First night away with new BF, was he unreasonable

[India87]

As above - would you expect your partner to tell you if they were going to be bringing ‘kink’ items? Or is it appropriate to find out by walking into the bedroom after a bath and finding said items being worn?

Bloody hell. What, no warning at all? I would run a mile. It should be discussed first.

Oh dear! It's really quite depressing how little (some) men know about how to turn a woman on.
I have no problems with the mask but the suprise element is all wrong!

It depends I suppose. Is it something you both have talked about trying and enjoying together? Was it talked about trying while you were away? If not, then it’s really presumptuous to even expect sex isn’t it? Let alone the type of sex that requires a lot of trust and respect. If you did discuss it in anticipation of the trip then it just is a bit of bad timing maybe. Still would give me the ick I think. Sorry this happened, very disappointing I imagine.

I’m almost tempted to say you are being unreasonable but only because you’re not telling us what kink items he was wearing.

Couldn't really make it out but it sounded a bit like...

"Mmmm bmmmy ffgh ssdd mmm gg Drub cjhgt ssshk. Ghut buby twee?"

You should ask him to take his gag out.

Oh another one who thinks that just because one previous partner liked something all future ones will too!! He should have worked on finding out what you would have enjoyed exploring together. God I hope he bought this mask new!!

She has said what the item was

OP, that is my literal worst nightmare, as I’m terrified of masks. To just spring it on you? Absolute jump-scare and not sexy at all!

And then to try and explain it away with “my ex used to be into it, maybe I need to think differently and see women as individuals” is peak ick.

I'm so sorry xx

Nothing. He had his mouth full.

I think the general consensus is that he was out of order to not discuss it 1st with you,even if you had previously been together.Some kinks are just not sexy and then you go totally off of someone anyway after that.

Oh god, that would completely turn me off and give me the ick. I’d not have wanted sex with him after that.

Honestly this 🤮🤮🤮🤮what a turn off

🤣🤣🤣🤣😆😆😆😆but eugh 🤢🤢🤢

He must think women are a monolith and lovely how he tried to make it a you problem with " well me and the ex were just open about this stuff "
Open doesn't mean surprising your newish partner with kink gear on a random weekend in the hopes she goes along with it because HE has decided you should.

What a grim piece of shit, glad you're chucking this one back, sleazy sod.

Probably something muffled/slightly gaspy

Eww I didn’t even think of that. It had ‘protection’ on it thinking back 😷

Ha, beat me to it 😂

Just goes to show that for some of these idiots it matters not who the woman is, so long as she has a pulse. Girl shaped therefore next girlfriend.

I'd probably laugh, a heck of a lot - at him - for being so utterly presumptuous, then tell him to sod off out of my life.

Nah, deffo a turn off. Sorry OP, a shame.

I’m sorry but I’m howling at this 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 more about his train of thought than anything. He thought he ATE with the idea. How embarrassing!!!

😂

He was wearing nothing but a mask with a dildo for a nose that had a condom on it and he honestly thought you'd like that?

Are you sure this wasn't for a YouTube video / art project?

OP can you laugh about it now,now that you are not in the same room as him?

Ewwwwww it was the same mask he used with his ex wasnt it?

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