Aibu that having thick hair is not something for someone to be envious of!?

[thickhairproblems]

As the title says!
I have very thick hair, always have, it’s straight but has lots of kinks in so needs to be blow dried and straightened after each wash. I absolutely cannot leave to air dry as it’s a frizzy poofy mess. Even just blasting it with hair dyer it’s frizzy, lots of kinks and a few waves. Needs to be brushed as I dry it to somehow calm it down and it takes absolutely ages to do! It’s about bra strap length, I’ve tried it shorter but doesn’t sit right, needs some weight to hold it down so doesn’t poof out, layers don’t sit right. First bit of wind outside and it turns to a mess, gets very knotty.

Today Someone asked if my hair was all mine and that they would love to have hair like mine. This isn’t the first conversation I’ve had with people about wanting thick hair. Every hairdresser I go to mentions it.

Aibu that having thick hair isn’t something to be envious of
or
yanbu thick hair is a pita!

Also if anyone has any styling tips that would be great

As a perimenopausal woman with a frozen shoulder which makes even brushing her wiry frizzy toblerone-shaped hair almost impossible due to pain and restricted movement, who's had uncontrollable hair since puberty, never managed to master the straighteners OR the curly girl method, who can't exercise without needing to plan when hair wash day falls/holiday without a hair bobble and hat to hide the frizz etc etc I am wishing my hair thins somewhat at menopause...

YANBU OP (though your poll is odd). My mum and cousins have poker-straight thin hair (that some might describe as lank the day after washing) who envy my hair. I envy their glossy shine, effortless frizz-free locks and air dry to perfection in 10 mins hair.

I'd love my thick hair back. But health issues and perimenopause have wrecked it. I'm very limited what I can do with it these days. It feels really horrible to have hair so thin your scalp is visible.

Very fine thin hair also a bit of a pain.
Happy medium would be nice

I have thick curly hair. I love having thick hair, I think it's one of my best features. Mostly I'm lazy and just put it in a ponytail or bun, but it holds a style well and looked amazing on my wedding day!

I don't think it takes much work. It's dry so I only wash it weekly. It doesn't look good short but I don't want short hair anyway, and there are cuts to suit or not suit all hair types.

The only downside for me is that it's heavy and can give me headaches. It's a shame as I'd love it to be longer.

Mines thick, wavy on the under layers when wet but drys straight(hairdressers are always so shocked when they wash it and see all the waves.)
My main issue is its incredibly flat at the roots, no volume at all, probably because of the heaviness of all my hair, so it makes styling it basically impossible as it just looks slicked back but like i havent done a good job at slicking it back 🤣
Doesnt hold a curl or blow out
I never used to have an issue with knots, as in i could go days without brushing my hair and still be tangle free when I would finally get round to brushing it, but the past few years they are awful(I blame dyson, switching to this hairdryer is the only change i have made since the knots started)

Yanbu. It's a genuine pain in the arse, takes ages to dry and goes frizzy so easily. Does anyone else find their thick hair knots up again so soon after brushing, too? I hate it.

It's not curly either. But it does this annoying thing where it 'kinks out' in random places, so I have random flicky ends.

ive always thought the same as you until I’ve hit menopause! Now my usually lovely thick hair is just ‘normal’ and a bit limp!
plus my friends who were not blessed with thick hair are struggling with patchy exceedingly thin hair.
So embrace it I say! Thank goodness you won’t be one of those old ladies you look at and pity….

My very thick hair thinned a bit but you're right it's still a full head. Menopause is a bugger.

Yes I have the same problems OP. Almost exactly the same in fact.

The only way I've managed to tame it is having an inverted bob. I'm not a massive fan of the style at the back but it looks ok at the front.
I have to keep up with the style as well as once it starts growing out it starts flicking out and kinking.

I can't have it long as it just becomes unmanageably thick at that point and takes a good hour to wash and dry.

I can't curl it or do nice hairstyles with it because there's just too much of it. If I want it coloured I'm in the hairdressers for a good 3-4 hours.

It's shit.

Very fine thin hair here and I would swap in a heartbeat. My hair is very greasy and has to be washed every day or it looks flat and disgusting. Dry shampoo can maybe get me through a second day if I stick it up but it still doesn’t look great.
Even after a lot time styling it always looks a bit flat and limp and will definitely not hold a curl.
Perimenopause now making it thin more and when you don’t have much to start with, it’s very depressing!

Trust me thick hair ladies, you do not want to swap!

It’s hard work but it’s very beautiful.

So I think on balance thick hair is a plus.

I struggled a lot with my very thick wavy hair when I was younger. I had the same problems as you, OP, I was always losing my temper with it and cutting it short, which made it look worse. I found the trick was to embrace the waves, find the right styling products and a great hairdresser who cuts my hair in very blunt layers. I used to get it thinned as well, but since menopause this is no longer necessary. I have actually found that menopause has given me the hair I always wanted - it has thinned my hair to a more normal level of thickness and the texture has changed from course to soft so now I have lots of beachy waves. I love it and it has become my pride and joy. So embrace it, because I wish I had been nicer to my hair when I was younger - those short hair cuts were AWFUL!