To find this an utterly crass term to send someone you are dating

[Datingagain25]

I’ve had 5 dates with a man, so far so good. We were intimate after date 5 when he came back to mine. He was obviously drunk last night and we were messaging back and forth.

He said ‘do you know what I can’t wait to do to you next time’. I obviously replied to ask what. To which the reply was ‘tongue punch your fart box’

My friends were not lying when they said dating isn’t for the faint hearted😷

Would you also be grossed out, or see it is a compliment? Which is what he said when I challenged!

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Lots of men enjoy doing this to both women and men. It is pretty awesome under the right circumstances. You don't have to do it, you can find it disgusting as a thought for yourself, but calling other people disgusting for doing things in their own private sex lives that you don't like is pretty rancid.

Especially gay men. Mumsnetters can be so parochial and narrow minded.

Yeah that's not hot in the slightest!! Yuk!!

Omg OP I think I've just been a bit sick in my mouth 🤣 I'm sorry that he's turned out to be an absolute goblin but please immediately block this specimen

I think we all get you like it. You can stand down now and calm yourself

Never before has the phrase 'he needs his mouth washed out with soap and water' seemed more fitting.

Mmmm yum human faeces! What a turn on!!😂

A fucking compliment? That would be a permanent turn off and I wouldn't see him again

Omg yuk! It's posts like this that make me never want to start dating again. I would throw that one back OP.

That’s so immature to the point I can’t imagine a grown man saying this. It’s something I’d imagine coming from Jay from the inbetweeners, but there are a lot like teenagers on dating apps.

I always wondered WHY do they think acting like a child is appealing!? I guess that’s why they are single. When I was on the apps there was also a lot of men who would pose with the ‘peace’ gesture with a joint hanging out of their mouths thinking they were a catch in their 30s. 😂 I despair.

Tell him that phrasing is so cringeworthy and immature and has given you the major ick. Then block.

He wants to nose dive into her estimations!

Definitely would be a turn off for me too OP. As others have said, if that’s what you like, there are better ways to discuss it. Wouldn’t be for me though.

I’m also surprised no one has mentioned poo crumbs yet either!

Telling on yourself there? Personally I wash thoroughly before sex, no matter what activity I might be partaking in!

@DialSquare I know I'll regret this
Poo crumbs?

There was a similar thread years ago when a poster asked why would anyone want to do it and what about the poo crumbs. It became a bit of a Mumsnet classic phrase.

Those of you who are adamant that this isn't mainstream... have you discussed it with friends? Do you know they don't do it? I have one friend who knows I enjoy it. That's all because my sex life is personal. I have no idea what most of my friends do/ don't enjoy.

@Datingagain25 the phrasing was awful, but I'd have laughed and asked him never to use that phrase again.

It isn’t ’the new thing in porn’. It isn’t an especially out-there sexual practice. There was an episode of Sex And The City about it 25 years ago.

There is nothing wrong a man asking to do it, and frankly I wouldn’t knock it until you’ve tried it, but there IS something wrong with the terminology “tongue punch your fart box” and I would dump him for that wording because it makes him sound 12 and is juvenile and offputting and depressing on a grand scale.

It didn’t call them distrusting, I said that the act was disgusting.

But since you asked, yeah I do think they’re dirty fuckers. Same as people with foot fetishes who buy dirty shoes to lick. They’re literally bottom feeders and probably have tapeworm.

I'm no prude, but that is utterly vile. I could not see him again.

Well exactly.

Either it’s her bum, or she keeps farts in a box.

Well, I suppose that's one way of keeping your weight down. 🤷‍♀️

When someone shows you who they are...etc.

FFS! 😂😂😂

Why would she be? probably had a nice evening and a better night.

Although the text is just yuk. Heard some dodgy things in my time but that's beyond the pale

That genuinely made me laugh out loud. He just showed he’s an absolute prat. What a puerile half wit.

bin him.