Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

[JeffTheSquirrel]

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

Hi CF, the cost of the ticket to you was £0 so there is nothing to reimburse. Get fucked, Jeff.

Perhaps without the get fucked.

This is a good reply. I’d also be tempted to add ‘I’m sorry Ella couldn’t make it but I’m not sure why you think it’s my responsibilty to financially make up for it?’

I really really hope you are going to remind her that she didn't pay anything so there's nothing to refund her.

Unbelievable CFuckery! This is how I'd reply.

Dear friend, as you know, I was very happy to cover the cost of the ticket for your DD when she could go. However, I will now be keeping whatever money I get for selling it on. Best, JeffTS.

I'd email her and say as I'd paid for the ticket , what I do with it is for the benefit of my own dd and someone else is using the ticket and she is inappropriate in her expectation .

The mum hasn't asked for a refund.

What she is saying is 'you offered to treat the child to a £50 treat. She now can't go and you said you can sell the ticket on. So if you give me the £50 I'll arrange a different treat.'

What the mum is missing is you presumably were getting the extra ticket so your own DD could have a friend there, not because you particularly wanted to treat the friend.

I think this is the route I’m going to go down, but I’d absolutely love to let loose on how ridiculous this is! But for good relations (my DD and hers are very good pals) I need some restraint.

And no, to those who asked I definitely didn’t receive any money from her.

I am very much a “get fucked” kinda gal, but I probably need to be a responsible grown up here.

This is so CF it's actually very funny.

I assume that you invited the friend as a treat to her, but really, so that your DD would have a better time with her buddy?! It's hilarious that the mum thinks you were just offering a treat to her dd for the hell of it.

"Hi CF, Mary is going to join us instead. DD is disappointed Fleur can't make it, but I'm pleased that she's still got a friend to go with her. Hope Fleur feels better (or whatever)."

I wouldn't even address the direct "can I have the money" unless you think there's ANY chance that she has misremembered and thinks she paid?

I agree the most likely thing us that the woman believes she’s paid you. Wanting a refund is already a bit much, unless and until you sell the ticket, but that is a different issue.

Here is a suggestion, which the hive mind can improve upon. It is a bit blunt but I am not British.

Hi, CF - No worries, but there may have been a mix up as I paid for DD’s ticket. If you sent me some money that I’m not aware of, could you please let me know?
I hope DD’s surgery goes well (or whatever). Cheers, Jeff.

Assume innocence and give her an easy way to retreat, if only for the sake of your DDs.

That is so funny! Big respect to the other mum for her chutzpah!

This is the first time ever that a mumsnet post has literally made me laugh out loud

Ooh it's been a while since there has been a proper CF thread. YADNBU @JeffTheSquirrel but you do owe it to all humanity to keep the thread updated.

But no pressure, obvs!

Please let us know what she says @JeffTheSquirrel, to see if it gives some insight into what on earth she was thinking (and also because I’m unashamedly nosey 😂).

But it is face saving (for her) to enquire. And people sometimes make mistakes with electronic transfers

How old are your DC @JeffTheSquirrel? Any chance the mum gave her DD the money in cash to pass on but she pocketed it?

i'd go with this.

A great point

Dear CheekyFucker. Your daughter’s attendance on this trip was as an accompanying friend to my daughter, to heighten her enjoyment of this show as a shared experience with a peer. As such, I was prepared to cover the cost of all three tickets which was a total spend of £150 plus associated fees.

When I discussed selling the ticket it was to expunge any guilt you or your daughter may have felt towards the ticket being unused, fortunately the ticket has now been given to an alternative friend and the girls are looking forward to their trip on X date.
I hope that explains the situation more clearly.
Kind regards,
JefftheSquirrel

This is crazy!

Some people are just naturally entitled people. It's so bad it's funny. There's no way she's forgotten she hasn't paid for it either!

That's barny. Unless she has actually paid you (does she have your bank details - if so, check before you reply). Or for some reason thinks she has.

Or could she possibly have been joking, and the joke just didn't land right?

I would say, "You haven't paid me for the ticket I don't think - but please correct me if i'm wrong."

See what she comes back with.

Or maybe there is a new etiquette none of us have heard of, whereby if you cancel on an invitation you've accepted you are entitled to demand the money that the event/outing would have cost your hosts.

I've cancelled quite a few Bumble dates in my time - when on further chatting the guys revealed themselves to be Red Flag Central - am now wondering if it would be fine to contact them all and ask them to transfer the cost of a coffee/zero alcohol lager? If I do then all I might get enough for a nice meal out...... And I deserve a treat just for existing, really!

I would reply “what do you mean? You didnt pay for the ticket i would be £100+ down if I did that. Cheeky fuck.” But im incredibly blunt & dont have time for people like that.

This ☝️ is what I thought too 💯
Did the pal get £50 off her mum to pay for her own ticket and maybe kept the money instead?
This is 💯 taking the piss on all levels.

hopefully that's something like that.

Or it's the most brilliant CF expectation I've read on here 😂

That's some word salad! Satire, I hope.