To find this an utterly crass term to send someone you are dating

[Datingagain25]

I’ve had 5 dates with a man, so far so good. We were intimate after date 5 when he came back to mine. He was obviously drunk last night and we were messaging back and forth.

He said ‘do you know what I can’t wait to do to you next time’. I obviously replied to ask what. To which the reply was ‘tongue punch your fart box’

My friends were not lying when they said dating isn’t for the faint hearted😷

Would you also be grossed out, or see it is a compliment? Which is what he said when I challenged!

I didnt know jay from the inbetweeners actually existed

Are you sure his mates didn’t get hold of his phone?

Hard no from me. I have a very childish sense of humour and a potty mouth but if I got a message like that it would be an instant block.

Porn won’t even use that vocab. It’s not sexy or titillating whatsoever even for those into anal stuff.

Sounds like he’s trying to be “funny” but it’s just childish and icky.

Is it possible one of his mates got hold of his phone? I just can’t imagine any man, however pissed, would send this to a woman in the early stages of dating. Or even in the very established stages, unless in an attempt to be funny. Just doesn’t ring true.

I mean, had you previously expressed your desire for this to him?? Because that would be the only situation where this might be, although gross and disgusting language, acceptable. As in, he can’t wait to do something to you that you had expressed would please you.
If not, then nope, massive red flag, chuck him back in the sea.

I feel very naive but what does that mean ?

Anyway ...absoltuy block and reject

Put him in the bin! I’ve got the ick on your behalf 🤢

The replies have had me howling 🤣

I didn't have responding to a thread about rimming on my bingo card for this Saturday.

What I find strange is that there are clearly men and women who must - regularly? - do this and presumably enjoy it. I kind of don't want to be walking and talking with people who do this with each other. The word " gross" isn't sufficient

Fart box? How romantic. Definitely a massive compliment, OP, you lucky, lucky girl.

Congratulations OP, I think you've found The Missing Link.

weird

agree, what a catch he is OP. 😂

You are asking if this is a compliment???

No, it's not a compliment. It's a test to see if you have any standards.

If you do have standards, say something like: 'Having thought about your messages, I don't think we're compatible. I wish you all the best.'

Then chalk it up to experience.

Can someone explain to me how on earth this is a compliment?

Please ask him to explain himself clearly so you can understand and let us know.

Well that’s a new one 😂. He would have nose-dived in my estimations if I’d heard that from a date.

Christ alive … I haven’t been on the dating scene since I was 18 and if anything happened to DH I don’t think I’d bother these days 🤮

Who could resist such a smooth talker? Form an orderly queue, ladies!

He's one of those godawful immature 'lad' type blokes. Nothing wrong with the rimming itself if that is mutually pleasurable. A conversation about what each of you enjoy as things develop, fine. But texting it in such a crude style when you have barely met, no thanks.

It didn't come from nowhere, he was out drinking with a likely similar minded group and also probably discussing you with them. He let slip early on that he is a disrespectful child. Move on, next please.

That’s disgusting

Other people's sex lives are really none of your business.

Wtf is wrong with him?

I didn’t even know this was a phrase until I googled it. Guess I’m old.