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DH has died - niffler

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 26/12/2017 12:14

Husband now terminalhttp://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/lifelimitingg_illness/3050597-husband-now-terminal

We filled the last thread. Thank you all for every good thought you have sent my way.

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Amber0685 · 22/09/2018 22:42

Oh Wow, congratulations on the job. Is it a temporary one you are doing at the moment? What is the permanent job you have the interview for doing?

You have done so well these past few months, job, house, car. DH would be so proud of you. Well done! Best of luck for the interview, great the hours suit the dogs. Things really seem to be falling into place for you Niffler and you deserve it so much.

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 18/10/2018 21:29

The job I'm doing now is temporary. I didn't get the permanent job. I'm starting to really struggle now as it's just been a year since he had his diagnosis and it's coming up to a year since he died.

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Lostpuzzlepiece · 19/10/2018 10:05

Hi OP.

I have some idea of how you must be feeling. I lost my DP unexpectedly almost six months ago. I'm also struggling and it's wanted to let you know that that you're not alone. Love, strength and hugs to you x

Horsemad · 19/10/2018 21:41

Hi niffler, somehow this thread stopped appearing in my 'Threads I'm on'.

This is bound to be a very difficulttime for you Flowers
Don't panic, just take it a step at a time and you'll get there. You have done so well with everything and the next bit will be hard but you will be ok.

How is the house share going?

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 22/10/2018 15:10

I'm sorry to hear your loss Lost.

The house share is going okay but I definitely miss having my own place even my tiny little house. Ddog definitely prefers having a calm foggy friend at times though.

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 22/10/2018 15:11

*doggy not foggy although he is a little dim 

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Horsemad · 22/10/2018 16:22

Hahahaha, that dog looks very comfy there! 🙂

Amber0685 · 26/10/2018 16:44

That happened to me too horsemad

Sorry for your loss Lostpuzzlepiece

Sorry to hear things are difficult at the moment Niffler. One day at a time. Are you still doing the temporay job?

I am on the waiting list for another operation, hopefully before Christmas.

That's lovely d dog likes the other dog, gorgeous photo, he looks so clean.

SingaSong12 · 27/10/2018 11:14

Checking in to say I'm thinking about you especially as anniversaries come up.

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 29/10/2018 17:12

Amber I hope your op is sorted soon for you. Yes it's still the temporary job, I do like the people I'm working with though so that's good.

Thank you sing.

Another pet photo for you.

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Amber0685 · 08/11/2018 17:09

Thanks Niffler, good news I had a phone call on Tuesday and they have had a cancellation so it is now on Monday. That's great you like the people you are working with, makes such a difference. One of my first jobs, I had to be a trainee for a year and my supervisor was horrible, I hated it so much. Gorgeous photo, such a sign of trust with the belly showing. I didnt realize how much white dd has. I know these next few weeks are going to be hard so keep posting on here.

Amber0685 · 24/11/2018 12:42

How are things at the moment Niffler ?

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 25/11/2018 19:41

How did the op go Amber?

I'm okay, work is getting busier and my mood is getting lower but I'm not too bad at the moment.

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Horsemad · 25/11/2018 23:46

Flowers Niffler. Thinking of you.

Amber0685 · 01/12/2018 19:52

Good thanks Niffler having a bit of a problem with restless legs at night now though, DH was in the spare room last night. I have physio on Tues so hopefully she can help. I bought some Magnesium tablets too which I started today. I still have 3 more weeks of wearing compression stockings, which I wonder have anything to do with it.

There is a virus going around my area at the moment which has killed several puppies. Very sad it is very sudden vomitting and bloody diarrhoea. The vets don't know the cause yet.

I am glad you have been busy at work, I hope it helps take your mind off things. How long will you be doing it for? Flowers

caesio · 08/12/2018 14:18

Hi Niffler, thinking of you this this weekend as you come up to 1year since your husband died. Flowers

Hope ddog has some extras cuddle for you.

Look after yourself.

Amber0685 · 09/12/2018 12:19

Thinking of you Niffler, I hope dog is taking good care of you Flowers

Amber0685 · 10/12/2018 14:17
Flowers
Horsemad · 10/12/2018 18:50

Hi Niffler, been thinking of you today.

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 10/12/2018 22:40

Thank you all.

I went with my in laws to scatter some of dh's ashes today. It has been an emotional day but I'm doing okay.

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Horsemad · 12/12/2018 17:47

Flowers Sounds like a hard day for you all Niffler.

Amber0685 · 15/12/2018 01:59

No words niffler but you amaze me with your strength. I hope things get a little easier these coming days. Keep posting.

HappyHedgehog247 · 16/12/2018 23:33

Thinking of you niffler x

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 23/12/2018 08:50

Thank you all. I don't particularly feel strong, more going with the motions I guess. Hope you all have a good Christmas/holidays.

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Apileofballyhoo · 23/12/2018 08:55

Niffler Flowers
I hope you get through Christmas ok.

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