AIBU to be angry he locked us in while ill?

[BeDandyFawn]

My husband has been away with work this week, he called me from the airport to say he was feeling unwell with a bug, he had fever, chills, upset stomach, headache and said he might even go straight to a hotel when he lands instead of driving the 40 mins home.
When he landed I got a text to say that he will stay in our self contained unit which we are very lucky to have, it’s right next to the house - bedroom, bathroom, TV, kitchenette.
He asked for the heating to go on, my daughter and I made sure everything was comfortable - we left a huge jug of water, glass, paracetamol and some Dioralyte.
I then went to bed and he then came across to the house - grabbed the kettle and then took the back door keys and locked the door from the outside leaving me, my daughter and her boyfriend locked in the house!!!
I was absolutely furious when I realised he had done this when I came downstairs, I know it sounds utterly pathetic but I do have a real issue that he doesn’t think of others and always prioritises himself. I text him to say how cross I was and he said he’s been vomiting, and poorly throughout the night. He said he locked us in and kept the keys in “incase he needed to access the house in the night because he was poorly”….he’s mid 40’s and has a sickness bug!!
I know this sounds like such a pathetic ramble but I am so cross that he would lock us in, we have a front door but it has steep steps and following a recent operation I can’t use this. I just feel there is no thought for us, he’s sick so everything revolves around him - I feel it’s so selfish, it’s like there is no consideration for others, he gets what he needs but it doesn’t matter about the rest of us.
Am I being unreasonable?

Surely you have more than one day of keys for each door? You’re adults, it’s your house, you sort spare keys out when you move in 🫤

Unless you’re leaving other important information about him out, why is this such an issue? He locked the back door overnight but your daughter and boyfriend could go out the front? He locked it to keep you safe but so if he needed to come back as he was poorly. Why are you so angry at him? I’d be more worried if my husband was that poorly. Unless he does this all the time… get a grip!

There is a front door?

Did he stay out in other building to prevent you from catching the illness?

It’s so weird

She should have mentioned this in her thread, because clearly by only giving us one-hundredth of the full picture of his behaviour, she isn't going to get helpful answers.

This is very strange. Don't you each have a set of keys to the house? It's dangerous to have one set so that one person can lock you in and go away. What if there's a fire at the front of the house and you need to get out quickly?

He only took the back door keys. He didnt lock you in

I'm a bit confused - how did he let himself in? Was the locked or as it open?

You sound a bit dramatic to be honest.🤷‍♀️.

I can’t believe anyone thinks you’re overreacting it was very thoughtless and also dangerous to leave you locked in the house with no way of getting out in an emergency

Why on earth are 2 grown ups sharing one set of keys?? If you kept the keys in the house then presumably he would be locked out, unless he could access the front of the house via a gate or something? I guess his thinking was you could get out of the front door, albeit not easily, so you weren't actually locked in with no escape whereas he might need to get it.

The solution here seems easy just get another set of keys cut - problem solved!

you only have one door and one key for it??

He shouldn't have done it in the first place

You were hardly locked in the house because you didn’t have access through the back door, op?
Presumably you have a front door like most people, and each adult living in the house has their own set of keys?!

So you wanted him to keep the door unlocked all night?

He absolutely did the right thing.

Surely someone has an extra set of keys for one of the doors?!

You’re accusing him and implying something quite horrific when that’s not how it is at all.

You don’t sound like a very nice person.

Yes, I think that's right. Either her DD or the boyfriend of the DD could have nipped out of the front door and round the back and retrieved the keys from the DH in the 'unit'. There clearly is access from the front to the back, otherwise the OP wouldn't be using the back door it as her temporary exit route while incapacitated.

HOWEVER, if the DH is a self-involved, all-round knobber, though, all this is irrelevant. And I suspect this is where the OP is at. Thus I voted that SINBU.

But you can still go out (via the front door)? I don't understand the rant. Nobody locked you in guys, you sound mad.

OP has said he drinks too much and is likely an alcoholic but no where does she say he’s abusive.

She’s said he doesn’t want to spend time with her but that is not abusive.

It seems that he is working FT, caring for OP and is doing everything in the house because OP currently can’t.

He’s now ill and had a long journey, so likely not thinking straight.
But locking the door at night is the safest thing to do anyway.

For OP to imply he locked her in the house for any other reason is extremely malicious and not a nice person.

I’m severely claustrophobic due to a stepmothers preferred punishment method as a child, I’d divorce my husband in a heartbeat if he locked me in anywhere! I realise I’m on the extreme end of this spectrum.

Having just one key for a door is ridiculous.

Could you not have called and just said we need the key back your daughter and her partner could've used the front door

If your house is big enough to have a self contained annex then why hasn’t it got a front door and why have you only got one key

in briefly husband took the back door key no one’s been imprisoned

It's not dangerous because they could simply exit the house by the front door instead.🚶

That wasn't at all clear from the OP, which is why I qualified my response by whether there was an alternative exit.