AIBU to expect my husband to buy lubricant for sex?

[Orangeducks]

For years me and my husband have used lubricant in sex because otherwise I bleed/ it chafes and isn't that comfortable. The bottle ran out about a month ago and I asked him to buy more (I know I could buy it but im a teacher and terrified a student/parent will spot me buying it). Its always been him that buys it. He just keeps forgetting and the last couple of times we've had sex without it but I bleed and its become like a joke that he hasn't bought it. We were about to have sex earlier and I got annoyed that he hadn't bought any yet. I explained that I play my part in our sex life by going to the pharmacy every 3 months and getting my blood pressure checked etc to get the pill and put artificial hormones in my body every day (he refuses to get the snip though were definitely done with kids) as well as all the other stuff that women accept comes with sex (I get thrush fairly frequently) and that I felt it wasn't much to ask that he picked up a bottle of lube. I am almost always with the children (they attend my school) as well so any time I'm shopping, they're with me. He works away 3 days a week so has a lot more time alone and I am very rarely out of the house with out my kids and don't fancy going to the lube aisle with them! He's just stormed out and said I could buy it and now is sulking.
AIBU to make it his responsibility to buy it?

No more sex until he buys some. Problem solved!

I'd be more worried about bleeding from having sex tbh. You need to see your GP about that and numerous thrush too. I'd be saying no lube no sex but then I'd have picked up some KY gel with my shopping.

You both sound like petulant children.

I'm 75 and just throw it in the shopping cart . Who cares ? Certainly not the teenager who helped me find it in a different supermarket to where I normally shop and didn't even blink .

I don't think the issue here is whether you COULD buy lube yourself, it's why is he making such a fuss about buying it when he's been doing so voluntarily, regularly, and routinely for years? And why won't he tell you the reason? This in particular: He's just stormed out and said I could buy it and now is sulking is a bit of a red flag. As is, of course, I play my part in our sex life by going to the pharmacy every 3 months and getting my blood pressure checked etc to get the pill and put artificial hormones in my body every day (he refuses to get the snip though were definitely done with kids).

I'd be having a serious, non-sexy conversation with this bloke once he's calmed down, because you're right: whoever buys the lube this time and how and why, there's a much bigger issue here and if it's making you this unhappy, someone who is SUPPOSED to be your partner and care about your health and well-being should be making the time to discuss the matter and LISTEN to you, not just huff off when things don't go exactly his way.

(AIBU typically brings out the edgy contrarians, and unfortunately some of those come with a heaping serving of misogyny, internalised or otherwise. You do sort of have to triage the replies to filter out the performative aggression and get to advice that's useful for your situation - I hope you found some!)

They would, and her own children would, but that's not really the point, to me anyway (because as others have said, you could set up your own online account). It's the fact it is all on you, and he sulks.
And I would consider seeing a GP, OP, if you bleed, Might be nothing, but even so, better to check, and more to the point, the GP could maybe recommend something better to help.

and he gets to just turn up and have sex

Not without your permission. Why not refuse to have sex until he buys lube? Something tells me he'll quickly stop forgetting.

Am sure you could make your own Amazon account.

This is bonkers.

First I read a thread about a woman who was afraid to be on a train for ten minutes by herself, now this. You could have ordered online in less than one minute.

If your husband asked you to do a small, easy, simple thing that would make him feel more comfortable and enjoy sex more, would you do it?

I bet you would. I bet you'd make it a priority.

Maybe ask yourself why your comfort and pleasure aren't a priority for your husband.

Hey all, just on the thrush thing - I have spent years treating myself for recurrent thrush. Doctors aware of it but just prescribed canestan or diflucan. A couple of years ago I was getting a smear and mentioned it - the nurse suggested bringing in a urine sample. Turns out I had type 2 diabetes. Since then I've been on Metformin and limiting my dietary sugar and have never had thrush since. So it could be worth finding out if you're diabetic or prediabetic.

Nope, this is anxiety. Probably more common than you think. Sometimes my wife would get anxious waiting in a supermarket queue. You are lucky you don't suffer from it.

What lube are you using? If I was getting thrush all the time I would be looking at the lube as the culprit.
Use a vaginal moisturiser instead or ask about oestrogen cream, this really needs sorted because a bleeding vagina is not normal