90 year old male watching naked women on tv

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My cousin told me that her 90yo dad watches 'Babestation' (ugh, makes me feel queasy just typing that word).
He asked her to fix his phone at the weekend and she saw he had 572 you tube videos on it, some thumbnail stills showing close ups of young women's crotches (clothed).
She was upset and said she couldn't believe that a man of his age was looking at stuff like that. She also told me (which I didn't know before) that in the 60s/70s he used to go to the pub on work lunch times and Sunday afternoons to watch strippers.
I said I agree that it's gross, but try not to judge him, but she wasn't happy with me about that and she left. She hasn't returned my text messages since then.
I am going to give her a few days to process what's happened, then try to contact her again.
But AIBU to also be grossed out by the thought of my aged uncle perving over young women?

What age would he have to be for you not to be "grossed out"?

Why shouldn't he look? That's why it's out there. Not my thing but plenty of people do look. Not like he's perving on people in real life.

Would you be equally grossed out if he was in his 30s?

Men like naked women. That doesn't change just because they're in their 90s.

It’s exactly as disgusting as a man of any other age looking at it.

Fair point, all male perving makes me feel uncomfortable, but for me it's because I've grown up with my uncle being reasonably close family and the thought that he was going to watch strippers as a leisure activity when he had a young family of five girls at home makes me sick.

For what it's worth, I wouldn't like this in a young man or an old man. Age has nothing to do with it.

Not sure if this is helpful, but we live on a lovely street and one of our neighbours is very elderly but lives alone. He is 93 and is out and about most days, pleasant to talk to etc. The thing is, he watches porn or babeststion type tv late at night and leaves his curtains open (his bedroom is at the front) A few us neighbours have noticed this especially those of us with dogs whom we walk into the woods in front of our houses late at night for bedtime walkies. He appears to be naked as well but I’ve only seen his top half off whilst watching this.

creepy young men just grow into creepy old men I think.

It’s the age difference that’s grim.

Is it only young good looking folk who are allowed like looking at naked women?

My SIL found porn on my FIL's tablet, he doesn't understand how to close the browsers. My FIL is 77, and yes she was grossed out. No, she didn't say anything to him. What was she meant to say and even if she did say something, how much notice of her would he have taken? None at all.

I can completely understand why your cousin is upset. It makes a person realise that our parents are more than just our parents and have sexual feelings. I guess most of us tend to think that elderly people, no longer have sexual feelings after a certain age, but that's not the case.

I'd leave her to process. It's entirely up to her if she feels she needs to say something to him. However, she needs to think about what it's likely to achieve? He's probably not going to stop or feel ashamed of being caught, so it may not achieve anything.

Point him at the Babestation channel with 90 year olds on it and maybe he'll watch that instead.

Yes, even more grim when it’s someone you know, especially family.

It's no grosser than anyone of any other age wanking off to semi clothed women. It doesn't sound like he's even looking at actual sex, full nudes etc? Even if he is it's private.

People are allowed to masturbate and she shouldn't have snooped her elderly uncles phone.

Unless he was showing her dirty pics, saying dirty things to her, touching her etc in which case she should tell the police.

If you object to porn that's fine but the only person you can really tell to not use it is your partner. Not some random single 90yo man.

It is grim. And I wouldn’t blame her for judging. Pandering to the sleazy male gaze is the reason this exploitative sexist shit exists.

YABU to tell her she shouldn’t judge.

Yeah, unfortunately, pervy young men become pervy old men. Why did you tell your cousin not to judge? Seems like you’re judging too. (So am I- I have a low opinion of perverts, whatever their age).

I don’t think it’s for others to judge, he’s allowed to have a sex drive, and I’m not sure there is much easily accesssible, age appropriate porn, ie 90 year old women, so if he’s just watching in the privacy of his own home, fair enough,

I think we like to think elderly people don’t have sex drives and that’s often untrue,

I think it’s gross particularly the age gap but people don’t like any criticism of old people on here. And yes 90 is old before people come for me 🙄

But it’s not like he’s by passing the age appropriate porn, I have no idea but I suspect porn is predominantly younger women below the age of 90.

Poor old sod. Give him some better recommendations than Babestation.

Me too. It’s a bit of a shock finding out that dear old Dad is anything but!

But why would he stop beinf dear old dad, he’s single, likely no age appropriate porn available and still has a sex drive. As long as it’s in the privacy of his own home and he’s just watching not out there harassing women I don’t get the issue.

I personally think that though it’s a shock finding this he should be able to do what he likes. It’s not like he’s going out picking up women or prostitutes.

@cinnamontroll "creepy young men just grow into creepy old men I think."

But they aren't creeps or perverts. They're just men. All hetero men like looking at tits and bums and generally when they're attached to younger women. They have done since time began. Women don't half kid themselves about this.

It’s agism.. you mentioned his age, so it’s agism. And it dislike of the use of porn generally.. but if he was 28 you probably wouldn't have mentioned it.

our society is terrified of age. It’s quite bizarre really.

The 'age gap'

Lol, this gets used more and more on here

Is he only allowed to watch porn involving 80 year olds then?

Humans get visually turned on by other humans, men use this method more than women (I would wager), for any mums of sons on this thread, your sons use it too.