First night away with new BF, was he unreasonable

[India87]

As above - would you expect your partner to tell you if they were going to be bringing ‘kink’ items? Or is it appropriate to find out by walking into the bedroom after a bath and finding said items being worn?

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Jesus fucking Christ I think my life would flash before my eyes! Totally inappropriate to introduce something like that without talking about it first. I’d be out of the relationship.

Not the same but once I got sent a pic ,from a boyfriend I liked and had already been with,of a pair of sheer underpants he wanted to wear!!!I decided to never saw him again after that as I found his kink gross... but I can laugh now

Yes sorry, the problem with commenting on a thread which is moving so quickly. Definitely YANBU (ie the OP) given the new info.

what on earth did he think you were going to do - just come out the bathroom and hop on board?

i don’t really want to ask this but why did it have a condom on it?

I’m so vanilla I don’t understand this 🤦‍♀️

Just when I think I've fucking heard it all...

I would also have said what the fuck and then hot footed it out of there.

On the plus side he's given you a fantastic tale to share with your bestie, you'll laugh about this-I promise.

It implies that the filthy toad hadn't even had the courtesy to buy a new toy, but was using one he'd previously used with a different woman.

Sorry but this actually made me laugh 🤣🤣

Oh for the laugh emoji again

I didn’t even know these masks existed but yes wow I’d totally have the ick! So creepy!

Ok... im going to do it... can you give an example? How "kink" are we talking? Feather tickler or whole chicken?

Though in answer to your Qn id have expected notice before something was presented to me

Apologies, just read more of your comments but cant delete. Yes a fetish mask and "gag" should be discussed - and a new one bought tbh. Id defo have laughed then left. For me nothing is less sexy than the embarrassment of walking into that unexpectedly, I think even if it was my thing id be so startled id have to laugh. He defo should have considered how to introduce this better

Yikes.
Honestly, sometimes think back fondly to the bad old days when women were just expected to be permanently up for a shag instead of now, when blokes expect women to all be mad keen on a wide range of kinks, anal sex, and whatever else they were brought up to regard as basic fornication, after watching porn from a tender age.

It’s your first weekend away together, you came out of the bathroom and he’s wearing some kind of gag mask, with a sex toy attached??? I can’t even….my fanny literally clamped shut at the mere thought of that!
What happened to some champagne and chocolates?
Jesus, I am not sure whether I’d laugh or cry, but I’d definitely get rid! A GAG MASK????

I’m feeling somewhat embarrassed at my naivete. 🫣 I’m also for some reason picturing Alan Partridge sprawled on the bed 😄

I’m sure this will be a funny story one day op but honestly wtf was he thinking? I can’t believe he didn’t gauge your interest in that sort of thing before doing that

This!

That’s even worse!!!

Don't be embarrassed!! Not everyone does face sitting despite what others might believe.
The Alan Partridge vision is most likely spot on tbf!

Yes talk about off with the old, on with the new.

Ha! I like your humour and wise advice. Ditto if it’s arsenal pyjamas he must be a fuckin sicko

It is a red flag. He is far too interested in porn, I surmise. It will only get more extreme I fear. Run.

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Anyone else old enough to be reminded of this?

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