Child not invited to parties because “I don’t talk to parents”

[Ladyoftheapple]

My daughter is 8, she has three close friends in school, two of which are boys. One of these boys has had birthday parties and invited the close knit friends but my daughter has been excluded.

Today, my daughter has come home and said her best friend has said she is going to another boy in the class’s party. My daughter has said she hasn’t been invited but her best friend has then said to her that she hasn’t been invited because “her Mummy doesn’t talk to their parents”. She also said she spoke to her other best boy friend and he said the reason that she wasn’t invited was because his parents chose who came.

To be honest, I am a drop and run kind of parent and so is my Husband. I am terrible at small talk and I don’t want to be stood at the school gates gossiping. Is this on me? I feel it’s really unfair on my daughter that she is being excluded from her best friends parties because of her parents opinions of me 😳

Same here.

I haven't once mentioned the child being ND. I gave my opinion on the question asked in this thread and yes it's absolutely wrong not to invite a child just because you don't speak to the parents, it should be up to the child at this age. ND was brought up as an example of why some parents may not come across as super friendly and chatty, people should be more open minded and not just assume someone is outright rude. Yes it is the way of the world unfortunately but thankfully things are beginning to change and hopefully for the better!

Ggg

@Dogsareyourbestfriends What it “should” be and what parents do are two different things. Lots of dc are not encouraged to have friends outside a curated group. Many parents will have observed that. Many parties get smaller too so not many go. What I think is more hurtful is having 22-15 dc to parties where your child has had freedom to invite whom they want and then they get one invitation back all year! That’s the unkind bit.

You are going off topic here. The thread is about not getting a party invite because you don't chat to the parents nothing about getting invites back etc my first comment was about the people saying oh well you have to chat etc or just make yourself and I was just saying if you haven't spoken to them properly before then you don't know their difficulties or why they don't come across as chatty. People shouldn't just assume they are rude and just don't want to chat, there are lots of reasons why they may not come across that way but their child shouldn't miss out when the OP stated they were good friends!