First night away with new BF, was he unreasonable

[India87]

As above - would you expect your partner to tell you if they were going to be bringing ‘kink’ items? Or is it appropriate to find out by walking into the bedroom after a bath and finding said items being worn?

I am exactly the same. Cannot picture this at all and don't want to Google 🤣

I hope I don't ever get divorced because I don't think I'd cut it in today's dating world. 🤪

Who are the 2% of people who think OP is being unreasonable?! Maybe PM her and ask for his number. One of you could be the next in line to sit of the mask

I am so turned off by sub men, and this would be one of the most horrible ways of finding out he's sub. Honestly he'd have a better chance if he sprung the gag and expected me to wear it. I still wouldn't without a conversation to determine limits, safe word and so on, and if I didn't feel that sort of dynamic with him, but it could theoretically work. Walking in on him wearing that stuff and expecting me to go Miss Whiplash on him, ugh, yuck, horrible, no no no.

Oh thank god I’m not the only one 😁. My ex had a high sex drive but neither he nor any of my former bf’s had kinks.

That’s nice dear

Oh grim.

No never done that in my life. 😬

This is not for your benefit it’s for his. I doubt many men would just think up that their girlfriend would like this and surprise her with it. He likes this and is gauging your reaction.

But - but - Monty Python!

And yes to this too.

Like I said, the worst way to find out. Shudder.

Yuk that yum.
Then run.

Why the fuck would he think you would like to be gagged?
Like we don’t know the answer is - he likes women who are gagged, porn addled fuck. Revolting.

Tbh I think people who get the “vibe check” so wrong in this kind of situation are likely into porn in a big way. Any rational person doesn’t just decide to spring this shit on people without notice. Dump and don’t look back.

What a strange response. It’s clear from the OP that this hasn’t been discussed previously, let alone “received positively”. That is the point.

Other way around im afraid. It was him wearing the gag.

He was wearing the mask. It has, er, an external feature, one with a condom on it.
I do not clarify to defend, purely to clarify.

Shame there were no handcuffs. I'd have been tempted to leave the ball gag in place and cuff him to something immovable in the room , then leave......

There should always be a discussion and consent before introducing kink.

Just not having that discussion and his assumptions that it was ok with you and then that all women like the same things as his ex, nope. I'd be out.

I’d tell him to back to her. Did you ask him if he’d washed the mask?

I shouldn’t think he said much at all if it was a gag! 🤣

That's as bad as the gimp mask of not worse.

😂

Mother of God

Fir you or him to wear

Dump. Kinks are fetishes - men are more prone to them but they never augur well for a relationship. Dump now.