First night away with new BF, was he unreasonable

[India87]

As above - would you expect your partner to tell you if they were going to be bringing ‘kink’ items? Or is it appropriate to find out by walking into the bedroom after a bath and finding said items being worn?

I'd leave then and there. Where is the consent in this scenario? Not to mention I am not into kink at all.

It has to depend on how kinky, surely? A feather, fine. The whole chicken....

It was a mask with a sort of gag/toy on it. My reaction was to say WTF rather than laugh at the time.

Like what items???

Particularly like this given your username 😂

What was he wearing? A simple cock ring - no biggie, a full on leather torturers outfit with SS regalia - might need to throw this one back.

Nope. Thats the kind of thing that should be discussed first.

Oh, you have brightened up my day 🤣🤣🤣.. maybe have a long hard think if you want to see him again..A bit of prior warning would have been good but I would also have said wtf..

What did he say???

Snorted at this 😂😂😂😂

Just seen what it was - I’d have run out straight away!

That it was for my benefit and he thought I’d have liked it

You need you give us way more detail!
Did you just find him naked and wearing the mask? Was he lying on the bed aroused?
I think I'd have said WTF too!!
Have either of you mentioned this? It wasn't the first time of having sex was it?
I think he needs to go. Anything even slightly out of the normal, needs to be discussed.

Oh crikey. Yep I would have been wtf

Yes and yes

No not the first time.

Agree! You don’t spring that sort of thing on someone! 😭

As in for you to sit on?

thats unacceptable

Was probably hard to hear him through the gag.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yes, he has been clear that he and his ex were very open with things, and he said after this happened that he needs to try to move on from that mindset and start afresh, which he says is hard because they were together a long time.

Did you make your excuses to go?

God, how repulsive. He’s been living 50 Shades and more in his head and wants to attempt in reality. Vomit. YANBU.

Shame there wasn't hand cuffs.

You could have tied him to the bed and gone home. Ltb.

Oh JFC, no, no no no 🫣
I think I’d have laughed hysterically.

I think this would have frightened me and I would have screamed out loud.

And when he noticed you weren't happy about it he started talking about the sex with his ex. Jikes. No, he has to go OP.