First night away with new BF, was he unreasonable

[India87]

As above - would you expect your partner to tell you if they were going to be bringing ‘kink’ items? Or is it appropriate to find out by walking into the bedroom after a bath and finding said items being worn?

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Oh no. I would hate that.

Dump

No thank you. That would put me right off

Nothing sexual should ever be sprung on anyone.

Tbh even if the items were something I liked I'd still be very tempted to end the relationship based on the lack of discussion, and ultimately the lack of consent.

I don’t plan on pursuing things as it stands. Which is annoying as we’ve had a good few months but I feel like I’ve got the ick.

I would expect communication and consent to be paramount in any sexual relationship, and so I would dump him.

Kink items? Depends on the type. If they bought a massive strap on then yes some warning may be needed. If it was some sort of outfit then no

Depends on what it was. A blindfold, fine. Full on gimp suit, yeah I'd like a head's up.

Surely it depends whether said items have been discussed before? And whether the discussion was received positively? If yes and yes then he could legitimately feel it would be a nice surprise. If it’s a no to either question then he was unreasonable.

Performative 🤮

Get rid

I think it all hinges on response of you said not for me

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No things like that should be discussed not surprised with on the night.

Nothing sexual should ever just be sprung on someone. Especially something that isn’t the norm.

Consent and communication is everything.

Wow, how awful. Some men are just gross.

Photo or it didn't happen 🤭

No, it would put me off.

I’d definitely expect a heads up to a gimp suit as above 😂 intrigued as to said wear 🤔

Agree, depends on the kink 🤔

So you’d never spoken about anything like that before so it came as a total surprise?

Kink is fantastic. As long as all parties are consenting (and enthusiastically consenting at that!).

It should never just be sprung on someone without prior discussion.

Did you laugh? 🫣

It really does depend on what it was.

If he was dressed as a schoolgirl, then run.

If he was in Man U pyjamas then .. well also run for even more obvious reasons.

Did he happen to have a couple of cock rings “accidentally” fall out of his pocket, op?