AIBU to expect my husband to buy lubricant for sex?

[Orangeducks]

For years me and my husband have used lubricant in sex because otherwise I bleed/ it chafes and isn't that comfortable. The bottle ran out about a month ago and I asked him to buy more (I know I could buy it but im a teacher and terrified a student/parent will spot me buying it). Its always been him that buys it. He just keeps forgetting and the last couple of times we've had sex without it but I bleed and its become like a joke that he hasn't bought it. We were about to have sex earlier and I got annoyed that he hadn't bought any yet. I explained that I play my part in our sex life by going to the pharmacy every 3 months and getting my blood pressure checked etc to get the pill and put artificial hormones in my body every day (he refuses to get the snip though were definitely done with kids) as well as all the other stuff that women accept comes with sex (I get thrush fairly frequently) and that I felt it wasn't much to ask that he picked up a bottle of lube. I am almost always with the children (they attend my school) as well so any time I'm shopping, they're with me. He works away 3 days a week so has a lot more time alone and I am very rarely out of the house with out my kids and don't fancy going to the lube aisle with them! He's just stormed out and said I could buy it and now is sulking.
AIBU to make it his responsibility to buy it?

Quite. It’s not that she couldn’t buy it - eg: online chemist if she can’t use Amazon. But why should she - he puts in zero effort and leaves it all to her.

don't buy it from amazon. There are literally THOUSANDS of online suppliers.

Get your own amazon account?

Order your groceries online from Tesco and put a couple of bottles on the order?

I totally get it OP. I have a similar issue and I just refused to have sex until my DH took some responsibility for our sex life. When he was slightly inconvenienced by no sex he stepped up

Just order it online.

I'm horrified that he was willing to have sex with you when you were going to be in pain once let alone making you bleed more than once. I wouldn't stay with such a man.

Can you not get it added to your prescriptions? Schlip, schlap schlop as they say.

I also think that someone who regards something for your body as too much trouble to purchase is probably bad in bed and preoccupied with his own pleasure.

Amazon

Won't help the immediate issue but have you thought about female sterilisation?

Your poor husband if you make a fuss about this, it’s you with the issue just buy it there are plenty of online companies.

You're both behaving like children.

YABU
HIBU

In the time you took to write this, or the time it took you both to have the argument, you could have had it shipped from the supermarket or online.

Why not just make life simple (facepalm emoji)

I sometimes order mine, and I have craftily put it in a food shop without them seeing. It’s not embarrassing at all and when my dd was having some issues she knew to come to me which she did I suggested lube.
the bigger picture is it’s all you’ve asked him to do as you are doing other things so I think your right to be annoyed with him but not to be embarrassed buying it

Why is it embarrassing to buy lube?

Sorry but Yabu - your reasoning for not buying it is nonsense. It’s up to you die on a hill for something you could solve - assuming you want to have sex- or just buy some lube. While your DH is being an idiot this is easily solvable by you and I’m guessing there might be other areas in your relationship you should be concentrating on which are easily solvable by you on your own.

Firstly get your own Amazon account. Who only has one account between them and their partner? Never mind sharing it with their mum!

I genuinely think it's on you to buy it, to be honest. You're dry, you need lube. Just order some! Doesn't even have to be Amazon. eBay, or another online shop, anywhere. I bet you could even get some from the supermarket on a delivery (though even I would have to order a few things so it wouldn't be just that, and I normally don't get embarrassed haha).

ffs order online if you don't want someone to see you buy it!!

This x100.

What the actual fuck? I can confidently say that my husband wouldn't entertain the idea of having sex when he knows it's going to hurt me. It would put him right off.

I hope he's not this irredeemably selfish in all areas of life, OP.

Stand your ground and tell him no sex until he buys some fucking lube (and shows he is capable of executing this one tiny task like an adult while you take care of everything else).

loads of couples (and others) share an account to avoid paying twice for Prime.

It’s so easy to buy eg at boots and just do self service. Nothing embarrassing about it all. Buy some sanitary products, shampoo if you feel a bit embarrassed. My Durex Guarana could look like shower gel if you didn’t look properly. It’s actually I think a dildo substitute.

Seeing your update why can’t your DH buy it? He could create a love honey/ann summers account or Boots account and do it that way online.

Use one of the online chemists, or Superdrug / Boots. It’s no big deal. The online chemists are brilliant in this age of never getting bloody GP appointment, and local chemists closing down.

I’d be more concerned about his horrid attitude, to be honest.

Wow.

If neither of you have the maturity to buy lube in a shop, one of you puts all the responsibility on the other to ensure no further children, and you can't communicate (you keep having painful sex you don't enjoy!)...

Are you even mature enough to be HAVING sex?

You both need to grow the fuck up.

@Orangeducks - i’m with you on this: you take responsibility for so much to do with your sex life. Your DH should do this. It’s about sharing the burden of responsibility a bit. He needs to experience some consequences. I would strongly suggest saying no more sex until this is sorted.