AIBU to be angry he locked us in while ill?

[BeDandyFawn]

My husband has been away with work this week, he called me from the airport to say he was feeling unwell with a bug, he had fever, chills, upset stomach, headache and said he might even go straight to a hotel when he lands instead of driving the 40 mins home.
When he landed I got a text to say that he will stay in our self contained unit which we are very lucky to have, it’s right next to the house - bedroom, bathroom, TV, kitchenette.
He asked for the heating to go on, my daughter and I made sure everything was comfortable - we left a huge jug of water, glass, paracetamol and some Dioralyte.
I then went to bed and he then came across to the house - grabbed the kettle and then took the back door keys and locked the door from the outside leaving me, my daughter and her boyfriend locked in the house!!!
I was absolutely furious when I realised he had done this when I came downstairs, I know it sounds utterly pathetic but I do have a real issue that he doesn’t think of others and always prioritises himself. I text him to say how cross I was and he said he’s been vomiting, and poorly throughout the night. He said he locked us in and kept the keys in “incase he needed to access the house in the night because he was poorly”….he’s mid 40’s and has a sickness bug!!
I know this sounds like such a pathetic ramble but I am so cross that he would lock us in, we have a front door but it has steep steps and following a recent operation I can’t use this. I just feel there is no thought for us, he’s sick so everything revolves around him - I feel it’s so selfish, it’s like there is no consideration for others, he gets what he needs but it doesn’t matter about the rest of us.
Am I being unreasonable?

Change the locks immediately so that can never happen again. You keep several sets of the new keys inside, don't tell him. Massively dangerous fire hazard! He's an A+ a.

What if there was a fire? Would you have been able to get out?

Do people really, like really really, think that what happened here was anything more than a minor brain fart on the part of the husband, who may not have been at his most lucid? It seems to me that people are using the vanishingly unlikely scenario of a fire - that in particular blocked timely egress through the front door but not the back - as a means to come to the usual conclusion that All Men Are Unthinking Bastards. How do you function in the big bad world if you catastrophise to that extent? Like others have said he was never going to win here; lock the door and he wants you to die in a fire. Not lock the door and he wants you to be murdered. Come and disturb you in bed and he wants you to catch whatever he's got (probably Ebola). Load of fuss over nothing.

I think your more at risk from burgled and attacked from an open door rather than burning to death

OP can you please link your other thread people are talking about.

This really should of been a non problem solved by having more keys.

Yes he was being selfish if it was your only set but the problem shouldn't of arisen in the first place

I don’t have any doors like that. Both front and back door require a key to unlock frrom both sides.

Did you not read that the house has a front door with a key?

This.

Clearly more of a bigger issue going on here, but the man was unwell, we don’t think clearly when in that state.

Get more keys.

He's an alcoholic. Drunks and fires go hand in hand - including deaths due to starting them, not being able to react and from stupid decisions that make it impossible for people to escape.

https://www.notts-fire.gov.uk/professional/charlie-p-training/a-alcohol-and-drug-related-fire-incidents/

So selfish and dangerous.
He sounds like a total moronic man child.
Yanbu.

So you think the option of leaving the door unlocked would be better

He only locked you in by the back door, you can access and leave by the front door. It seems perfectly reasonable to me that he would want access to the house. You are being very unsympathetic in my opinion.

Well the OP hasn't said she was unable to open the lock - whichever style of lock she has - on her front door.
Therefore she still had a front door to exit from.

Seems a bit of a strong reaction, as sickness bugs can be terribly painful and make you feel really unwell and not yourself, so I can understand making a mistake in this instance. And in a way he was being thoughtful isolating himself from the family so that you didn't catch it.

However, the general thoughtlessness you speak of may well be a problem, and obviously I can't comment on that as you haven't detailed it. But it does sound like you have reached a tipping point maybe?

You were not unreasonable to be cross but come on dont you or daughter have a spare key? That is unreasonable.

I don’t get it. If there’s only one set of keys how did he get in? Or was it open. Was your expectation that the back door would stay unlocked all night?

Why isn’t there more keys if it’s your only way in/out?