Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

[JeffTheSquirrel]

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

Reply: "again, I'm really confused. We offered her the ticket, she accepted then later said she couldn't make it and pulled out. I'm not sure how her declining the invitation is my fault?"

She wants compensation because her daughter is upset that can't attend an event you invited her to and paid for?

I must be soft in the head; I'd be offering you the money for the ticket as I've let you down.

“So your daughter can’t make an event I paid for. She was invited as a guest so this does not make the ticket hers. The ticket is mine as I paid for it. No promises of a monetary exchange were ever made in fact no promises were ever made full stop, despite you saying they were. Understandably she’s upset and I feel sorry for her but I must stress I have nothing to ‘make amends’ for. I have not sold the ticket, so I don’t have that £50 back in my purse. We have offered it to another friend who will be coming with us. Perhaps you could therefore ‘make amends’ to your own daughter in these circumstances, rather than unreasonably expecting me to shell out another £50 for no understandable reason”.

TOTAL CF!

This is absolutely nuts and I'd be putting it to bed right now.

Dear CF, it's a real shame DD can't make it and is upset. But except an offer to come to an event with my daughter, which she now can't make, no promises, amends or offences were caused by us. Genuinely hope she feels better soon, but I'm finishing this conversation now as its becoming a bit much. Will hopefully see you both soon.

If the CF has seen the thread, she about to text OP the Traitors spoiler that got leaked.

I must make amends!

This person cannot be real!

Her CF level is off the chart.

What a complete loon. If this ends up in the tabloids I hope she finds out and realises what an absolute twonk she's been.

My reply:

’Eh?! What?! You are aware SHE cancelled, aren’t you? I mean, I appreciate it was for valid reasons but I am truly baffled as to why I should be making amends for something that was instigated by your daughters ‘X’ situation. Please do enlighten me and explain again why it should be on my dollar’

Wow, what a cunt, if my kid had been invited to something then it turned out later they couldn't go, I'd be offering to pay for the ticket so the person who bought it wasn't out of pocket.

I think I would point out that her daughter pulled out (albeit with good reason) and that’s not your fault or something for which you need to make amends. If her daughter is upset about anything, it should be because her mother is batshit and is embarrassing her so badly.

And this would then be a convenient moment to add a link to this thread.

As per other posters, for the first time I’m really hoping the gutter press pick up on this.

I think I’d have to go with “You’re making a bit of a tit of yourself now.”

She's not just a CF, she's the Queen of Entitlement-Ville!

What a ginormous twat!

I'd go with 'If we had rescinded on the invite then maybe we may have felt the need to make amends. It's not actually our fault that your DD can't make it, so we won't be. I'm really struggling to see why you feel we need to make anything up, TBH (and the entirety of Mumsnet think you're a nutter)'

we didn’t recind the invitation, she can’t come through no fault of ours, it’s your job as her Mum to make it up to her, not mine.
Then send a link to a book on resilience, you could buy it if you’re feeling generous. 😂

”I am going to say this very kindly as our daughter’s friendship is important. I do not owe your daughter money because she is upset she can’t attend an event I invited her to. Somehow you’ve got your wires crossed, I paid for 3 tickets and invited X to come along as my daughter’s friend, nothing more. The ticket wasn’t a gift to X and I cannot fathom how you think i should give her money to make up for her disappointment at not being able to come. Also making amends is for when someone has done something wrong, which I haven’t so it’s an odd choice of words. I think there must be some confusion, so let’s leave it there. I hope you have a lovely evening and weekend”

I’m sorry, there’s obviously been some sort of misunderstanding at your end, but there’s really nothing to ‘make amends’ for. The ticket was a gift to my child so she could enjoy the event with a friend. I completely understand plans can change, and we’re sad your DD can’t make it, but I don’t owe any money for that, and I’m quite taken aback you think I do, and would actually ask me for it.

Make amends?! Has there been a falling out you’re not aware of??? This is madness

😁👏🏻

“I think you’re confusing your role with mine”

would be my response.

Can’t believe I am watching this instead of Traitors 😂😂

"It's probably not the right message to your daughter to expect compensation for an event that not only did she not pay for, but also didn't attend".
She's off her rocker!

Don't engage anymore with her. Honestly, she will start messing with your mind.

What was her valid reason for not going?

Why the feck would the mother think you decided to buy her DD a £50 treat? You were treating your own child and part of that was allowing her to invite a friend.

Cf is drunk...only reason for her unhinged responses

If you are going to send anything, copy and paste this in. Get it wrapped up. It's polite, explanatory and final.