Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

[JeffTheSquirrel]

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

I wouldnt be able to let this lie 😂

I think I'd be pointing out that as her daughter has let yours down, she should, in fact, be reimbursing you for the ticket.

But that if she'd like to stop embarrassing herself now, you'll be happy to call it quits.

I'm wondering that too. Perhaps there's someone or something else the CF can pursue for 'amends'!

I don't think this can't impact the friendship now as you'll be on edge wondering what stunt this parent will pull next whenever you invite her daughter to an event.

I'd probably respond more honestly and say:

'Honestly, I'm amazed at your attitude and sense of entitlement. We are not responsible for your daughter not being able to come with us to the event, that is entirely your decision. Therefore, we bear no responsibility for the situation whatsoever. I think it's best we leave things there and draw a line under this matter but I'm disappointed to say the least that our attempt to include X has been met with this attitude. I won't be responding further on this matter'.

Then block her until things have calmed down.

Cheeky mare

“I have to say I find your message really inappropriate. I covered the tickets myself, as a treat for my child and so she could bring a friend. Your daughter can’t make it — that’s unfortunate, but it’s certainly not something I need to ‘make amends’ for.“

Part of me would absolutely love to be inside this woman’s head, so I could understand what the hell she was thinking? I literally cannot fathom how she’s reached the conclusion that you owe anyone anything here?
But a bigger part of me would tell her to fuck right off with her entitled bollocks and that part would win I fear…..🤣🤣🤣🤣

This is honestly very strange.

"Listen somewhere we have got wires crossed. I genuinely cannot see where you are coming from. We invited X. She cannot attend. This was not our choice. I won't be sending over compensation money. I'm quite offended at the implication I've done something wrong when we've been generous and obliging."

If I was drunk enough I might be tempted to reply “that is definitely a you problem not a me problem”

If you invited her round for pizza and she couldn’t come, do you have to send pizza to wherever she is. Plus what about all the people she is with then getting jealous of missing out on pizza….

She sounds delusional. You could send her a link to a debt charity and say if she is that desperate for £50 there is help available. Honestly I hope she is deliberately winding you up as that is more understandable than actually believing what she is saying

Why can’t her DD make it? I wonder if there’s some way she’s convinced herself it’s your responsibility.

She’s gone down the victim route. I’d be tempted to match her and say you understand how X feels since X being unable to come has caused your daughter distress. Then ask her how she planned to compensate your daughter for her upset.

What an utter bonkers mum!

What Is wrong with people, honestly, just utter entitled madness 🤣

”I’m sorry, I’m confused as to why you think I need to make amends… it’s not my fault she can no longer make it? I spent £50 on the ticket, for which I will not get my money back. If I also give her the price of the ticket, I’ll be £100 down, through no fault of my own. None of this makes sense, I think you’ve got a bit confused, so I think it’s best we leave it here.”

Don’t block her though - her crazy is keeping so many of us entertained!

I think the ship has long sailed on any hope of maintaining any kind of decent relationship with this woman as the mother of your daughter’s friend. It’s also very unlikely that this won’t affect the girls’ friendship, but that’s probably for the best. Even if the daughter does seem lovely you don’t really want to have to have regular contact with her loony mother.

So you have nothing to lose by showing her this thread. That’s the update I’m waiting to see: (drumroll) Aaaaand the chicken fucker has joined the chat!

‘If you had a spare ticket to the cinema and invited me along, and I couldn’t go, and I asked you to send me the money instead, would you think that was reasonable?’

please just send her a link to this thread.

My reply would be "In my experience when someone changes their RSVP to a planned event because they can no longer attend, it isn't the job of the host to make amends to the guest. I'm very surprised you are used to something different."

What on earth?! There definitely hasn’t been some argument between X and your DD has there? Could X have told her mum she was uninvited?

Her use of the word amends is wrong, you didn't wrong the daughter and so need to make amends. What wierd choice of words.

She really means compensate, as her daughter had expectations of a treat and can't go. As that's not your doing, you don't need to do anything but what you have, this woman is batshit 😆 if she wants to compensate her daughter for disappointment it's on her and her own purse.

WTF is the woman on about?!

Amends for what!? You didn’t uninvite her… this is crazy!

Did anyone go to any of the Taylor Swift Eras tour? I couldn't go and was really gutted so if anyone wants to make amends I can send you my bank details.

I'd be tempted to say '"making amends would make sense if I have cancelled on her or withdraw the offer to come, but that's not the case. If you mean you think I should compensate her for being disappointed to miss out, then that's not for me to do. It was an invite, she can't make it, no problem but I'm not responsible for financial compensation for that"

@FullLondonEye I cant tell you how much I just laughed at "chicken fucker" 😂😂.

I would point out she's asking the wrong person to make amends. If anyone should make amends its the person that has caused the reason X cant go!
Not that I personally believe amends needs to be made.

You can't reason with this level of delusion

‘LOL’

You win the internet today.