New boyfriend snapped at me

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Could do with your opinion. FWIW I am happy to be told AIBU. Im just trying to make sure I dont ignore anything important.

I was driving down the motorway with my boyfriend of 3 months. He was driving and I was supposed to be giving directions. We were talking and then he asked whether he should be taking the exit and I kind of hesitated for a few seconds as wasn't sure abd then said yes. He tutted and said for fucks sake and then quickly switched lames to exit

Now totally get why that would be irritating 😅 Its just that I was with my ex for 10 years and for all his faults, I dont think we ever snapped at each other once. We had massive bust ups about the big questions but irritating things like this we were both very generous with each other so im not sure what's normal. But I felt like a child being reprimanded and felt like saying "jesus get over it"

With a navigator like that as a couple their chances of becoming a road traffic accident statistic have hugely increased.

He should bin her.

Dump him, that’s a warning, I am a Liverpool working class scouser and in our 68 years together, I have never spoken to my wife like that, I have far too much respect for her, it’s disgusting and it’s not justified in any shape or form.

Exactly. How could he still respect her when she doesn’t know whether the next exit is their exit or not.
She didn’t know exactly where they were, and she didn’t know what or where the next road transaction was, and she didn’t inform the driver that she didn’t know.

Respect lost. Dump her.

I think he showed you his real self, under pressure, which i would definitely be worried about. Disrespectful at the very least, i personally would tell him how i felt at being spoken to that way, and let him know i don't appreciate it.
Tbh in your shoes i would cool things off, sounds as though he has a short fuse, always dangerous in the male in my experience.

I agree. Her navigation skills would be very off-putting for me early in a relationship. Although I have to wonder why he couldn't navigate for himself. If the car doesn't have a built in sat nav, most of them these days have Apple Car Play or similar. Worst case scenario, use your phone but put it in a holder so it's easy to see while you're driving. What would he have done if he didn't have anyone in the passenger seat?

On second thoughts, maybe they deserve each other!

We've already had two!

Use a satnav, otherwise it's always going to be your fault.
Red flags alway show up over time.
Don't commit too soon. Only time can tell.
Trust your instinct.

Bit of a drip feed there!

he' s hardly an abusive monster for being temporarily irritated and then acknowledging that he was harsh.

Your OP tried to make him look worse than he really was, and he wasn't that bad to begin with!

It's a bit of a non event tbh

I would be wary. See how things pan out.

Oh jings if you think muttering ffs once is harsh, im glad you havent been in a car with me 🙈 i mutter (sometimes exclaim loudly) ffs a lot 😅

Personally i dont think he snapped or was harsh and this is a massive over reaction on your part.

You've got some weird responses on here!

You didn't like how he was with you. That's valid. He apologized without you saying anything. That is promising! I would bring it up one more time and say you didn't say anything at the time, but you want him to know you didn't like it. You're glad he apologized to you and you know it was a stressful situation, but that's not typically how you expect to be spoken to. That way, you've set the boundary clearly and can just carry on as normal unless something else happens.

Same

Who said 'life' partner? You added that bit in. Anyone can call someone who they are seeing on an exclusive basis their partner - whether it's been three minutes, three weeks or three months. Lots of people don't like using gendered terms and some people consider themselves too long in the tooth to have a 'boyfriend' when he's actually a man well past his adolescence!

Either way - absolute jack to do with the whole scenario anyway.

Doesn't partner = life partner? I've never heard anyone refer to someone who they are not in a long term committed relationship with their partner!

No it doesn't - I know lots of people who use the term partner who don't live with their partner, or share finances, etc.

He apologised, it wouldn't be the end for me at this point. If it happened twice more I'd know it was terminal.

I wouldn't necessarily assume if someone talked about their partner that this was someone they shared a house or finances with, but I would assume it was someone they were committed to on a long term basis. Certainly not someone they had only been seeing for a few months.

What's ll this nonsense about men being on their best behaviour? That sounds like they ah e to out in n act as opposed to always being decent men.

Him apologising for swearing is suddenly wrong?

Please don’t make me side with a man. Get over yourself. Fast.

my partner and I always bicker when one of us is driving

You are a sensitive soul. He has apologised, all good.

A long drive can bring out the worst in most of us I think.
I'd like to think I'd be patient and kind in the same scenario but I'd probably "ffs" as well.

Who are these saintly posters here who never swear or turn a hair? Blimey!

Not the case in my circles. Guess that's why it's always good not to assume.

Me too. Dh has learnt how to use Google maps and because his phone is paired with the car radio it comes through there. Usually in good time but he always puts it on if we're going somewhere we've been before when I'm driving and I absolutely hate the thing. I too am old and pride myself on the fact I can actually follow road signs. I don't say anything out loud because he thinks he's being helpful.