Can i actually be charged for this ??

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My mother (I’ve been NC for years she has instructed DB to tell me) has informed me that when she dies

1. I will receive no inheritance (sister gets the house DB gets the money)
2. I will be expected to help clear the house for my sister to move in and if I don’t I will be charged a clearance / skip fee!

There’s no obligation for me to do this and they can’t charge me? Apparently if I refuse they’ll say it’s my stuff so I’m liable ???

She could technically leave the money to your DB, the house to DS and the contents of the house to you.

However, you do not have to accept something left to you in a will if you don’t want it. Just decline any inheritance left to you and then you don’t have to deal with any of it. You can’t be charged for the skip fee against your will.

If your DB thinks it’s acceptable to pass on such nonsense to you (instead of putting his pathetic mother straight) then I think you should also cut contact with him and be done with the lot of them.

Nothing. Anything that was there was got rid of years ago as she told me all the school photos etc etc were gone

Great you have the texts as proof.

She’s just being a bitch and using it as a way to inform you of the shit she wants to say.

i would say your DB knows this too and they are all scheming to stop you contesting.

Mind games. Tell your brother to pack it in or you’ll cut him out of your life too.

Just stop entertaining your brother.

Tell him you're not interested. If he wants to tell you when she's died after 48 hours then fine, but otherwise you don't want to hear about her.

If you're named as an executor in the will, you can recuse yourself immediately. If you're named as a beneficiary, you can disclaim the inheritance. There is nothing you need to be concerned about.

Stop worrying about it and stop allowing yourself to get dragged in. They cannot get at you this way.

I’d just tell him you’re not interested in being informed when she dies so they can wait 48 years if they want 🤷🏻‍♀️. You’re under no obligation to do anything but I would absolutely keep any conversations like this in writing/text/email and then tuck them safely away. I’m so glad you’re NC, they are toxic and just want a reaction from you, don’t rise to it.

Thankyou. I think I was just worried I’d get a big bill I would be liable for as the final insult from her.

There is no way they can legally impose a bill on you. That's not to say they might try, but you can safely tell them to go and swivel.

I would make it clear to him that there is no legal basis for any charge and you will not be paying it or discussing it any further. The obligations sit with the estate.

People can write what they want in documents including legal documents but that doesn’t make them automatically legally enforceable.

I could write in a legal document that you are liable for my council tax and send you the bill. None of that would be legally enforceable unless you had agreed to pay.

They are talking actual bollocks. Ignore them.
Sorry your family are so awful .

Noone has to accept a gift left in a will. If the OP doesn't want the items, they can refuse them. They'll then fall into the residue of the estate to be disposed of by the executor.

I’d be telling your sister (after the death) “It’s your house - you don’t want the contents - you get rid of them!”
Or even “ How can I possibly go into your property and remove everything?” (Classic MN head tilt, tinkly laugh.)

There’s good advice in this thread but if you’re really worried, book a 30 minute free appointment with a solicitor. Not all do them but you can find the ones who do easily enough online. Write down a short statement before you have the call so you can maximise your time and you have all the relevant information to hand.

In your shoes, the only way I’d be paying for a skip would be if I could chuck her in it!

There is a principle in English law that the dead cannot control the living. So no, try as she might, your dead mother cannot control anyone or anything from beyond the grave. If she leaves all her stuff to you in her will then the executors will have to pay for it to be cleared out of the estate if you don't claim it.

You don't have to accept an inheritance - and the items could be yours but not the costs to provide them to you - those would come from her estate. Ignore your vindictive mother - her threats are meaningless.

I am, thank you.❤️❤️

I have a lovely husband, child, friends, and a (not perfect, but tried) step dad who was in my life from being little.

It really was spiteful though, and shook me to my core (there is nothing to make you feel as unlovable as a parent who doesn't love you), even 20 years later feels like an enormous injustice.

Whoever Is getting the house will be responsible for clearing it out. Just ignore the last barbs of a desperate woman.

No, OP, your family is just being particularly spiteful, from the sounds of it. You will not be charged a clearance fee. No one else can make you financially liable for anything to do with the death or home clearance or sale.

Also, this 48hr rule is total rubbish. There are obviously things that must be done after a death, but there's no such thing as a 48hr time limit on any of them. Again, it's just them being spiteful. I'm sorry.

You could also contest the will, after your mother's death, if you wish.

If she’s not left you anything or the house even part of it then how can anyone bill you for a clean? Your name won’t be on anything. You have no tie to the house

Of course not. Unless you hire a skip, the skip hire company has no contract with you.

I might be tempted to message that you don't want to be informed when she dies at all. It's of no interest to you whatsoever. I hate nasty people who try to hurt people even after they've gone.

You have no oblogation to.pay but in the circumstances, I'd wind them up and watch them go by contesting the will. Your third in lieu of the love and care they had.

She sounds like a nasty bitchy. Sorry op 💞 I think she is full of shit

Yes you could get a solicitor to write a letter stating the law around this..