90 year old male watching naked women on tv

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My cousin told me that her 90yo dad watches 'Babestation' (ugh, makes me feel queasy just typing that word).
He asked her to fix his phone at the weekend and she saw he had 572 you tube videos on it, some thumbnail stills showing close ups of young women's crotches (clothed).
She was upset and said she couldn't believe that a man of his age was looking at stuff like that. She also told me (which I didn't know before) that in the 60s/70s he used to go to the pub on work lunch times and Sunday afternoons to watch strippers.
I said I agree that it's gross, but try not to judge him, but she wasn't happy with me about that and she left. She hasn't returned my text messages since then.
I am going to give her a few days to process what's happened, then try to contact her again.
But AIBU to also be grossed out by the thought of my aged uncle perving over young women?

They had pics of naked women on the wall where I worked (late 80s). When I told one of the guys I felt uncomfortable, he said they were "just nice to look at" ( shrug). I'm so glad this kind of attitude has changed; on the surface, anyway.

And you know the young women want to do the work and are being paid exactly how?

If Grandma isn't wanking away looking at 18 year old boys then why is it ok for Granddad to do it?

You don't know she's not, or what most people are looking at when they wank. There's a lot of assumptions on here and all it shows it that different people have different takes so one person's over-sexualised is another's perfectly normal. No one's advocating for anything illegal or coercive, so to leap from the OP situation to rape and abuse feels way OTT. The only real issue was that someone saw it who shouldn't have seen it. Which I'd file under unfortunate and try to move on,

I’d be grossed out if I stumbled across my dad’s wank fodder tbf. It’s not an age thing imo. For balance, I’m sure my dad doesn’t want to think about any of his offspring rubbing one out either. I don’t want to think or know about other people I know and what they get off to or with.

That's not happening on Babestation.

It's a legal channel provided on Sky, Virgin etc where clothed girls with their cleavage out jiggle around saying pay and you'll see more.

When any man, or anyone at all tbh knows you can access free hardcore porn online.

Babestation is actually the channel for men who don't want to access porn or don't want to but would like to see some cleavage and bums in hot pants and girls pretending they'll do more if you pay.

The 90 year old has been looking at cleavage, not porn.

Crotches of any age are not a pretty sight!

Absolutely.

I find it shocking now that I grew up in an era where buying peanuts in a pub revealed a topless woman.

Or that page 3 existed.

But I alsovdon't think that means a man who likes looking at womens naked bodies is a pervert.

Yeah-you keep believing that. They’re all paying their way through university, right?

Your post makes no sense whatsoever.

Can you clarify?

I don’t think it’s his age that’s bothering you, it’s because he’s a relative. My dad is 62 and if I knew he watched porn I’d hate it. One of my colleagues and good friends is a 58 year old male (so similar age to my dad, is my point) and I wouldn’t care less if I knew he watched it.

Despite their age, men are men! Am sure some older ladies like to watch porn too!

This reminds me of the time I helped my 80+ year old dad learn how to use his new laptop. We were hundreds of miles apart so we use TeamViewer which enabled me to control his laptop with his permission. So, for example, he'd be able to watch the mouse clicks used to open an email and then try it for himself until he got the hang of it. The same with using the Internet and searching for things. Anyway, we had just finished an Internet session and said goodbye. I left to pop the kettle on and then returned to make sure I'd properly closed the TeamViewer session - I hadn't and spent a few seconds watching my dad carry out a very specific search for hard core porn. Not what I expected at all.

There are a lot of myths people tell themselves to make it OK to use women for sex.

I don't know the average age of a woman on babestation but I'm guessing twenties and thirties, some might only be 18. I do think it's odd for a 90 year old to be looking at that. I'm 30 something and would see an 18 year old man as a child now, certainly wouldn't sleep with one.

Sexual urges don’t stop with old age.

Or daughters.

Babestation is actually quite tame in the world of porn. It wouldn’t bother me. I often care for elderly men and women and they do have sexual feelings just like younger people. Just because the old man masturbates while thinking of beautiful women - well, it’s actually normal, not perverse.

I judge all men who look at porn, young or old. It’s grotesque.

and before someone comes on and talks about ethical porn about 99.99% of porn is not so don’t bother.

Oh get over yourself.

If the 90 year old was using Babestation for sexual gratification then it's literally all that I said.

A legal channel with clothed girls jiggling their cleavage and promising they'll see more if they pay.

Which virtually everyone knows isn't necessary as you can get porn for free online every day of the week.

But you think he's some kind of 90 year old pervert?

When Bridgerton and GOT and its ilk are showing what would have been soft porn years ago?

When women of all ages are getting the fanny gallops over full-,frontal cocks and commenting on it all over SM.

Have a word with yourself or at least grow up and get with the times.

People who grew up with smartphones/the internet (those of us who are "older millennials" didn't have these things until we were near adults) apparently are far more likely to watch a lot of porn, men and women. I don't like it, and might get called old-fashioned/prude as I prefer the idea of doing stuff with a real partner you love and respect, not gazing at either men or women as objects. But then, those older than me were more likely to go to strip shows, and I suppose it's no worse for any adult, regardless of age.

I think it's odd a 90 year old man looking at Babestation at cleavage when he could watch Bridgerton, GOT ot the like and see full tits, fannies and cocks - including erect ones getting sucked off.

And see fucking of every possible description on Netflix Sky, Prime etc.

But he's the pervert?

He just didn't know he could get far more explicit and sexual content on mainstream channels where you all tell yourselves it's part of the plot.

Perverts.

I grewup in the 60’s and 70’s.

There was a stripper on every Sunday dinner time at the club over the hill.

why would anyone care?! I feel like I must be out of sync with Mumsnet because I don’t see this as especially pervy / gross / abnormal. My only objections to porn are on aesthetic grounds because it’s generally tacky and doesn’t (to me) seem that erotic. But that’s a taste thing. I also don’t enjoy opera. As long as the women involved are over age, doing whatever they are doing consensually and aren’t being enslaved or trafficked what on earth is the issue?

This!

We're not even choosing to access porn.

What used to be considered porn is entirely mainstream now in popular TV programmes.

But posters are falling over themselves to say a 90 year old is a pervert watching adult consenting women with cleavage.