AIBU to be angry he locked us in while ill?

[BeDandyFawn]

My husband has been away with work this week, he called me from the airport to say he was feeling unwell with a bug, he had fever, chills, upset stomach, headache and said he might even go straight to a hotel when he lands instead of driving the 40 mins home.
When he landed I got a text to say that he will stay in our self contained unit which we are very lucky to have, it’s right next to the house - bedroom, bathroom, TV, kitchenette.
He asked for the heating to go on, my daughter and I made sure everything was comfortable - we left a huge jug of water, glass, paracetamol and some Dioralyte.
I then went to bed and he then came across to the house - grabbed the kettle and then took the back door keys and locked the door from the outside leaving me, my daughter and her boyfriend locked in the house!!!
I was absolutely furious when I realised he had done this when I came downstairs, I know it sounds utterly pathetic but I do have a real issue that he doesn’t think of others and always prioritises himself. I text him to say how cross I was and he said he’s been vomiting, and poorly throughout the night. He said he locked us in and kept the keys in “incase he needed to access the house in the night because he was poorly”….he’s mid 40’s and has a sickness bug!!
I know this sounds like such a pathetic ramble but I am so cross that he would lock us in, we have a front door but it has steep steps and following a recent operation I can’t use this. I just feel there is no thought for us, he’s sick so everything revolves around him - I feel it’s so selfish, it’s like there is no consideration for others, he gets what he needs but it doesn’t matter about the rest of us.
Am I being unreasonable?

YABU
He’s unwell & you have another door.
Go get another one cut at some point.

Presumably you have a front door as an alternative means of exit?

But going on what others are saying about your situation this is a minor issue alongside some much bigger ones.

I'm confused as to why you only seem to have 1 key for what sounds like the main access door

If the door was locked, how did he get in to get the kettle?

Did you find out he had locked you in before you went to sleep or the following morning?

I think you both might be unreasonable here

Do you only have one door that leads to the outside?

Do you not have spare sets of keys?

Not only was it selfish and inappropriate - it's also a criminal offence!

He prevented you, your daughter and her boyfriend from leaving the house?

What if there had been a fire?

Report him to the police for imprisoning all three of you and for his bullying and coercive behaviour.

What he did is neither normal nor acceptable.

It's criminal and inexcusable - man cold or not

Jeezo. Calm yourself down. There’s a front door.

Presumably you have a front door too? So he hasn’t locked you in the house? 🤔

That she cant use

But the daughter and boyfriend can use these steps, so can easily go and retrieve the back door keys.

Wow...have you been personally victimised by OP's husband or are you like this with everyone?

Agree about extra sets of keys unless the point is DH took both.

I'm not sure what the point of his quarantining was if he is wandering the kitchen though...

You're right, it should be in the OP. But the fact is that this isn't an isolated incident of her husband being thoughtless because he was ill and not thinking straight, it's part of a pattern of much more seriously unpleasant behaviour.

If there'd been a fire they would've used the front door 😳

This

Why is there only one key?

Apart from anything else, being locked in puts you in great danger if there was a fire. We had a serious house fire some years ago and we had serious problems exiting the house because our keys were in a room very close to the source of the fire and full of smoke. We keep a set of keys right next to the front door permanently now because of this, and anyone who moved them would be in serious trouble.

You really have a house with 4 people and an annex

• you have 1 front door with 1 key which your husband had taken away
• you have 1 back door with 1 key which the other 3 people who hadn't gone away were using and sharing the key for
• 1 annex key that was in the house

So when your husband came back sick let him self in with his front door key and picked up the 1 annex key, but also picked up the back door key, he had ALL the keys to the back door, front door and annex?

If so, be like a normal house and have several keys to each door. We have three people, 4 front door keys and 2 back door keys. If not, then why write about being angry about your husband locking you in when he did not?!

You all need keys, being locked in or out of the house is not ok

He should already has a set of keys for the back door, so should have taken the ones in the house! But my DH won’t take the front door keys, I have bought 3 sets, he just won’t take/put on his key ring.

we have a front door but it has steep steps and following a recent operation I can’t use this
So you could have got out in an emergency. You were not locked. What time did he come in the morning so you could use the back door?

If he knowingly locked you inside the house overnight leaving you without an accessible exit in case of fire or other emergency then he is an idiot and YANBU.

If you as a household only have one set of keys and using those keys can leave someone locked inside the house without means of exit then all adults who live in that house without doing something to sort that issue out are idiots.

How come you only have one set of keys for the back door.

I assume daughter and boyfriend could get out of front door

This alone doesn't sound like a remotely big deal to me (also, fucking weird that you don't both have your own key to the front door). But I'm guessing there's a massive dripfeed coming where it transpires that he's also a murderer or something.

Why don’t you have your own keys?!

See the other thread.

the OP is living with a horrible abusive alcoholic.

OP so sorry you were locked in its been done to me over the years and it’s demoralising and stressful. Please OP once you are better leave this appalling man.