Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

[JeffTheSquirrel]

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

I can see why you would want to, I would too, but a measured response is for your DD’s sake. The CF is bloody shameless!

Sorry, @blobby10 , for missing your post about the DDs earlier

This is the most spectacularly CF thing I have EVER read! 🤣

That’s like one of my work emails - not quite the tone we’ve had before.

Umm I don’t know what your meant to say to that!

Hi CF, I was very happy to pay when friend could join the night out, but a friend has agreed to join us instead and I'm assuming you don't expect me to spend even more money to fund you treating your daughter. Hope you have fun, Jeff

Wow.

I like your preferred response. Whilst it would be satisfying to go nuclear at a CF, you make the very sensible point that you don't want to mess up your daughter's friendship.

An alternative could be an obtuse response that means she has to back off or admit her CFery. "Dear CF, as far as I'm aware you didn't transfer any money for the ticket so there is nothing to transfer back. If I'm mistaken please let me know the date of transfer and how much you sent so I can check my bank records and let you know. "

If she persists in insisting that somehow you owe her DD compensation for her disappointment, tell her you're willing to offset it against the charge to her for your daughter's disappointment that her friend could not attend.

I’d assume she mistakenly thinks she bought it, and if not I’d treat her request like that anyway ‘it’s OK Michelle, I bought the ticket, not you’

I think you’re being very grown up about this, but enjoying the venting! Please do update with her response.

This answer is perfectly reasonable Op, however be prepared, she's might be one those DMs who thinks her DD should never be disappointed and who really thinks you should give her £50 to make up for not going. I do hope I'm wrong.

Oh wow!

hi Mary, bit confused as I paid for the tickets (unless I’ve missed a transfer from you? Will check) so don’t think you’re owed anything? I haven’t sold it anyway, Jane is going to come with DD now. Hope that your DD feels better soon.

She's clearly forgotten!!! Her DD and yours are good pals- don't mess with that by sending a shitty message straight off the bat. Start out with something nice, she'll be mortified when she realises she's asked for money she never gave you.

If she doubles down on wanting to be £50 up on this, THEN go to town on her 🤣🤣

Wow, that's next level CF!

omg the balls on her 😂 Following so I can see what she replies haha!

I would simply reply with laughing face emoji. Nothing more

God. I'm embarrassed for her!

Reply as of you think she's joking:

'Ha! Nice one Tracey - yeah, I'll refund what you paid me 🤣
(My child) is sorry that (CFs child) can't make it'

Because surely to god, nobody is ACTUALLY that misguided?

'Hi, what a shame your DD is disappointed. I've given the ticket to another friend so there's no refund, but please let your DD know that I'll be inviting her to another event in future'.

Could her dd have told her she had to pay for it and pocketed the money herself?

I hadn’t told the mum that another friend has taken the ticket and I don’t think DD has mentioned to original invitee (friends are from different friendship groups).

So I assume she thinks I’ve flogged it, and the money is rightfully theirs!

It bloody deserves that tone so she’s crystal clear that sending you an invoice for a ticket she never bought changes your relationship considerably.

"Dear CF,
I'm a little confused - the ticket didn't cost you anything so not sure why I need to refund you? The spare ticket has now been put to use so won't go to waste. Sorry your DD couldn't make it."

I'd send that. It's the best response on this thread. Gets the point across nicely.
Do let us know what she says!

^^ this and then let us know how CF responds

So she thinks that the treat for her daughter was the event or a cash equivalent if she couldn't make it?😂

Nice try!

Ummm.. mate… You don’t pay for it in the first place. I’m not transferring you anything.