AIBU to think my friend should mind her own business?

[MounjaMum]

Last month I spent £540 in going out. That does not include when we go out as a family and my husband pays. I wanted a new handbag as I was running shot and didn't want to dip in savings so hinted to my husband and he gave me the money towards it. My friend said that it was unreasonable of me to do so.
She is saying that I should stop going out so much and should have left it till when I have the money. I am actually upset by the way she said it and told her as much and she is saying that I am acting like a spoilt 'bitch' - her exact words.
Am I being unreasonable in thinking that she should mind her own business!

@SandyHappy Don't you think you are being a bit harsh?

Then speaking about how much things cost is rude. In any case as price is a conversational norm for you and your friend, I can see what she commented.

That’s a very expensive bag to most people 😬

Your friend needs to mind her business.

@PandorasJam - I can assure you - I always pay for my share and more!
Am not a freeloader. In fact, I often pick the tab for coffees etc, we take turns.

@MounjaMumI think you’re just stirring the pot now OP, that or you are spectacularly unaware of how ignorant and immature you coming across in your posts. Is he your husband or your father? Telling him you like a handbag but are sad you can’t afford it…pause for reaction. Just weird and icky.

This - WTF's it got to do with her?!

OP, there is a phrase: Money talks, wealth whispers.

Maybe be more wealth, less money if you don’t want annoying comments.

I am genuinely wondering why people think that hinting about something is not acceptable?
Would it have been more acceptable if I did it with my mum instead of my husband?

If you don't want opinions on your finances, stop sharing details about your finances.

Don't worry about it.

I've spent far more on a bag. Besides, your DH was happy to pay for it.

OP, I think you actually need to start growing up and acting as a team with DH.
He pays when together, he cooks, he works. You go out for lunch, tea, spas, takeaways. There really needs to be more balance in your household. You do sound like a spoilt child: I want this handbag.

Your good friend, is a good friend. She is holding you accountable. That's what proper friend do. They step in.

I am glad to hear it.

Still, as other posters have said, it can be grating for people less well-off to hear relatively rich friends casually complain of being "broke" when this is far from the case.

You come across as a very spoilt “princess” type.

Stop sharing your financial affairs with friends who don't want you to have nice things, dear.

Don't describe yourself as 'broke' in one breath and then say 'but husband will buy me a handbag' in the next then.

@NewbieSM - it is weird that you find it icky tbh. I suppose people have different dynamic in their marriage.

Whoopie do that it was "on sale"! I suppose you really think this is a reasonable amount to spend on an accessory. Oh, and supposedly you're skint? I don't think you could possibly understand how out of touch you are with how the majority of us are living.

You sound incredibly immature

Maybe, but it actually makes me feel a bit sick that women lower themselves to this.. you have to perform a ritual to get what you want.. it's nothing to be proud of IMO and I sure as hell wouldn't be telling my friends about it, like it's an achievement.

If my very good friend told me this I'd probably tell her to have some more self respect, and stop wasting money on silly things if it means I've got to manipulate my DH into giving me more when I'm 'broke'.

How much were you short by? How much do you save each month?

Don't discuss your spending and finances with anyone unless you welcome their opinion on it.

If you don't discuss your financial position with her she will have no business to mind out of.

Well if you have plenty of money available to you every month that you can spend as you choose, you shouldn't be blasting through it on unnecessary things, then 'hinting' (begging) other people to buy things for you that you don't even need.

Have some self respect woman.

If I had to guess I'd say the OP could be a contender for a show like 'Real Housewives of (somewhere not classy)'.

"Running short of handbags"?
Since when is that a thing?
Then buying one that wasn't expensive, only "£420 and it was on sale" - so of course a real bargain...🙄

Husbands and wives supporting each other, imo, doesn't mean a husband indulging their wife's wish for an expensive new bag after she's "dropped a hint".

But the very worst thing is OP feeding her kids shit food for a week because her DH was away, he always cooks because she hates it. I bet there wasn't a vegetable in sight.

OP, you clearly have a very comfortable lifestyle and almost zero self-awareness.
I obviously don't know you, but from what you've posted I would say your friend's assessment was accurate.

Then under those circumstances, her response seems reasonable. Out of interest, what were you expecting her to say?