To find this an utterly crass term to send someone you are dating

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I’ve had 5 dates with a man, so far so good. We were intimate after date 5 when he came back to mine. He was obviously drunk last night and we were messaging back and forth.

He said ‘do you know what I can’t wait to do to you next time’. I obviously replied to ask what. To which the reply was ‘tongue punch your fart box’

My friends were not lying when they said dating isn’t for the faint hearted😷

Would you also be grossed out, or see it is a compliment? Which is what he said when I challenged!

Definitely chuck him back in the sea. Ugh.

As @ColinOfficeTrolley says if those words are in his vocabulary I'd be running for the hills

Any chance a mate he was out with took his phone? Surely there is no one thick enough so send that and assume a favourable outcome regardless of how pissed they are.

I read this half an hour ago and am still cringing 😬

This can’t be real.

Words fail me….shame they didn’t fail him!

Honestly, do you really need to ask?

OP that’s awful. I couldn’t see him ever again after that.

I didn't realise porn actually verbalised what the participants were doing, iyswim. That surprises me. I thought porn filmed the act not described it.

Oh me that's a cheerio matey🙋

Dates have been great and he has been a gentleman! Which is why I was shocked at this

He's let his mask slip early on then? Better you know now.

I've been guilty of letting 'little' comments slide at the start of dating someone and, I'll be honest, it's never turned out to have been the right thing to do.

Even if he never did it again, you'd know the level of his thinking. He won't stop being that sort of man, he'll just stop letting you see it.

There's a guy on insta who makes up songs based on real life terrible tinder conversations- look him up. It's both hilarious and terrifying.

Gross. I'd also be worried that he regularly drinks so much that he starts talking like a very immature teenager.

thats actually disgusting to write that. I’d dump him

Have you told him either last night or today that his language repulsed you?

Personally I think blocking is reasonable if that’s what you choose but tell him why first so he might choose to “make better choices”

@AllJoyAndNoFun ah yes! That Lew- something guy.

This one needs to be submitted for a song.

Surely there has to be more subtle and seductive ways of him telling you he wants to lick your bum!

Instant dump. I cant imagine anything more revolting. Too much porn.

God I’m so fucking glad I will never date again. More words fail me. And tbh when kissing him I’d continually be think who’s fart hole his tongue had been near. 🤢

My reply would be instant and final:

”That is revolting - both the language and the fact you find that an acceptable text to send me. Don’t contact me again”.

@LapisBlue i think we need to reclaim the word prude. Prude and proud?

Well, he's not classy is he OP. 😳

What kind of porn do you watch 😂

Rimming is a fairly mainstream sexual practice. Don't knock it til you've tried it. The turn of phrase though? Absolutely not.

Pornsick is a very good description, as it’s now a mental illness that has completely changed the brains of such a huge proportion of the male population.