Can i actually be charged for this ??

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My mother (I’ve been NC for years she has instructed DB to tell me) has informed me that when she dies

1. I will receive no inheritance (sister gets the house DB gets the money)
2. I will be expected to help clear the house for my sister to move in and if I don’t I will be charged a clearance / skip fee!

There’s no obligation for me to do this and they can’t charge me? Apparently if I refuse they’ll say it’s my stuff so I’m liable ???

They sound awful, I really hope youve got support with this/ can get some therapy. Sounds like they want to extra nasty for the sake of it, and thats an awful weight for you to carry. I hope youre OK.

Wow they sound awful!! Im sorry 😣 I would tell them to tell the police to contact you when she eventually passes and block them all on phone and all social media. I don’t know the legal side of things, but surely they can’t charge you for items being removed from her house, unless you are also an owner of the house?

No advice, just think it's very sad :(

By any chance is she not your actual Mother as it seems extreme that abuse would only happen to one child in a family and not to the others. Just walk away and block your siblings as they do not seem to have your best interests at heart in any case.

They have no legal means to do this.

Honestly, id let them waste money trying to sue you. They'd get nowhere.

If i was one of the siblings due to inherit I would automatically share it with the one excluded from the will.
I would rather have my siblings in my life than money in the bank

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Imagine moving to Dubai not knowing its location?! I suggest you do some more research

The will shows she left you nothing. Nothing in the house is yours, unless there is stuff from childhood. If you collect that, your duty is done. They cannot chase you for clearance fees.

I’d be wondering if there is a whole load of rubbish they don’t want to have to pay for removal and your poisonous DM has stated
in her will “the remainder is left to……(OP) “ in order to stop this house clearance cost being paid out of the estate thereby reducing the inheritance to your siblings.

I think OP might need a signed statement that OP is renouncing all claims on the Estate and drawn up and witnessed by a solicitor sent to the executors and keep a valid copy secure for OPs lifetime

Certainly twisting the knife aren’t they?

Think what you like.

I know where I worked. With which solicitors and for how long.

I worked with Legal executives and Solicitors. Wills, Probate and Ep's with a smidge of family law when other secs where off ill.

I know exactly what I am on about. I did it a long time. I can give you the DX number if you'd like. I remember it still.

Someone died in my family and a relative cleaned up the house.
They then submitted an invoice to the estate for the hours spent cleaning.
Maybe suggest that to your family?
Obvs walking away is better option.

I mean, based on what she’s reporting the mother is saying, I’m not sure she’d need many more reasons for them to be estranged.

OP, I would just ignore any communications from them.

You know if you contest her will (which your entitled to do as her daughter in the UK) a judge (who will not care about petty family dramas) will very likely split her assets three ways if there are three siblings - simple as that. They're not bothered. So I'd get your siblings to maybe relay that if she doesn't want her house sold and a third of it to go to you, maybe she should lay off the threats?

Right I said that. She can refuse the inheritance and the costs would fall back on the estate. Or she can accept the inheritance but THEN she'd have to pay disposal costs. Sorry if that wasn't clear.

If I were you I would consult a lawyer just to put your mind at rest , and then you would have legal answers. What is common sense in life is not always legal common sense.

What?

I would absolutely send a cease and desist letter to your mother stating that none of the items in her property are yours and to not contact you directly or indirectly (ie through family) in the future or you will consider it harassment. Get the final say and good luck to you, she sounds spiteful and horrible,

There's no need to waste the OP's money or a solicitor's time. They are talking complete nonsense. Just ignore it.

I think, but not 100% sure, that these things are the executors job, not your responsibility or for you to foot any bills.
Check with a solicitor, or citizens advice, sounds like your DB is trying to make a point by telling you, im so sorry you're in this situation.

Its too ridiculous. Get a fixed fee solicitor appt and get advice on preventing them contacting you in any way shape or form. Its pure spite and goading. Sad but nip it in the bud and send a clear message you have nothing to say to them and you are not interested in anything they have to say. Unfortunately a lot of families have venomous members. Cut them out your life and give yourself a chance of a happy life without these death eaters circulating round you trying to threaten you and bring you down.

I wouldn’t. How can someone compel anyone to pay for a house clearance? I can’t just put your name in my will and say when I’m dead you have to pay my bills.

I agree with telling your brother that you aren’t interested in your mother’s bollocks.

I've never employed a clearance company or hired a skip. Would either type of firm really provide services to any of the OP's siblings without payment upfront, on the understanding that a OP, a different family member they'd never spoken to, would pay the bill? Nah. Surely they'll give OP's siblings a quote and tell them that if OP is paying, then OP needs to make the booking.

Even if the OP was legally required to accept and remove any bequest made to her, which she is not, what company is going to provide goods and services to people A and B on the basis that person C will eventually be legally forced to pay for the services? The company would simply give the whole job a swerve.

Don’t worry OP as you will not receive a bill. Just stay well away from the house. The estate is gifted to them, and they are taking the P to expect you to help when nothing is left to you. Just ignore this empty threat OP.

I would be telling all family not to bother informing me at all when mother passes and definitely not to be looking for a handout towards the funeral costs!