Immense baby name regret

[SLNM]

Baby is 3 months old, and I have started to regret her name. We named her Desiree (which is a name that DH had suggested). It is mainly the comments of others that are causing my regret. When we go to the shops, we get reactions that seem negative when someone asks what her name is. My parents do not like her name. I want to change her name but am not certain that I will be able to convince DH. It doesn't help that she is likely to be our only child (which only makes the regret stronger).

We had considered Isabel, Jacqueline, Lucy, and Scarlett as well, but DH wasn't as keen on those as I was. What would you do?

I saw a recent thread where someone was talking about rich people gentrifying chavvy names 😂

You've chosen a lovely combination of names! Scope for shorter forms too as pp have suggested

Enjoy your baby and don't worry about what other people think!

Have to agree with this.

Its a very lovely name and will look well with Dr. in front of it. Any one telling you they don't like your baby's name is such a rude fucker they should be soundly ignored.

I would shorten it to Rey

I wouldn't let the ignorance OPINIONS of the general public sway me from naming my child a beautiful name.

Fixed that for you.

Why not just call her Rey then? Why call her Desiree at all?!

I LOVE IT! Please don’t change it based on others being fannies.

Because she's already born and her name has already been registered?

It is a fabulous name and your daughter will make it her own. Ignore the negative vibes. .

My first boss was a Desirée -De-si-rée, in the French way. She is one the most kick-ass, dynamic and glamorous people i have ever worked with. A globe-trotting business woman who would go from Vanity Fair and Embassy cocktail parties to clambering up dusty warehouse shelves in Chanel slingbacks.

have you seen the name Renée? Similar, French, easier to pronounce in English, cute nickname- Wren.

im not going to give my opinion on the name you’ve chosen but if you have regret now after 3 months you always will.

No, you put your OPINION on my statement and then gave your OPINION that it was "fixed".

Wind your neck in.

It's beautiful.

I loved it after watching Angela Lansbury play Desiree in a Little Night Music "Send in the Clowns".

I wouldn't call it American at all.

Honestly If you hate it now regardless of the reason. I'd just change it. She's only 3 Months old.

@SLNM, it's a beautiful name. Fuck what other people think.
Congratulations on the birth of your daughter.

Worth saying that you can change a baby's name in the first 12 months for a fee but this process only adds the new chosen name to the register and full certificate, and does not remove the originally given name.

It’s all very well posters telling you it’s your choice and if people don’t like it then that’s their problem, but is that really the stance that parents want to take? Each time someone asks what their child is called, do they really want to puff their chest out with an “OK, brace yourself, and if you don’t like it you can fuck off” attitude? Personally I’d prefer to give my child a name that I knew people would like (or have no opinion on), so I never had to wonder what they thought.

If OP didn’t care what people thought, she wouldn’t have posted!

My son has a very uncommon name (for this country) he’s the only one of his name he’s ever known, to the point that I only put his first name on name tags in school.

when he was little, he thought everyone had a name unique to them. When I was talking about a Gary I knew, he piped up, “I know Gary!” I knew he didn’t and said, “ah sweetie, you know A Gary, there are lots of Garys, like lots of Charlie’s and Alfie’s in your class. It’s only you with a name that nobody else you know with it 😊😍”

I did doubt myself for a while. I asked him once if he’d have preferred a more usual name. He was absolutely adamant that he’d never change his name, he loved being the only one with it.

fwiw, I absolutely adore Desiree! It’s not just the name, it’s the meaning of it. It means so much and your little girl will know from this name just how much she’s loved and treasured by you and her dad. She will probably have it shortened by her peers to Dezzie or Des or something. But she’ll be unique and memorable.

give it time. I’m sure people were thinking all sorts about my son’s name, but he’s half his dad and has a strong heritage he’s immensely proud of. He owns it. Your little girl will own her name too.

OP clearly does care what other people think. Hence posting. It’s not easy to have a personality transplant and turn into a “fuck what other people think” person, if that’s not how you naturally are.

Wow.
Desirée is a royal name in the Scandi countries. King Carl XVI Gustaf's sister is Princess Desirée and it's Crown Princess Victoria's middle name. Is that white enough for you?

I like Desiree tbh.
I like it way better than your other choices.

Desiree Joy is a beautiful name! And personally I think DJ as a nickname for a girl is very cool but equally Desi or Rae are lovely! I wouldn't have any regrets at all. It's also a name that can take her through life from a baby to child and adult, which I think some names struggle to do and will help her stand out. When she's going for jobs in 20+ years time they won't forget the Desiree! X

I don’t think the names parents choose can be equated with how much they love their child. Are you saying that those of us whose kids don’t have names that mean “love” etc in another language, don’t actually love our kids?!!

Also, I think using an unusual name that relates to a heritage that you actually have, is very different from picking a foreign name because you like the sound of it. That, to me, is a bit of an affectation.

She is still so new, you're introducing her a lot. Even random strangers will ask you her name. That won't last. As she gets bigger she will be interacting mainly with people who already have a relationship with her. The reactions will die away.

You like it, DH loves it, stick with it. Just if she wants to change it when she is older, make sure you both take it with good grace and don't try to guilt trip her or make it difficult.

You've said you love the name so ignore the negativity. You'll meet loads of kids with unusual names once your DD is at nursery and school.

I always think it says a lot about the people who openly shit on a child's name. I really dislike the name Amelia but have never felt the need to tell anyone who has named their child that.