Husband blames Mumsnet

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if I challenge my husband’s bullying, or disagree, I’m told “here we go, it’s Mumsnet again”, or “f*ing Mumsnet”, or “what does Mumsnet say”. I’m really worn down.

This is my first post on Mumsnet x although I have reacted to loads of comments on other posters’ posts

Tried that- and the response is to mimic me saying that.

My hb's the same, doesn't know about MN, but moans about my being on fb with all my 'friends', not that I post anything, its just an excuse for them to rant & have a go, nothing is ever their fault, turn every disagreement roubd so your at fault. If you have the chance leave now. Good luck & take care xx

Adding to the chorus of get away from him please! I’ve been through this albeit we were together a shorter time. What stopped me leaving was questioning my sanity and knowing that he’d unleash his fury at me for leaving. He made some suicide threats and has been as mean as possible with maintenance. I still am so glad every day I left him and just feel so much joy at being able to be free to see family and work and do anything without getting verbally abused. How do you think he’d like it if you acted like he did and he had to spend his life being forced into smaller places where he can’t win? Doubt he’d put up with it. Wishing you strength. My ex also slagged off Mumsnet calling them “internet ghouls” 😂

Then that’s very strange that he would say that and have that reaction. If that’s the case I’d probably run for the hills.

In this instance - Mumsnet blames husband.

My mum used to say I’d read it in Jackie and was jumping on the bandwagon if we had words.

its awful isn’t it- he says Mumsnet is a bunch of stupid ‘Karen’s’ who hate men and are idiotic and probably fat. I hate him

Proud MN Harpie here. Learnt so much from many years of frank and sound support exchanged between MN women.
Hope you find peace and freedom OP

Oh I have never said ‘people on Mumsnet think xyz of you’. It’s if I offer and opinion or disagree with something he says, I get the ‘oh this is Mumsnet’. He knows it’s a largely female site and I think that scares him.

Here we go. A lovely shout of clarity and you’ve reached it wonderfully quickly. Keep saying it. “I hate him. I hate him. I hate him.” Make it your mantra through the wobbles to come. Read the threads called There We Are Then (of COURSE it’s an acronym and a well earned one too) to show you the glory which can be reached when you realise you have a husband problem, not a you problem. Mumsnetters are fierce warriors and we are here for you. You hate him. You hate him. Move on and if he tries to get in the way, mow him down.

@Howtorespond For some reason, the mental image of a husband saying "what does Mumsnet say" during an argument is really funny for me.

I mean I hate to agree with this man that sounds like an absolute weapon but he isn’t wrong on some of it. There are a lot of keyboard Karens, a lot of men haters, lot of family haters, lot of very bitter people.

some just like the drama and want to scream LTB.

it’s hard to tell if every post is genuine but some of the posts on here, people definitely need help & support.

Your husband seems to have been reading it a lot

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You need to start your own thread, and the Chat board will probably get you the best returns. It's really easy to do.

Oooh, I bet you end up with a few replies 😊👍

Perfect response 👍

Yes, you are right. Appreciate it xx

I don’t think he reads it- he’s just latched onto the fact I do and rather than thinking I’m developing some self esteem and self respect, he would rather say I’m being influenced by other idiots’.

Laugh at him ironically and walk away whenever he belittles you, especially in front of others.

Well, most people don't make major decisions based on what random posters on the net say. I'd just laugh at him.

How is he likely to react when you tell him you want a divorce?
Will you have to move out?
Will you have to sell the house?

I do, but he persists or copies my voice. It’s just exhausting

My first XH used to say 'Have you got your period? Or have you been speaking to your mother again?', which was, I think, the 90s version of this.

I found the absolute best answer to that was to divorce him, tbh. He was satisfyingly shocked that I did so.

Always keep your mouth open when you insult a lady !