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Original poster

to wonder about this woman...

190 replies

biddysmama · 27/04/2010 17:31

was a woman in asda with a small (maybe 4 months ish) baby, in a pram.. he was crying, she leaned into the pram said "why dont you justshut the fuck up" then turned to her friend and said "he never stops fucking crying"

not only is that not ok (in my book) but her friend didnt look shocked!

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pjmama · 27/04/2010 17:32

There are some charming people around.

Reality · 27/04/2010 17:33

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MorrisZapp · 27/04/2010 17:34

Loads of people act like that.

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biddysmama · 27/04/2010 17:34

lol i have no choice, its all we have

they just started building a tesco tho (yaaaaay)

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blametheparents · 27/04/2010 17:34
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BuzzingNoise · 27/04/2010 17:34

Tut Tut. Everyone knows you should only shout at your baby in the privacy of your own home.

Pronoia · 27/04/2010 17:35

if he never stops crying, perhaps she was at the utter end of her tether with him?

The child is, what, four months old? And as she says, never stops crying...

That's a long long time to be screamed at whilst staying calm and loving.

Alouiseg · 27/04/2010 17:36

I might have said something to her, taken a photo of her on my phone and told her i was calling social services.

Which is exactly what I did in sainsbury's about a year ago when some dozy bitch who doesn't deserve a baby was being verbally vile to her baby.

BuzzingNoise · 27/04/2010 17:37

What did social services say, Alouiseg?

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biddysmama · 27/04/2010 17:37

my ds is 8 an has aspergers and literaly never shuts up... doesnt mean i shout and swear at him

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Alouiseg · 27/04/2010 17:37

Mine used to cry a lot but they stopped when i picked them up.

Therefore I spent nearly 4 years of my life with babies strapped to me.

Please don't make excuses for swearing at tiny babies.

Pronoia · 27/04/2010 17:37

good for you. Have a medal.

BuzzingNoise · 27/04/2010 17:37

Maybe she has PND. It's not right to shout at a baby, but there could be a reason.

Alouiseg · 27/04/2010 17:38

I didn't phone social services, i just told her i would be, which panicked her a lot. Especially as she realised I had a photo of her.

Alouiseg · 27/04/2010 17:39

Thats an excuse not a reason.

thursdaynamechange · 27/04/2010 17:40

that's cos you were in Chavsda

don't go there again, it's shit

buy Ocado

BuzzingNoise · 27/04/2010 17:40

No it's a reason. PND doesn't excuse the shouting, but it is the reason she might do it.

APassionateWoman · 27/04/2010 17:41

Lovely lady

Wonder what sort of language her baby will becoming out with as soon as he can talk....

Pronoia · 27/04/2010 17:42

GOD this website is crammed with hyperbolic wankers.

get some perspective. She told it to shut up (FUCKING shut up, to be precise). She didn't pour a kettle of boiling water over its' head, she didn't start slapping it, or throwing her keys at it, or shaking it - she told it to shut up.

Not ideal - not abusive either.

If you call social services about this, you'd have to call social services on every single parent who had ever told their child to shut up, and all the parents on mumsnet would have to fosted every other child in Britain until their mothers had learned not to be common.

toccatanfudge · 27/04/2010 17:42

do you want my name, number and address AlouiseG - you'd better report me to SS as well........last few weeks I confess to having done my fair share at swearing at my children...

No - I'm not "proud" of it - it happened, it was pretty shit of me, it may happen again in the future........perhaps you'd better report me just incase it happens again.

Reality · 27/04/2010 17:42

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Alouiseg · 27/04/2010 17:43

!!!! buzzingnoise

I don't know her and you don't know her.

She was swearing at her baby and to her friend about her baby.

Poor baby!

BuzzingNoise · 27/04/2010 17:43

Don't make me foster someone else's child! I struggle enough with my one child as it is.

toccatanfudge · 27/04/2010 17:44

APW - possibly language like my DS3 who I recently heard sitting muttering "for fucks sake" over and over under his breath as he was push a car quite happily backwards and forwards across the room......thankfully seems to have been a one off

Although tbh I found the "OH MYYYYY GODDDD" at the top of his voice in the middle of church just before a service much more mortifying

MegSophandEmma · 27/04/2010 17:44

Think it's bonkers that you took a picture of this stranger to be honest. it would have been hearsay also. A photo wouldn't of proven anything.