AIBU to think my friend should mind her own business?

[MounjaMum]

Last month I spent £540 in going out. That does not include when we go out as a family and my husband pays. I wanted a new handbag as I was running shot and didn't want to dip in savings so hinted to my husband and he gave me the money towards it. My friend said that it was unreasonable of me to do so.
She is saying that I should stop going out so much and should have left it till when I have the money. I am actually upset by the way she said it and told her as much and she is saying that I am acting like a spoilt 'bitch' - her exact words.
Am I being unreasonable in thinking that she should mind her own business!

You are married, imply you have children and that your husband possibly earns more. If you are comfortable why not eat out a bit more, buy something you want. Entirely normal

You are NOT being unreasonable.

The money belongs to you and your husband, not your so-called ''friend''.

It was very generous of your husband to give you the money for your handbag or anything else.

I totally fail to understand how it's any business of your ''friend'', and she even told you to stop going out so much! What right has she to demand such things? None!

Tell her to her face ''You're obviously insanely jealous and are suffering from a severe case of green-eyed-monster, so sod off and mind your own bloody business!''

Quick update: Thank you everyone who have commented. May be I did not express things well in my original post and it may have come across that I am very spoilt and treat my husband badly and that as a 46 year old woman I should not be hinting. May be hinting was the wrong word. I could have asked directly, true but I just said that I liked a bag and it was a shame I could not afford it and he gave me his card. It was one time, I was not hinting and hinting, so may be hinting is the wrong word.

I work and my wages is my pocket money. This is why I said I was short until payday. I can use our joint current account money but I try not to. We both agreed that the inheritance will not be touched, and we do not need to touch it, we have other savings. I keep saying WE as it is OUR money. My husband earns very well, no mortgage so he is happy to buy things for me. I buy him things all the time. I literally do all his clothes shopping. We have a good marriage despite what people on here think. And even if I did have money, why can he not buy me things?

My children had 1 week of 'shit' food as people call it, I do not see the harm in that. The amount of activities they do, they are not gonna suffer long term effects of shit food. My husband loves cooking, he chooses to cook for us - why should I cook? Just because I do not cook, does not make me a bad wife or a bad mother. Growing up I never had to do chores, I never fried an egg until I went to uni.

Posters response on here have made me think a lot (although I still do not get the outrage)- I have spoken to my mum and my siblings but they cannot understand the outrage either. So I will put that down to a cultural difference.
To those who are in a similar position and understands what I was saying in my original post, thank you for your support. ❤

You say you didn't know how to fry an egg until uni. Is that something you want for your own children? Perhaps consider learning to cook a few simple meals together with your kids. They might really enjoy the activity and learning alongside you. Or if you really don't want to cook, ask your husband to get the kids involved when he prepares meals.

My DH is from a culture where it's normal to have a housekeeper doing an the cooking and cleaning. His parents never did any of it. Now as an adult he's had to learn everything from scratch.

Tbh it made me very hesitant to actually date him, it was only his willingness to learn and always pitch in that made me look past it. It was still a turn off to have to explain how to chop an onion or clean a fridge. Luckily he learned fast, helpless adults aren't attractive.

Basically, you'd be doing your kids a massive favour by actually preparing them for adult life.

But the OP has a husband who does all the cooking, so why can't he be the one to teach the kids how to cook? Why do you think he isn't already doing so?

The OP isn't the only parent in the house; she just happens to be the female one. That doesn't mean she's the one who takes on the role of teaching the kids about domestic stuff.

You'll notice I did mention the DH teaching the kids to cook. But ultimately I think it's important that both parents model to kids that all adults should know how to cook and can feed themselves if necessary.

It would be more effective if the kids knew both mum and dad can cook (even if one does the majority of the cooking, that's fine) rather than dad cooks and mum can barely boil an egg.

ETA: I also was suggesting OP learn to cook alongside her kids as a fun activity. Dad could teach them all, surely?