Can i actually be charged for this ??

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My mother (I’ve been NC for years she has instructed DB to tell me) has informed me that when she dies

1. I will receive no inheritance (sister gets the house DB gets the money)
2. I will be expected to help clear the house for my sister to move in and if I don’t I will be charged a clearance / skip fee!

There’s no obligation for me to do this and they can’t charge me? Apparently if I refuse they’ll say it’s my stuff so I’m liable ???

If it’s not your property then you have no legal obligation whatsoever. None. Just be aware if there was anything like - I don’t know, mementos of yours from school - then it will all be binned and you’ll have absolutely no come back.

Assuming you’re not storing furniture or anything there now, you don’t own anything so it’s not your responsibility. If you inherit NOTHING under the will, again no legal responsibility at all.

your mum can write what she likes in the will but she can’t create a legal obligation (ie liability for clearance fees) when there is none.

this scenario didn’t come up in my wills and trusts paper at law school but I’m pretty confident you’re fine here.

If they try that then you can disclaim the inheritance, which means the chattels will then go to the other beneficiaries.

You can't be forced to inherit.

It does confuse me why he’s notified me a few times that she’s been in hospital and now that she’s home he can tell me and then this strange 48 hour delay there will apparently be when she dies before I’m told. I wanted to say to him it’s irrelevant considering she’s been dead to me a lot longer .

I’d reply stating that to your knowledge you don’t have anything in the house and anything they believe to be yours you rescinded ownership of when you left the properly on X date, therefore it belongs to them. You also do not require notification that your abuser has died. Any further contact will be viewed as harassment.

They are all talking rubbish - literally. Just ignore the whole thing. House clearance fees come out of the estate of the person who has died, before the proceeds of the estate are distributed among the beneficiaries. You aren't even going to be a beneficiary so they can jog on.

Are there things in her house that belong to you? Just thinking my DS still has stuff in my attic and my parents spare room so it is your things they're expecting you to sort out?

You can disclaim an inheritance and you can refuse to be an executor if she's named you as one in her wilĺ.

She already disposed of that years ago plus any childhood photos etc of me I was told at the time

Surely whoever orders the skip pays ? As for helping clear the house I'd either tell to fuck off or develop a bad back,dodgy shoulder or infectious disease 🤔 You have no legal obligation to cover any of your mothers costs .

My father disinherited me, left his estate to my sibling, and made me the executor of his Will.

And I did end up paying for some clearance as sibling refused to release money from the estate to do so.

I, young and foolish, just did it, because it felt like "the right thing".

Now, decades later, I wish I hadn't. There is no legal responsibility to be the executor, you can say no. I wish I had.

And no, my sibling (strained relationship at the time) didn't "see me right", they have the whole inheritance.

It was the final act of spite of an abusive parent. You can opt out.

I also recommend you contest the Will (when the time comes), I didn't, but many people who know about these types of things have told me I should have.

It's pure and simple vindictive spite OP.

How on earth could they have any legal grounds for carrying this out

Beggars belief the length families will go to in order to cause hurt

I'm really sorry OP that your family are such a nest of vipers.

I would ignore ignore ignore. And tell your DB not to pass on any "messages" from your mother (not fair on him either to make him the middleman).

Clearance costs will be paid by the estate. There is no way your mother can randomly decide that you are responsible for them. Unless they are your items belonging to you that are still left in the house, in which case I'd suggest that you might want to remove them asap.

Presumably your brother told you in the phone? Or do you have a message and therefore written evidence of their plan?

I voted YABU for even thinking that this could be a thing. Even if everything in the house belonged to you, no-one could "charge you" for taking it away.

Mixture as he felt the need to reiterate some things by text after the call and the times he’s let me know she’s been in hospital then home have been by text

Not much leaves me shocked but this actually does. I can’t believe that your dad was that nasty or that your sibling went along with it. I hope you are surrounded by much nicer people now.

I wouldn’t contest it as we are in England and also i don’t want anything.

No. You can refuse an inheritance if you don't want to receive it. You can disclaim it and there is something called a Deed of Variation in which you can sign your inheritance over to someone else.

They are talking rubbish. If you are not a beneficiary or executor it's nothing to do with you. Ignore them. Any money spent on clearing a house is taken from the estate. You have nothing to worry about

No, she's full of shit. Don't worry.

Are some of your belongings at your mother’s house? If so, do you want them?

Shes trying to hurt you/ get you back into the family I guess? Maybe to make you "feel bad " and go back to how it was with contact?

If you are staying NC then ignore it all its all petty nonsense on their part in my opinion.

Obviously OP from what you have written it is just another opportunity to abuse you.
Tell your siblings you do not wish to hear anything further about this.
I would call Citizens advice and ask for advice, perhaps 101 too and log the threats against you.
You can always tell your brother you have logged your mothers threats.
Clearly she is a vile old woman who knows she has zero power against you now and her actions are the desperation of a dying wasp.

Make a few phonecalls to put your mind at rest.
Perhaps make a statement to police about her abuse at the same time as you speak to them about the abuse.

OP, don't worry. Clearance costs are a cost of the estate. The fees will be paid from the estate, effectively from the 'residue'. So it will be the sibling that inherits the cash that will effectively have their inheritance reduced. Your mum (or your siblings) can't just impose a liability on to you.