters mentioned twins!! Ha ha.